How can I deal with or resolve this breakup?

I'm currently 20 yrs old, I have very little living relatives and nowhere to stay at the moment...


I met my girlfriend almost 3 years ago after my mom died and began living with her almost immediately.


She needs ';time to think';, which I have no problem with, but I had to move out and am trying to respect her wishes to not contact her for a week or so to clear her mind.


Everything I do hurts, I don't have a stable home at the moment, I'm a college student and I work at night 5 days a week.


I don't know where to go from here or what to do.


It's been about 6 days and we've spoken every day, however she needs the time alone and I can't find a way to enjoy myself or the little bit I have left without her.


There's no definite way to know if we're getting back together or not and I need some ways to cope with the worst :/


Please help.How can I deal with or resolve this breakup?
I am sorry about your family situation. Sometimes they are just what you need. I think that you need someone to talk to. I think that you might have used her as a safe line and actually need to get help without her. I suggest I counselor because I think you need to not let go but get over the bumps in your road. You have had a lot happen to you in not that long of a time frame. Perhaps you jumped into the relationship with her before you were really emotionally ready to take on the new step. I am sure that it helped at the time, but I think the real time has come to see who you are as a single human before making anymore life changing decisions. I am sure you will be fine it just might take some time.How can I deal with or resolve this breakup?
Respect her ';no contact'; wish unless she is calling you.


Try to focus on other parts of your life. The more contact you have, the harder it will be for you.


Go to school, work your job and try to relax as much as possible.
She's not going to want to be with someone whose name is








';Ted Brownhole.';








Why not legally change your name to ';Ted Balloon Knot'; or ';Ted Hersheyhole'; or ';Ted Shittyslide'; or ';Ted Feces';?
Hang in there, what happens happens. You will either get back together, or find someone else who wants to be with you. Keep in touch with her, so she knows you care. Just stay strong.
Start by talking to people in charge of the dorms of your college. They might be able to swing you some temporary arrangement for cheap. Maybe there are some paid rooms that nobody's using anymore and that type of thing.





With the girl you definitely have to bite the bullet and resist the tempation to talk to her. It's obvious you have completely smothered her with your needs, and that is unfair to say the least. The fact that you have no one to care for you is unfortunate, but it's not her fault so she shouldn't be burdened with it. If you can show that you can keep your distance when needed, she will probably take you back at some point. But you have to make sure it's on her initiative and not yours.





The dorm environment would do you good because it should be easy to make friends and they always have a lot of activities going on to keep you busy. If that's not enough, try taking up a sport like karate or something. That not only takes up time and distracts you from life's problems, it also helps build character which will help a lot later on. It doesn't have to be karate. If you're not that athletic, then even something like chess would be good.