How do you cope with breakups?

He broke up with me like three months ago. It hurt at first but he offered to be friends. So we were...for about a week. Then we got into an arguement. We never had issues during our 9 month relationship but that was our first big arguement a week after we broke up. We didn't talk for 3 weeks after that. However, the week before I left for college I started to feel depressed and hated myself. My self esteem was down the crapper. So I sent him a message over facebook-an apology. I didn't receive anything in return. It's been 3 months now and I still haven't gotten anything back.


I know it's best to just forget and move on-but there's issues such as we have a lot of the same friends. I hear about him all the time!! I hear things he says about me (which sometimes hurts me more). And he's in band with my sister. A few weeks ago I went to go watch the concert to support my sister but the whole time I was extremely uncomfortable. I was shaking and chewing on my nails and lips like crazy.


Soon after I sent him another message-telling him how I need to work things out. Him avoiding me and ignoring me hurts me more than the break up did. I have dreams of outcomes-whether we'll ever be ok or if he'll keep hating me for reasons I and no one else understand.


It's been three months! Why can't I get over it?


Would it be a good idea to call him instead since my letters have yet to be responded to?


Or should I just keep trying to move on? If I do this will he man up and come to me later to work things out?


I feel unhealthily upset about it all the time!


Keep in mind..I just can't stand being hated. I've never had people hate me before and I'm a freshman in college now and I just feel like I need some resolve. I feel like crap knowing someone I was so close to just out of the blue hates me and I don't understand why! He's a senior in high school. Two of his friends (who WERE also my friends) seem to hate me too. I was told on facebook by one of them that ';We F***ing HATE you. Stop being a F***ing annoying c**t';.


When I did nothing to anyone.


I just feel so lonely all the time and when I do I think of him.


I'm just so sick of hurting.


Would it be a good idea to call him and try to work things out to at least a neutral level?How do you cope with breakups?
been there done that so I wont say oh just get over it you can't.... I will say start day by day incorporating things in your life. I started working out... soaking myself in my studies and one day I woke up and I didn't think about it... I know it sounds crazy but try it don't worry about the extraneous stuff