we have a two yr old boy we have been fighting quite a bit lately and he decided to leave us and move into his mates. Its been a week he won't talk to me he send me msgs every now n then telling me he's goin to sleep with other women but I know he won't. He took our son out today for a bit. I'm not coping I'm depressed all the time thinking about him with someone else. I don't talk to any of my friends anymore bcoz of him so I can't see them and I don't have a car to go out or the money. I can't stop thinking about him and what he's doing. He won't talk to me. the four years meant a lot to meHow to cope with a breakup ? I've been with my fiance for four yrs. .?
try focusing on yourself, your son, family and friends. you've put a lot into the relationship but even if he came back, now is a good time for you to re-assess yourself to see what you need to do to become more independent so you can take care of your son. Focus on you and you may quickly realize that though you share a beautiful son together, he may not be the one for you. many times we compromise who we truly are and what we want out of life in the name of love -- only to be hurt.
Take care of your self. A new year is coming, think about yourself and your son and don't bank on having him around. sounds like he's confused about what he wants and as women we cant always wait around for men to grow up or to figure it all out. We wait only to realize, we were the nurturers and patient, only to dumped. I knoow, easier said than done. Good he's still around for your son but that's about all to expect from him or else you may be disapointed. Should he come full circle and wants to be a family and take car of business in all aspects of what being a real man is about then fine. if not, be thankful he's around for your son, become more independent, and eventually you may meet someone who's more deserving of you. hang in there and be strong.How to cope with a breakup ? I've been with my fiance for four yrs. .?
Go over and have sex with him and bring him home.
Let me tell you something..i been in a relationship with my sons father for 8 years and we just brokeup a week ago. However i do understand your feelings in this situation, your hurt, angry, mad, upset, worried, and you want probably asking all the why questions right...well listen taken it from a woman who been through that situation...You know what i did....I prayed about it. I dont know what your beliefs are but you have to be strong for your son...I had to with my son and daughter. Your child is looking at you probably wondering why you are so down, you dont want to go out to the park...Your son is the one that will keep you from thinking about the past and get your mind off some things..you see the thing about it is, is i believe you are not trying enough..a real man is not going to text you all those immature things to you..and the reason he is doing it is because your feeding into it..Dont get caught up in that...Tell him he moved on so why is he still texting you about what his future plans are with other women...You see it seems to me he trying to keep you close just in case it dont work out for the next female because he know he can run right back to you..Girl i been through it...Let me tell you this, as of today since hes been gone i havent paid any mind to him, because i got to tend to my kids and work to keep food on the table..I am to grown to be worried about a man who left me and mines for another woman, now he calling me asking for forgiveness and wants me back and i told him straight up NO! And girl let me tell you that was the hardest thing for me to say to him but the BEST answer i could give..You deserve better, you deserve respect and values. I know you are hurting and crying but just pray girl, just pray, ask God to give you guidance, direction, just help so you can be happy for yourself and for your son..That man that left you seems to like that you are feeling that way because he texts you all that dumb crap and dont want to talk to you..Trust me that song that Justin Timberlake did ';what goes around, comes back around';..it may not happen now, or a month from now, but he will wake up and something will happen and he will then realize what of a good woman he had and realize how he messed up...And the one thing you dont do is Stop talking to your friends...Especially good friends..You need people to talk to and other just hang out with to get your mind off of things but the most important is your Baby Boy...
you should first ask yourself, was a tiny bit of you relieved when he left?? if your truely heartbroken and you want him back then tell him, you have one of two choices, we work this out and stay a family or we both move on. your a mother and so much stronger than you think. why were you engaged for so long?? he should have married you by now, even if it was a cheap wedding at the courthouse, as his childs mother you had the right to have his last name too.
Okay first take a deep breath. Things will be alright.... Start exercising it will help in a couple of ways. 1st, by giving you a way to burn off excess energy. 2nd, it gives you a emotional release. Some place where you can vent your feelings with out having your little one wondering why mommy is crying all the time. Plus you can get into great shape. You need to put him out of you mind. Focus on your child, focus on finding yourself. YOU ARE WORTH THAT! Your child need you to do that. Stop trying to call him all the time. Men are fickle, the minute you stop trying to call them, they will start to call you. Be strong. Men do not like women who seem needy. Just take care of yourself. If you really want to win him back its going to take time. You need to remember the girl (you) he fell in love with. The one that was independent, looked beautiful, and had self confidence. Remember who that girl was and I'm sure he will come back. But ask yourself does he deserve you. After all this crap. Oh and the talk bout messing around with other women is his way of just trying to hurt your feelings. Don't give him this control over you.
Good luck.
No comments:
Post a Comment