Why do i feel like this ? please help - heartbreak after breakup?

hey. so im 17.


fell hard for a guy for the first time. i know it all sounds corny like in books but yeah im sure loads of you have been there, i didnt fall in love, but i could of done, i liked him that much.


never feelt like it


but


we ended the other day.





i was close to a guy before him, who for 3 years weve been friends now but more before i was with this guy.





now weve split up





nothing feels right. my mind keeps flicking back to him, thoughts about him, every single day. i miss him. its nothing too bad at first it was bloody awful. but not im coping.





why does it feel like


i cant feel right with any other guy without him popping up


i lost my virginity to him


i cant imagine sleeping with any other guy, even the one i thought i would lose it to.


close to him 2 years before that, didnt lose it to him.. yet a month in i did with my ex. he seemed right. i didnt even think about it, and i have nor regrets at all. but i imagine me sleepin with another guy


but my ex popping back to mind,,


i reaaally liked him, hence why i let him go





but





is this usual? dont tell me its normal we all go through it. any detailed ways of telling me please :// ?


will this pass? i dont think i was in love. but i never realised how much i know about him, how blind i was, till now.. or is that the process of falling? cause i dont feel in so much pain i need him , i just feel attached still.


will this get easier?


we were so close, yet only spent once twice a week together, for up to 27hours at a time.. he was 20 im 17.. hmm. please help








MY MIND keeps going back to how intense sex was etc, how meaningful and right it felt, and how close we were, i dont regret it at all, i just miss what we had and that was a way of knowing how deep it was. get me ?Why do i feel like this ? please help - heartbreak after breakup?
THIS WILL PASS, DARLING. Don't worry. Hang in there... There's always a rainbow after the rain.


I know you will think that you'll never get over your ex because your mind would go back to the great sex you had with him and all. I know that it was very meaningful to you given the fact that you gave your valuable purity to him, but you have to know that maybe he was just not meant for you. Everything happens for a reason. There are a lot of things that could help you get over him in no time. Try to distract you mind with new approaches. Maybe a rebound guy is too new for you, or you're just not ready yet. How about hanging out and chilling with your girlfriends %26amp; family? Have fun and don't spend your days in your room thinking how you and him could have been now. You have to stop that sooner or later. The right man for you is out there somewhere. It will just take a little more time for you to realize that. Be strong, girl.Why do i feel like this ? please help - heartbreak after breakup?
Because you were in love with him. You loved him and it HURTS to lose that. Especially. ESPECIALLY. since you lost your virginity to him. That always deeply connects you to a person.





These love stories are the saddest. I am going through one right now.





I'm sorry, I wish I could tell you of something that would relieve the pain.
I lol'd at he was 20 and your 17. Why does that happen so much? Makes me sad.


Anyway what you are feeling is attachment. I can tell he was your first big fall, that you really really liked. It does happen to everyone but not often. Chances are out of all the filth you're used to he was a gold puzzle piece that just didn't fit right. So he was good and all that, but you have to get over him and find the next one.
You were starting to get used to him and when you lose someone that you've did a lot with, you start missing them bunches. It just happened to me the other day. And the only thing you can do is think about all the bad things that happened and try your best to not think about the good times because if you do, it makes it 10 times worse. I wish you luck :
|Don't you notice?


After tht guy said, i guess, flowery stuff to u, and after commiting such thing, u broke up (or *he left u?) It just sounds lyk a game tht tht person played on u, just for his desire..


u no, iv herd alot of girls in the same situation as u, and they all ended up the same.. or were dumped in the same way after commiting the thing u were talking bout..





u no, girls don recognize to these kinds of things as much.. they r naive to themselves, thts why they let these things happen to them, humiliating themselves, and hurt themselves in the end... its usually always women or girls.. well there shudnt be usually but, its always girls side to get tricked and dumped and hurt a lot.. the boyz don care, theyre in fact satisfied bcuz they had their desires fulfilled.. and its up to u whether u want to wake up to the fact tht its true and look more around of ur friends or other girls out there and stop it for urself, or just ignore this messege and get hurt all the time with just.. in the end having to think tht tht was all meaningless.. but sister, plz think more carefully for youself... u can contact me directly if ud lyk, im always open :)
you will find another guy love :) and you will forget him eventually.





i know you dont want to hear it but these things take time. focus on you're hobbies or school. forget about guys for a bit :)





and when you do find another guy make sure he is the one (if you get this sensitive over sex) before you jump into bed with him :)