How to cope with a bad breakup?

on october 3rd 2007 i lost my virginity to a boy that i fell madly in love with. he often mistreated me but i figured that the good would out way the bad, and everything would be fine. We weren't together. We got together on prom night which was May 5th 2008. Everything was fine, but in the summer time we often broke up and got back together. Whenever things got rough for me, i began thinking and doing suicidal things. He often told me that he loved me and that he would never do anything to hurt me, and that we were going to get married and start a family. He broke up with me on the first day of school, because he said that he couldnt deal with the fact that i was being suicidal. we were still ';talking'; after that, and my friends would tell me that they would see him various places, and i believed it. I confronted him about it, and he would always get upset. I never thought that he would hurt me the way he is doing. He's a senior in high school, dating a freshman, and i dont understand, why he is doing this to me. Can anyone please help me, or give me advice... because im at a breaking point. ive gone to see therapist,... none of that seems to work. im 16 years old and i shouldnt have to deal with this.How to cope with a bad breakup?
My son is your age. He has gone through issues with the ladies. I have been around the block and have already been a teen...thank god it's over.





I will talk to you as if you were my own child. Read this carefully:





Being a teen is a really tough time. You are a mini adult. You are trying to just fit in with your friends and peers. If they don't accept you, you may do things that aren't right just to fit in.





Boys are especially immature. Instead of trying to be an adult, why don't you just be a teen and enjoy your life? Trust me, I have had heartbreaks and been dumped. None of these were worth dying over. It's been over 20 years ago. I now look back on those days and feel stupid sometimes even embarrassed about the past.





You have plenty of time to find a husband and start a family. Time goes by so fast. You only get a limited time to be a kid and have fun. Eventually you will have to be an adult, get a job, work 40 hours a week, pay bills and deal with whiny kids of your own.Can I tell you a secret? Being an adult sucks. It's no fun. Being a teen without responsibilities and hanging with friends was fun. I miss those days.





For now, just be teen; enjoy yourself. Spend time with friends or meet new ones. Go to the movies, go to the mall, play videogames. Just have fun and enjoy your life. Your trying to be something your not..an adult. Once you realize this, your life will improve.





Leave the problems to mom and dad.





You have something many of us old folk miss...Youth.





Good luck to you : )


Peace


W. Greene


http://www.socialhearts.comHow to cope with a bad breakup?
well, i feel sorry you had to loose your virginity on a worthless guy, but let's deal witth it. you don't want to stay with him for the rest of your life, righth? right. so, keep your distance from him. find someone new. it'll work..