How do I help a friend cope with relationship breakup

My friend (Joan) called me and told me she broke up with her ex boyfriend. They were off and on. After they broke up the first time, her ex got with someone else. Then he and Joan tried to work things out together. They were kinda together the second time at the time as the boyfriend was seeing another girl. Joan couldnt stand the fact the boyfriend has feelings for someone else. They tried to stay friends but Joan tells me she's jealous of the other girl but the boyfriend won't settle with my friend. Before they broke up the second time, my friend spent every time and effort to keep the relationship stable. Unfortunately, it was unsuccessful.





She called me crying and I dont know what to say besides ';Don't think about it'; because I know it's hard not to. I tell her that her ex isn't worth her time.





Ive never been in a breakup so it's hard for me to give comforting advice.





How do I help a friend cope with relationship breakup
just tell her that if she needs to vent you will always be there and maybe invite her over for a girly movie marathon night ..get her favorite junk food and just get comfy and relax and maybe it will help her cope with things!! she has to deal with it in her own way but with time she will be fine ..tell her that she deserves someone that won't see other girls and will lvoe her as much as she loves them!! :)How do I help a friend cope with relationship breakup
You have to let her know she is better off with someone else because in the end this guy would cause pain. Even if he wanted her back, she shouldn't let him. Tell her that she should deal with this pain now, so she doesn't have to do it again later. This boy is just toying with her little heart. Poor girl.


Also if you're a guy, make sure that she doesn't suddenly ';fall in love with you'; cause she's vulnerable. Don't tell her she's not or anything, but don't get into a relationship you don't want. Clearly you care for Joan. Just be there for her.
If a relationship keeps going sour it's not meant to be. Take her mind off things by doing things with her. Go see movies or out to dinner.





The thing is, at the moment she is remembering all of the good things about him and none of the bad. If you tell her how bad he is she will resent you. Try to avoid talking about him altogether.





It's not going to be easy but eventually she will get over him. He sounds like an a$$. I wish her all the luck in the world,
When they breakup, plan to wallow.


If you don't know what that is, get a ton of ice cream, pizza, stay in pajamas and don't do anything all day but eat junk and let her cry. Oh yeah and watch the best sad movies.


But if she works, make sure you figure out her work schedule so you can plan around that.


But this really helps
i have been here a few times. just tel her how much you love her and that you always will no matter what. tell her shes beautiful no matter what anyone has to say. make sure she knows she has a long life ahead of her and that she is way too great to waste her time on that guy. try and take her to places and get her mind off it. introduce her to new guys. and never leave her side. always answer the phone. and dont cry or she will feel even weaker than she does already
Tell her that she deserves someone better, and she will find someone that deserves her [:



all u can do is be there for her when she needs u
Whenever this used to happen to me all the time (I know how you feel) I would go over to my friend's house with her favorite kind of icecream and some guy hating movies and stay up all night eating and hating on guys. Even though you may not hate any guys, I'm sure your friend does (even for a couple of days) so it will help her vent.





Works everytime..I used to have a friend just like that. If she doesn't like icecream, pizza works too. Actually, any endless supply of junk food helps to tell you the truth.





It's not so much about being able to comfort her with your words, it's more like being able to let her know that you are still there for her no matter what. It's the little things that count. You don't have to give her a speech to show her that you love her. (Thats whats she seeking anyway...just to know that someone cares about her)
I think she should stop trying to be with him. He's obviously not going to be committed to their relationship. If she can't accept that he has feelings for someone else, and that he doesn't want to be with her, she should stop teasing herself and cut off all contact with him. You shouldn't remind yourself of how you can't have him.





Another thing she should try, when she get's over him, is to not be too clingy. Try to play hard to get. If you are too close to the guy and put your heart and soul into loving him, then he will get the confidence that you are his and you'll be with him for as long as he wants you to and more. Don't exactly be cold and not put your heart into the relationship, but play hard to get, if only a little.





Just promise her that she will meet someone better, when she meets that someone better, treat him with a kindness and respect. Make him love you like you love him.








And don't tell her to forget it, I promise you, that will make her think about forgetting the thing which only makes her think about it more.





Good Luck!
just let her know u will always be there for her, and that she is so much better than settling for a looser. tell her that the promise of true love is out there waiting for her to find it and wot she first thinks love is may not be. to be patient and wait for the right guy, sum1 who will cherish the ground she walks on, who would lay down there life for her.





get her to listen to the song on the wedding singer and wen she finds sum1 who could do all the things tht he sings about then and only then can she know its true love. good luck.(the song on the plane)