How do i cope with a breakup? I loved this girl more than anything in the world..?

I know im in the wrong section, but i need some help coping with this break up! me and my girlfriend of 1 year broke up today. i thought she was the one from day one. Lately she just changed, she wasnt the same person i knew. when i started dating her she was going thru a divorce. and has two children (3 year old and 14 month old). I accepted them like my kids, i did everything for them. i even gave her my car (because her car didnt have AC and needed a lot of work). we lived together for 6 months. we even had plans to get married next year. buy a house and etc. Now feel lost without her by my side. two days agao she said she was going to move in with her parents for a few months and told me she wasnt breaking up with me. and then the next day i saw a text msg she sent to her friend that said. ';im leaving gerald for good this time..he is trying to weisel his way between the kids and me.'; i dont know what she meant?! so i asked her, she just said when she punishes them i become the good guy and make her feel like crap. which i didnt know i was doing. Now she packed up her stuff and left me..i dont know what to do!!!! :-(How do i cope with a breakup? I loved this girl more than anything in the world..?
Look Gerald, women like her at not worth it. That is why she's divorced and tossing a good guy like to the side.





Forget her





Look for someone that will care for you instead of what you give her.


Eastern European women are a good start. They just accept you for you and are very loving, sincere and caring.





My ex-***** dumped me for pathetic reasons and I survived. I found myself a wonderful woman who makes me feel loved, wanted and appreciated in one day than my ex did in the three years we dated.How do i cope with a breakup? I loved this girl more than anything in the world..?
you will live without her, you are not gonna die and not all women are like that. she was just using you, i would use you too.to love you, care for you, take care of you, be there for you and would not cheat on you
You were the rebound guy, it is time to move on.
If that is true , Y do you ask this . You should trust your gf . She looks out for your best interest . If only I were 25
drugs.
There's really no good way to stop hurting but a million ways to move it aside. I suggest you sign up for an exercise class or anything that involves an assortment of people required to do stuff, and that stuff could be anything, you simply need to create and obstacle to obsessing about your loss and it will be difficult but it's an answer and it will help eventually.





As for the problem itself: You are too involved and anything you do at this time will probably be looked at in a negative sense by your ex. The absolute best thing you could do is nothing! Yes, Nothing! If there is e the slightest chance of getting her back, you must move on!! If she sees you being successful and moving on in life, it will be like a hammer pounding down, and you saying: I can move on, I tried to help and you didn't want it, so my life isn't going to end... In fact my life is going to get better. At some point she will consider how you were able to just move on and take care of you, and in her disassociated logic she just might think you were really a good guy and maybe she shouldn't have cut you loose. Look if the text you saw was correct then she isn't being logical. The only way you can win is to show you are what you are, and with out her you will still be what you are and she won't have the benefit of your common sense and will power. In other words; the only chance, is for her to decide she let a good thing go. That won't happen if you are begging and crying about the loss....Good luck and work through it, you will be better in the long run:)
It sounds like you were just stuck in a crappy situation altogether. It's hard for women who have children from a previous relationship to find a balance between starting a new relationship and still being a good mom and focusing on her kids. With kids that young, it's even tougher. I know you got attached to them, and she should be thankful she had someone like you around to help her with them, but it makes it even harder because you are losing three people rather than just one like in a normal breakup. As tough as it is to hear, I think you need to give her some space, some time to think about what she really wants for herself and for her kids. As she already knows, men may come and go in her life whether she expects it or not, but her kids are always going to be the constant, and she's going to be the constant for them. If what she said in the text is true, maybe she feels like she'll always be the bad guy, and her kids will never really respect their biological parents.





Like I said, it's tough, but you have to give her time to figure things out. Even though you've been there and gotten attached to the kids, they are her kids, and she's the one who has to be responsible for the people they will become. Try to take some time for yourself. Don't give up on her, but don't cling to her either. Hope this helps.