Ahh sweetie, i'm sorry you have to go through this....let me tell you what I did when my soulmate left me. The problem I had was that nothing felt OK anymore you know? Nothing that I did seemed important or had any flavor, nothing that I enjoyed doing brought me joy anymore. I became withdrawn and extremely depressed. Hang out with family and friends, make an effort to never be alone. Fill your time with activities that used to make you happy, even if they seem pointless. Make new friends, try out new things, do somthing you have always wanted to do but never tried or had the guts to try. Basically do whatever you have to, in order to keep your mind occupied. Fake being happy, and every day it will get easier to fake happieness till one day you will turn around and you won't have to fake it anymore. Again I am so sorry that you have to go through this but I did too very recently, so if you need sombody to talk too. I would be happy to listen. Just remember, you are a woman of value and worth, and you deserve sombody who will treat you with dignity and respect and there are alot of men out there who will do that for you, if you give them the chance. Don't settle for anything less good luck sweetie, and I hope this helps.
Oh and by the way, dying is not the answer, I am now begging you to please get some help - killing yourself isn't the answer and I know that right now you feel so empty that you dont' think the sun will ever shine again... but this I SWEAR TO YOU - the sun will shine again, and you will again feel happy it just takes time. Please please don't do anything to hurt yourself, if you really feel like you are going to hurt yourself go the emergency room and tell them you need a psychological consult - Trust me - hurting yourself isn't the answer.Need advice about coping with a breakup.?
its not worth dieing over a man theirs more fish in the sea. u can do it stay strong. death is wrong u think u have pain here read the bible u wont make it to heaven doing that. think of ur family how they will feel and if u have children think of them first having to grow up without a mom.some people don't believe in a heaven and hell i do.u do need to see a Dr as soon as u can dont put it off
So sorry to hear that..you've got to eat - sleep - exersize - ask lots of questions on here - join a new group - spend lots of time with your family %26amp; friends - make some new friends - take up a new craft - spend some time on the chat lines - i/m broken hearted to %26amp; just learning how to cope myself. i ;ook things up online %26amp; read articles about feeling better. Well i hope this helps a bit - time will heal...just try to make a list of things to do %26amp; everyday add something new to the list. Good Luck...daytripper..answer these questions it helps you learn %26amp; pass time..Sea Ya
Sorry hon...but no guy is worth considering death no matter how much you may love him. I know that you are heartbroken but you will get through it. I was married 20 years with two kids and my husband decided he wanted to ';be free'; as he put it. I, too, was heartbroken and thought it was the end of the world. However, believe me it was not worth letting myself get down. Just try the best that you can to move on. Go out with your friends and meet new guys and enjoy your freedom. Eventually, the right one will come along. My guess is that you are still young and have a lot of life left to live so do it. Best wishes to you.
Yikes...death over life? Because of a guy?? HELLO!! C'mon, snap out of it. First, if you really are feeling suicidal, please get some help, call someone, anyone! Second, you've just been handed your life! Go live it! No man can make you happy, you have to accomplish that yourself. You need to be thanking him for not wasting another day of your life. Pick yourself up and make the changes you need in your life to live exactly how you want to. Look at these questions in this section, most people are having trouble with marriage. You have a chance to really take a step back now, and let yourself be who you are and THEN find someone to share that with. Men are generally too annoying to want to die over them, really. It's just not worth it. This guy moved on, without you, its just time for you to do the same. You can do it, I promise. Start right now by doing something that makes YOU happy.
Hugggggggggggggggg...hang in there.
First thing is go to the doctor and tell them the feelings you are having. WE all get our heart broke but the thought of death does not enter the process under any circumstances. I don't know why your fiance has been over seas but if it has anything to do with the war, This is for the best. What our guys and gals are going through is rough and changes every part of them. It also changes the whole out look on life. As far as dealing with the pain, over time it gets easier and soon the pain will become dull and after awhile you won't feel it anymore. You will never forget but it does get easier. Drinking is the last thing you should do especially with the dark thoughts so please be careful on what you do and where you go. Honey this was just not meant to be. You are not second best. Do what you have to do with the doctor and stay close to family. HANG ON AND LOVE YOURSELF
Give yourself time and honor what you are feeling. Start a journal, write a letter to yourself, or a letter to him that is never meant to actually be sent. A true testament of love is letting someone go so they can be happy. You deserve to have someone who is totally in to you!
I am sorry that your fiance broke up with you- but at least you did not get married and then end up getting a divorce.
Give yourself sometime to 'grief' over him and the relationship. But then look forward to the future. Try speaking to a doctor or friends about this. I am sure them listening to you will make you feel better. Once you start dating again- it will become better. I am sure there will always be apart of you that will love him but you need to let you for your own sanity.
Good luck.
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