How to get her to cope with our breakup?

I really need some help here.





I broke up with my girlfriend 3 weeks ago.


We have been dating for 3 years.





I broke up with her over a period of 2 days. The second day I tried to provide her with closure and tell her that it's the best for us. I didn't cheat on her, but I broke up due to real unhappiness due to 2 years of fighting.





3 Hours ago I got a message from her mother telling me my ex is really struggling. She had to get depression drugs as well as sleeping aids. I think it's due to me being her genuine real first love.


She is busy with her studies and I don't want her to fail due to this. I didn't break up with her with the intension of doing it during her exams, it was rather a ';cornered'; situation and I just had to get out while I had the courage to do so.








Can somebody PLEASE give me some advice as what to say to her to understand all of this???





I am going over to her house tommorow to talk to her.


I would really appreciate some genuine heart felt advice.





Kind Regards.How to get her to cope with our breakup?
Kurben,





I don't think their is anything you can do to make her feel better about it unless you are willing to get back with her. Before you go over ask your self were you unhappy with her or did you just not know how to work through the problems. When you go just see where she is coming from and express your thoughts and go from there but if you honestly don't want to be with her any more don't get sucked back in. Good luck shug.How to get her to cope with our breakup?
Well, the more you hang around and try to make her feel better the more she will still believe there is hope. Everyone goes through breakups in their lives, and even though I appreciate your sincerity, its best to just remove yourself from her life so that she can heal. Later on, maybe you two can be friends but for now she needs to get support from those around her that love her.





Also, parents get real upset when their son or daughter gets dumped, they will do anything possible to not let it happen. Beware of being talked back into the relationship just for her to dump you later.
i think if there wasn't any promises that you couldn't keep then there should be no problems... did she think you were going to get married? is she insecure, did she think that your guys love was unconditional? You can't always worry about other people.. she needs to get over it herself, in time she will and will realize that maybe it was for the best. you going over and talking to her may be a bad idea....
OMG! You broke up with her, and then you're worried about her feelings. That's so kind of you. NOT! You need to leave her alone. It's a slap in the face going over there to talk to her. What if she thinks that you want to patch things up, then what? You have got to understand this, nobody wanted to be dumped. I'm glad you're out of a bad relationship, but you need to stay away from her. It would be better for her.
you shouldn't all together give up on her.. =[


it's really sad how she is coping with drugs now and could do bad on her studies... and possably on life itself. and after 3 years of a relationship a girl can't deal with it. but you shouldn't be miserable in a realtionship it's not fair for you or her so it ws okay for you guys to break it.,but still be her friend and talk to her. if that doesn't help, she can hang out with her friends to get her mind off things, ot spend time with her family, of course you do love her but it's hard for you to see her this way. she needs to understand you need a break that there are other guys out there and that you will always be with her. to talk to or a sholder to cry on. she needsto move on... 3 years yes that is long but why not think about the happy momments of it, or just make this as a time to have time for herself and figure out who she is and to be a women and find her inner-self she can't always be dependent on you what she's doing is wrong and you not happy with , her friend and family aren't happy with her and she's changed. you just need to get your point across but be gentle as possable if not. talk to her monther to get therapy. im really sorry about this =[





good luck!