How do you cope with loneliness after a really hard breakup.?

After a long on off relationship of 11 years and four children later and he leaves you for someone else what is the best way to deal with the emptiness and loneliness. When does the pain finally stop?How do you cope with loneliness after a really hard breakup.?
Surround yourself with family and friends. Don't isolate. Take one day at a time. Get involve with your kids activities. Keep busy, take the kids to park, mall, etc. Do something relaxing for yourself, a new hairdo, a spa treatment. I know it hurts now, but the pain will stop. Hang in there.How do you cope with loneliness after a really hard breakup.?
I am so sorry that you are having to go through this, I know it hurts! As for the pain going away, I don't think it ever really does. I think we carry pieces of the hurt with us the rest of our lives.I think that those pieces of heartbreak, along with the ones of joy, happiness, sorrow, and everything else, makes us who we are. That is what is going to help you become the STRONG, happy, loving mother guiding and teaching her children many things, mainly that that is not how marriage is supposed to be, and it is NOT ok, to lie and cheat, and break up homes because you think you may have found greener pastures.


I can promise you one thing, even though the pain may never go away, it does get alot easier. Just take one day at a time and focus on you and your kids. find out who you are and what makes you happy.





Good Luck!!
The pain finally stops when you allow it to stop. Some come to terms with it faster than others. Every individual deals with it in a different way. Some to the extreme....like myself. I had to get rid of everything and anything that reminded me of her. Even every bit of clothes that I owned at the time...got rid of it and purchased a whole new wardrobe. I also moved all the way to the other side of the country. Some may say it was running away...but I view it as a whole new start. Unfortunately you can't run away from your thoughts. Often I wish I could delete that part...but you can't. Pay attention to what brings you happiness and what makes you smile and laugh...then try to expand on that. There is no set remedy for getting over or through this. What works for me does not neccessarily work for you. Read self-help books...talk with friends and family..etc. Understand what activities bring you down.....try to stay away from them until you're ready. People can give you all the advice in the world but nothing works until you are ready to let the pain stop and strive to move ahead. Good Luck.
i am so sorry to know of your plight. i know right now you must be feeling so very low and your self esteem too must have taken a beating. but you got to pull yourself together for yourself and the kids.





first things first.- try to cut the emotional sstuff and get practical . take a good look at your financial situation. make provisions for yourself and the kids. demand/sue/send legal notice to him for financial support for you and the kids.he cant refuse.





next - make sure the kids are being fed on time and that they dont miss out on their school/daily studies.





next - find yourself a job/a new hobby/supportive frnds. please avoid people who make you feel negative about life/yourself.





next - take good care of yourself. eat proper food. an empty stomach makes us unnecessarily emotional and negative.exercise to keep your mind active.





next - have some fun. after all that hardwork you deserve to enjoy life too. go out with the kids - picnic, shopping, movies,etc





well ! that all that activity should keep you sooooo... busy that you will soon forget your loneliness and have absolutely no time for emptiness.





take care love. life is precious....and time is a great healer.





god bless!
The best way to deal with emptyness is give yourself maybe a day at home just with family. Then go to your friends and sleep there all week, and start hanging out with ppl she wouldnt want you to hang out with (other girls or guys) then when she gets jealous she will come back and be with you again. Thats what got mine back!
Hi! the best and only way is to take a trip inside yourself. You must learn to love yourself 100%, and it is very impotant to renew you!!!!!





Focus on taking care of you and your children, but get to know who you are from the inside out.





It takes a bit of courage to take a stark look in the mirror, but you will grow from the difficult situation you've gone through, and you'll emerge a better and stronger person.





I have a bunch of free articles, reports, and e-guides on my site that you can subscribe to if you'd like more info.





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I am real sorry for that loss. I am not really strong enough to give you advice because if that would happen to me I don't know what i would do. So I just wanted to write you to say I am proud of your courage. Try to find people who will support you is the only thing i can think of. sorry
My sympathy to you, concentrate on your children needs and well-being. Its help to keep your loneliness at bay. You have no emptiness because the children is with you, appreciate their present.
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The best thing you can do for yourself at this time is to read and re-read the great answers you've already been given! Then get up and go! Be good to yourself you deserve it!
fIND GOD, remember this to those who love GOD everything works to the good, pray