Friday, August 20, 2010

HOW DO yu calm yoself down after a breakup?

i jus broke up with myboyfreind im finding it hard to cope and i keep wanting to call him which i no im not supposed to at the moment how do i keep my mind of this.its really putting me down and im so depressed.HOW DO yu calm yoself down after a breakup?
You should try to use the time constructively,if you have broken up there are obviously issues and problems and reasons why. if you know these reasons try to take the time to ask yourself if these can be overcome. What can you do to improve this relationship.what can he do to improve it. If you take this time to look at it and you really feel that it is worth trying to save then call him but only call once you have solid reasons to call. That way you can have a valid reason to call and valid points to discuss.It will show that you have thought and really tried to be proactive.HOW DO yu calm yoself down after a breakup?
take some time and just hang out with all your girl friends...keep yourself busy and get involved with activities within the community...this will keep your mind off of him and sooner than you can imagine, you will be ready for another relationship without using someone as a rebound...
Keep busy, get together with your best girlfriends, have some drinks, see a movie, go shopping, etc. But DO NOT CALL HIM.
alcohol, ice cream new man
Find a new interest.
Best thing to do is delete his no out of your phone (if you want write it down on paper and keep it). Don't call him as it will make it worse for both of you. Go out and have some fun woith your friends. i know its a crap time (just split up with my bf 3wks ago) but thats what your mates are there for. It might take a few weeks but ou feel better but you will hun xx
u know wat gurl? get into ur fav stilettos, some red lipstick, a dress and head out 2 the mall wif ur best gurlfriends... GO SHOPPING!!!
This is a hard time but when it happened to me, I tried to focus on the things I liked to do by myself. Have you any hobbies? if not, get one. Keep busy. Go out with your pals and make a pact to not talk about him. Have a nice hot bath with candles and have some pals round and rent a dvd. Get plenty of sleep. Most of all, think positive. You will feel better after a time.


Just read your added bits, DON'T GET ANOTHER BOYFRIEND!!! not for at least 6 months anyway.
have a night out with the girls and forget your troubles.





or find a rebound guy for a while. it sonuds cruel but they'd do it to you
most women would go on a shopping spree, using the joy of buying new stuff to overcome the heartache of a breakup. Hope you understand.
no matter what dont call him you would regret it so much, i found having a drink only made things worse as it would make me depressed and start thinking about him even more. You need to do some fun things with your friends or start treating yourself such as getting your hair and nails done, this always made me feel better. I used to play solitaire on the computer for hours as this can make hours go by like minutes and thats great when you are trying to take your mind of someone.
work is good therapy for me...maybe put in some o. t..


work and interact with co workers forces you to think about work and not ur woes
There really is no special way you can get over this an calm yourself down. You just have to accept that this is a difficult time but it will pass. I know its cliche but time really is the best healer. In the mean time, try to do things to take your mind of your ex boyfriend. Don't sit around waiting for his call. Spend time with your friends and family and do things you enjoy. Why don't you use this time or being single to make some changes in your life. Get a new hair cut or start a course you've always been interested. its hard now, but it will get easier.
ask yourself why you broke up with him in the first place, if the reason was good enough, it will certainly stop you feeling the need to call him...





It is easy to only remember to good times, but you have to remember why you decided to call it a day in the first place. I know exactly how you feel and I won't kid you that it is easy. Best thing is to keep yourself really, really busy. Hopefully you will have some good friends who will support you through it.
I feel for you i really do (not long since i broke up too)





i wont lie to you though, it'll be hard but you just have to keep telling yourself your better off without and surround yourself with a few good friends.





work is also a good way to keep yourself so busy you dont have time to think
you need some friends around you......call the girls...get some wine and a DVD, let your hair down a bit and stop dwelling on what could have been....have company....this will take your mind off him....don't be alone....don't call him, it will just make matters worse....try and focus on other things...you could even have a good clear out to occupy your mind, but don't sit there alone, go see a friend or family member,
i always found putting myself into my work and visiting my friends was a good way try to keep yourself busy and try not to think much easier said than done but it does get better you are human and your emotions are all over the place at the moment and i wish you well in your recovery
go out, have a clear out, have some mega fun! go dating but nothing serious!


go out with friends, see family , meet up with people you may have neglected while in the relationship!


dont think abnout him if you can.


have a makeover, new hair, nails some new clothes make yourself feel better!


just enjoy your freedom adn try to get over this man slowly!


good luck hun!xx
Have a drink and spend some time with your friends
It's tricky. Try to do things that keep you active and dont sit around moping or spend too much time alone or you will start thinking about him. It will get easier as the weeks pass. Dont call him, cos if he is off with you you will feel 10 times worse.
Grab a box of tissue and let it all out. Talk to all your friends lean on their shoulders when you feel you want to call him. Then take a deep breath and go on with your life. It was a lesson in love learned and now you can go on to the next one. True love is worth all the pain you have to go threw to find it. Good luck

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