How do you people cope with a breakup of someone u loved and cared for so much?

I'm not very experienced in relationships as I've only had one long term relationship. It was this recent one that lasted for 14 months. She said she has lost feelings for me but begged me to remain friends. We did everything together. She was my best friend. We were so comfortable around each other from the start. She was my everything. It's so hard and painful that I wish I can just take a pill that makes me forget everything.


She said she wants to continue to have sex, I know most guys would jump at the chance, sex and no commitment. But I'm not that kind of person. I told her it was too hard for me. I also told her not to call me anymore and that I never wanted to see her again. I cried the whole entire night last night. I'm not the type to cry. I've probably cried like 5 times in my life, I'm 20 years old. It is just so hard for me to deal with, I don't know what to do.


She's been calling me all morning. I try to be strong but I know one of these times I will pick up the phone and talk to her again.


Should I remain friends with her?


How do I cope with the break up?


In addition I have 2 classes with her next semester in college. That should make it awkward.


Sigh





Thanks for your help.How do you people cope with a breakup of someone u loved and cared for so much?
I'm only 19, but I went thrut he same thing. Except it was my bf that lost the feelings, not me.





It is extrememly hard. Anyone who says otherwise ahs never been here before.


My ex wanted to stay friends and have sex if I was up for it.


I said no, because like you, it was ahrd for me to be intimate with him, without actually being intimate.


As for being friends, we broke up 6 months ago, and we are jsut starting to talk again now.


I suggest you tell her you want to be friends (that's only if you do!! otherwise tell ehr you dont) but also tell her you need time.


If she really cares for you she will give you all the time you need.


As I said it's taken me 6 months and I have just started talking to him again.


It's jsut a casual 'hi hwo are you' at the moment, but he was such a massive part of my life for such a long time that I do want to stay friends with him and push it beyond this awkward chit chat.


I don't want him back though.


So if you think you jsut need time, ask for it.


Tkae as much as you need, then you go to her when your ready to be friends.





Hope I helped :)How do you people cope with a breakup of someone u loved and cared for so much?
just move on and live your life. its not the end of your life. I went through the same thing and i just lived my life and now i'm with the love of my life. its not the end, its the beginning


it will seem like its getting worse but it's really not.
Uh... I think you should stay friends with her and don't shut her out. If she's been calling all morning then she really wants to talk to you. And she probably still has feelings for you... I really don't know all that much about break ups because I'm still with my first boyfriend... Ha...
you move on and learn.