How can I cope the breakup with my boyfriend who insisted me to come out?

I'm a guy and my environment is very different to his, while his is more open and his family and all friends know about he being gay, in my case is very different for religious and cultural matters, He insisted me he wanted a more formal and ';open'; relationship, but I'm not prepared to do it. I love him so much, but now I'm not able to do that. I've done lot of things to him to feel happy, but all seems not enough to him, and he asked me to break up if I don't do what he wants... How can I cope with that?How can I cope the breakup with my boyfriend who insisted me to come out?
That's very tough. No one should pressure you to come out before you are ready. At the same time I understand your boyfriend's desire to be able to have a more open relationship. You may not be able to work this one out. Try to make him understand that it has to be your decision to tell your family you are gay. If he is unwilling to wait until you are ready, it is then up to him whether to continue the relationship. It is really not either of your fault. You are simply at different stages that are unresolvable.





Good luck, my heart goes out to you.How can I cope the breakup with my boyfriend who insisted me to come out?
If you want to stay in the closet, STAY there. If he really loves you, he will be willing to wait until YOU decide YOU want to be openly gay, if and when that ever happens. If he keeps pushing it, and you are uncomfortable with it, break up with him, you have a right to your privacy.
COME OUT AT YOUR OWN PACE. If he can't wait for you, be supportive and understanding, then maybe it would be better to separate. It can make the relationship stressful otherwise.
He cant make you do something thats going to make you feel uncomfortabe.If you go along with what he wants then you will start to resent him.A true relationship is a two way street.
I think that this is a personal choice and its hard to give advice about. I think that it is pretty certain that at some point you are going to have to come out, as much as we would all like to say that we dont have to, we often do. However, this should happen in your own time, on your own terms. If you are truly not ready, then I think it is wrong for your partner to pressure you. That being said, it is very hard to be someones ';dirty little secret.'; I had a partner very similar to you, who mostly for religious reasons felt she couldn't come out. I often felt like I was being hidden away, that she was ashamed of our relationship, or undervalued.





Choosing the right time to come out is a very personal thing, and is often prompted by a person, comment or event which just pushes you over the line. I guess the real question is: Is your partner that person, that reason for you to come out?





If you honestly feel like you just cannot do it, then you need to talk to your partner and just like you expect him to respect you feeling that you can't come out, you need to respect that he cannot be with someone who is not out.





If you just can't do it, try to part on good terms, and maybe one day in the future when you are out you can try again.





I have to say that I was terrified of coming out for a long time, coming from a stong Catholic family, but when I finally did it, I found out that it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. I had a lot of support from my parents and my friends that helped me overcome anything I came up against. I think sometimes we assume people are going to let us down, without giving people the opportunity to prove us wrong.





Good luck!





If you do decide to come out and need some help to come up with the right words, or just some extra support, feel free to email me. :o)
There are two people in a relationship, and your boyfriend should want you to be as happy as he wants to be. If you feel your not ready yet he should respect your feelings and wait until you are. On the other hand if your noticing, 6 8 10 12 months have gone by and he is unhappy because you still arent ready, maybe ending the relationship is best to make both persons happy. Love is a series of two way streets and inorder to not have a pile up you have to be on the look out for not only you but the other driver.