Need Advice after a Really Bad Breakup?

Ok you guys....I need some seriouse advice and encouragement on how to ';get over'; a bad break up. My ex(also my baby's dad) and I are no longer together...we've had several problems for past 3 years...and i just really got sick of it. So we seperated and I refused to take him back..But if i know im doing the right thing...why does is hurt so bad? How can i cope with knowing that he and i will never be together again after several DESPERATE attempts to salvage the relationship?? I know that if i didnt have my daughter, i wouldnt feel like this...so what can i do? Im soul tied! Falling in love with someone who is not in love with you is a horrible, terrible, torturistic feeling :(Need Advice after a Really Bad Breakup?
Hey Muffin! Hope you're not too devastated. At least now you're out of the torment. It's a time of adjustment to life without him for you now. Changes will always be tough in the beginning. Do talk to good counselors, reliable friends,pastors and get your mind busy with some meaningful activities %26amp; people .Get into support groups. Cry to feel better and allow time to heal the deep pain within.Remember you still have a child to invest your love in. Stay strong for her sake.This sorrow will not be forever.


Take care..Need Advice after a Really Bad Breakup?
Muffin, you mentioned that if you didn't have a child it be different. How so? You both have to set the same goals for the relationship. You both knew what it took to make it not work. Now, stop feeling guilty about the relationship not working, or being a victim and start living for the future. Make sure he does his part in taking care of your daughter and you start taking care of you.
Dont be codependent. Stay strong and move forward. If he doesn't love you it will NOT work. The relationship will be one sided and that is not fair to you or him. You don't want him to feel obligated to stay with you and then he'll cheat it will be more devasting to you. Us women always want to work it out....not sure what is wrong with some of these men.


So stay strong, stay focused, stay healthy for your childs sake.


Take care.
1. Calm down


2. Wash my car


3. Shine my shoes.





There. Isn't that better?