Questions about Engagement Breakups- Mixed Signals. How do you cope afterwards?

We were two months from the wedding and my Ex started to freak out about the cost and money in general, so we postpone the wedding. a month before we were supposed to be married he breaks up with me but the excuses are lame. E.g. I realized I don't have to work on this relationship. (3 days before our first couples session) And accused me of things everyone says he did. He said if things changed he wanted to be with me.


A week later when we try to hash out the last details he asks for a hug and cries for the first time. Next time I see him he is hostile and cold,. I'm getting mixed signals. Is this jitters or commitment problems? He now says, after showing off his new female friends that he never wants to talk to me again. Fine. But his signals have been all over the place.I have been as nice about the whole thing as I can in hopes that we could be friends as we made great friends. What is going on? Guys? Some perspective? (it's only been 1 month since the breakup)Questions about Engagement Breakups- Mixed Signals. How do you cope afterwards?
He doesn't want to marry you, and no, you probably can't stay friends. You need to move on and stop trying to analyze all of his ';signals.'; It's neither healthy nor productive.Questions about Engagement Breakups- Mixed Signals. How do you cope afterwards?
I think the main signals are 1) He doesn't want to marry you, and 2) He feels guilty about it, hence all this talk about ';being friends';.





I would ditch the guy a.s.a.p.
Sorry, but he doesn't want to get married - either in general, or to you, but it's HIS problem, not yours. It had nothing to do with money, but him.


And don't bother with the 'being friends' bit - make a clean break.


It's just too bad you didn't see this while you were dating, long before you got engaged and then so close to the wedding.
It is never easy to cope with a breakup, especially when someone gave you such an unclear answer as to why you guys broke up. You need to get some closure, even if it means talking with him and confronting him about it. From the way you described his mixed emotions it sounds like he just didn't know what he wanted...or he was scared about what he wanted. Sometimes things like that can scare people.


The guy obviously had issues, so it's a good thing that you didn't get married...that still doesn't make it any easier to let go. Love can be the greatest thing in the world, it can also be the most painful thing in the world when we lose someone.
They only way to deal with someone behaving that way is to ignore him at this point or at least don't make the effort to facilitate communication. He is toying with your emotions and completely loving the drama. This is obviously someone who not only do you not want to marry but you shouldn't even be friends with. I know it's really hard at this point, my fiancee and I broke up after 7 months of being engaged and there is nothing worse than having to explain to everyone you aren't together and trying to figure out why for yourself. Try everyday to distance yourself from him no matter how hard it is and eventually it won't be so hard. Little steps away from him are huge leaps toward Mr.Right.