Why doesn't it go away?

So I was in a relationship for a year with someone who put his hands on me a couple of times and I knew I never wanted to marry him and everytime we break up he goes running to this girl he hung out with the first time we broke up, I would say this has happened like 3 times and everytime he leaves her to come back to me, so of course they are probably hanging out again. But we haven't talked in 5 days which is the longest we haven't talked and though I wasn't happy I miss him sometimes. It's just really hard and it hurts, and he is the one who said he didn't think we should talk for awhile, how do you really cope with a breakup???? Whats your best advice honestly, I am really hurting hereWhy doesn't it go away?
Find some freinds and start going out again. Keeping busy will keep your mind off him and before you know it he'll be a thing of the past. Any one who puts their hands on you is not worth crying over, if you go back or take him back you stand a chance of ending up in a abusive relastionship, if he's done it once he'll do it again and again only worse each time. I know it hurts but in the long run you'll live a happier life without such a person. As for his running to this other girl, let her have him, if she's that stupid then she deserves him and his abuse, you don't.Why doesn't it go away?
i'm going thrugh the same thing myself right now sweetie and it does hurt. just hold your head up high and know that this'll only make you stronger in the long run.
You need to just ride it out. If he hit you, and you know you don't want to marry him, then this is in your best interest. Let him go.
Honestly, it doesn't seem like it's working out between you two. I don't recommend getting together a fourth time.





So breakup strategies: STAY BUSY!


Do you have friends? Spend some time with them. Don't talk about it if you're not ready, just enjoy time doing something out of the ordinary.


Do you have hobbies? Now's a great time to really throw yourself into them. Or if you're looking for a new hobby, check out your local community center online and sign up for some classes. Go down to the gym and excersize with music (can't think about things, and you'll sleep well too).


Finally, find someone else to interest you! Even if it's just a passing flirtation, it will help you to know that your options are still open.





Best of luck.
When he comes back again, close the door on his face. You can't get over someone if they keep popping up.
If you don't want to marry him why do you keep stringing him along? Why don't you let him move on and stop it?
THIS IS THE FIRST TIME THAT I HAVE EVER HEARD OF SOMEONE WHO IS ASKING TO BE A BATTERED WIFE STATISTIC.


You sound that you like being a doormat. Go out with other friends and meet some one better.
You know you never want to marry this person, so why date him? It's a waste of time and emotional energy, not to mention that it makes you appear needy and desperate. Stop that revolving door!





If you had someone else who treated you better interested in you, believe me, you wouldn't miss this person nearly as much as you do.





Respect yourself so you will be desirable to the right kind of guy.
Don't call him. You just said that he has abused you. If he calls you hang up. Don't talk to him. FIND SOMEONE BETTER!!!!!!!! And don't get mad at me because you said to be honest.
It will go away trust me. My advice to you is call some friends and do something fun this weekend. You are not missing him per say but the fact of being with another person. Oh I agree with not talking to him. He obviously sees that you guys are in a vicious cycle that needs to end.