My fiancee and i were together for 4 years, engaged for one and a half... i broke it off a week ago, because i knew it was the best thing to do...so i have no question about my decision, but man im starting to get a bit depressed, no phone call at lunch, no kiss goodnight, no hug before work... the usually stuff you think about after a recent breakup...
Im 22 and just starting out again in the single world... i try to keep myself occupied and all my free time i stay busy....
How have you all coped with a relationship loss?The easiest way to get over a breakup...?
No offense intended, but you are SOOO young! Pull out your appt calendar / planner [or get one!] and schedule a nice block of time to thoroughly grieve - three or 4 hours is usually about right, but you could block out an entire day. Stock up on tissues. Close the blinds, pull the curtains and pull out all those little momentos. Make yourself a big cup of hot cocoa or coffee or mulled cider or ... [you get the picture - something that makes you feel good / reminds you of your childhood, even] Go through every little thing and either burn, donate or box up to mail to ';himself.'; Have yourself a nice long cry, maybe write a letter telling him what an idiot he is [DO NOT MAIL] make a quick list [no more than 5 minutes and NO erasing] of everything you want to be, to do or to have. Review the list, recognizing how much of this you could not do, be or have if you were still molding your life around him and his wants / needs / schedule...
When you are done with your mourning [and do try to stick to the timetable] either call a friend / sister or mom and arrange to go out for the rest of the day / evening, or go get a massage -- you can get good basic massage at lower prices by going to a massage school, which includes the bonus of feeling good because you are helping a struggling student to get their necessary practice hours in.
Check your budget - maybe you can join a gym, take some classes, get regular massage or manicure / pedicure...just schedule time in to take care of yourself. Before you know it, you'll be like my cousin: she never has less than 3 adoring males to date, and not one of them expects her to wash their socks, spend the night, or fix dinner.
Take care!The easiest way to get over a breakup...?
Find a hobby that makes you happy and put yourself into that until your heart heals and then find someone to make you happy again.
stay busy keep yourself happy and find someone esle
OK....... first your going to go in to a room and yell........... then get a sad movie, and seat there and cry your eyes out( to the point that it hurt) then your going to say why me, then throw yourself on your bed, then hit sand scream like a little child. then your going to pick yourself up look in to the mirror, and say: I did the right thing, I'll be happier and so will he......... then your going to go out, and have fun!!!! it worked for me!!!!! and sometime go for a walk, to clear your head....... ( At the same time to stay in shape) I really hope this work! It worked for me!!!!!!! ( I had to do it a couple of time) LOL....
if you don't already have a gym membership, get one! Work out, it will make you feel and look better.
Well, the good thing is, you are still young, and you sound intelligent, so chances are, you won't have any trouble finding someone new down the line. For right now, just concentrate on yourself--- doing things you enjoy, and making the best of that time, and also the time you have to spend with family and friends. Before you know it, a year will have passed and you will feel a lot better. Good luck!
Only time could tell... but you know what helped me most?
I talked about it all the time until everyone got borred hearing my story and I too got sick of sharing my story to everyone.
If you are keeping yourself busy, try not to go to the places you use to hang-out in and do the things you love doing. You are just feeding your depression.
A good friend a box of Kleenex and a carton of Hç²agen-Dazs.
I've been forcing myself to do things I don't want to...like skipping class...I go anyway...communication with other guys...I force myself to do that too. You are WAY younger than me, so don't give up and please do all of the things these people have told you to do, because they are right...hang out with a friend, eat a ton of bad stuff, go work out (walk at the very least)...who knows...the guy that's going to sweep you off your feet (and make you think about this ex once every millenium) may be out doing something that you would like to get involved in...go meet him and make some new friends too.
find another man..IT WORKS FOR MY BLACK ***
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