How do I cope with a breakup when there's kids involved?

I was dating a guy for a little over 5 months...I absolutely fell in love with his three children. I have a two year old of my own from a previous relationship. It has been almost two weeks since we split up and my heart is hurting. I am physically and mentally sick most of the time. If I talk about his children I cry and can't seem to make myself stop. What can I do to try and make this better for me and my daughter? Is there a site maybe I can go to and talk to some other moms been through this before? He doesn't have any problems with me visiting the children just don't want him to think I am visiting them to try and get back in the relationship with him. I do love and miss him so much! But I wake up thinking about the kids and go to bed thinking about them kids. What do I do?How do I cope with a breakup when there's kids involved?
IMO what he did...by allowing you to become a part of his childrens life at only 5 months of dating is irresponsible parenting.





Those are not your children and my guess is that if his children were allowed to be around you then your two year old was allowed to be around him and his kids right? So maybe you need to take a look at your OWN child and see how she is REALLY handling this. At just two she will think that those people are supposed to be there and now they are not and she may miss them. You need to focus on her. Then you need to focus on a life for you and your daughter and making it better. Dont wallow around in this. It has been two weeks of wallowing its time to stop and get on with it as you have a job to do.





My advice to you is this: Never, Never, Never allow anyone into your child's life that you are ';dating'; for 6 to 9 months and really a year is best. Your child can meet the people you date I dont mean that but moreover that a relationship not be allowed to be formed as it is just to hard on children to go through breakups.





As far as a site where you can find women in your shoes I think you probably could get that at ivilliage. Truthfully you dont need someone to feel sorry for yourself with as that is not going to get you anywhere.How do I cope with a breakup when there's kids involved?
you shouldn't have gotten involved so deeply with children of someone you were only dating for 5 months, that's for sure. that is a sign of great weakness on your part and is very inappropriate. you should not visit the children, to continue to confuse children by having an old girlfriend they knew for a couple months keep coming around is very damaging for them and you shouldnt be so selfish. you should plan some activities with your own kid, who is the important one, the one you should spend all your time and energy on loving and protecting, and not be running off trying to fill some void in yourself with other children. and maybe do something for yourself like take a class or something since you obviously dont have much to focus your attention on or make yourself feel better.