Need advice on what to do or how to cope (boyfriend wanting to breakup)?

I woke up one morning to my boyfriend telling me out of the blue that he wants to be single and that he wants to break up. he also given mixed signals, that he wants time to think to suddenly telling me that he doesn't think it will ever work out.





I'm going through a very rough time right now, depression hitting an all time low and have not been feeling good over the past few months and appreciating his support and concern. I also did the same for him and never ever used his feeling of depression to determine who we are, because we were happy before.





The reason we've been down is because we've just given up a brief period of doing drugs and we always had open communication on that we would help each other through it.





I did everything I could, supported him, cared for him and stood by him when he also needed me to be around him, whether that be seeing him late at night when he couldn't sleep, staying up with him just to comfort him, taking him to the doctors. I was so overjoyed when we gave up drugs and so proud of him when he went for job interviews. I'd try help him sort out things in his life, helping him pay debts with my money, making sure he had money to eat, staying over his house just so i could help him get ready for his interviews before I had work.





I am a completely loyal girlfriend and would never ever consider cheating on him.





He tells me that we're still together yet he can't seem to deal with be being sad, even though i helped him when he needed it.





He says he needed space but even when I wanted to go home, he always wanted me to stay with him and perhaps that's my fault for not putting my foot down, but how can that be entirely my fault?





I'm on the edge of having a breakdown and having to go on vacation today because my parents want me to have a break.





At the worst possible timing, he decides to immediately want to break up to wanting to think things through while i'm on holiday.





I haven't eaten in days, I feel physically ill and weak and I don't know what I should do about this.





Am I wasting my time?


How can someone change their mind so drastically and treat me as if I don't exist?


Your advice and personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.Need advice on what to do or how to cope (boyfriend wanting to breakup)?
Well I had something similar happen. I woke up one morning and he was just sitting on the couch, just staring at the wall, I asked if everything was ok, and he said Its over. After 5 years together and just getting engaged! I think some people just dont have morals and values like others.


Let me tell you though, If you do break up, do not beg for him to be with you, I made the mistake and did that, and it worked, but i felt so pathetic that I convinced him to stay with me. I would rather have someone with me because they want to be, not because i convinced them.


You guys have been together through a lot, I wonder if he associates you with his past, and now hes trying to better himself, he feels its best to start a new leaf.


And most guys cant deal with women and their issues, its sad cuz when they are down in the dumps , we are there, but when we need them, they cant handle it.


Maybe the break away will make him see how much he misses you. And if it doesnt well you deserve someone who wont give up when times get tough.


Good Luck! :) Keep your head up I know its hard, I didnt eat too for days, But then i realized im letting him win by being sad. I didnt wanna give him that power. So I started dating again!Need advice on what to do or how to cope (boyfriend wanting to breakup)?
My heart goes out to you for what you have done,and been through what I feel must have been a fairly extended period.This time,would have taken a great toll not only physically and mentally,but also must have placed a great strain on your emotional make up.I feel your b/f has used you to support his physical and mental needs,and has now decided you are an unnecessary appendage.I am sorry for being so blunt,but you must sever yourself from this man,otherwise you will bring more pain and distress upon you.Please take all the physical and mental rest as possible.I would advise both mental and physical relaxation meditation.Go to your local G.P. and express all your concerns,and I am sure he will assist you,and assess whether there is a need for some type of profession mental health help.Do not delay,and I can only wish you all the best for the future.