Coping with a breakup, after being with him for 10 years.?

After my divorce, I was single for two weeks. I met this man, moved in with him after only knowing him for a month, stayed with him for 10 years and then he left me for someone else. He had always been faithful. We were a match made in heaven. I believe he is my soulmate. I went back to visit my family for a summer (after almost dying during a surgery) and he was unable to go because of his work. When I returned at the end of August; about a month later he told me that he met someone and was leaving me. We were together for 10 years and he meets a girl, gets married to her when he was only with her for a year and now they are having a baby this month. Although it has been over for a year-and-a-half, I still have my moments and get depressed about the marriage and now a new baby. We didn't have any kids together. I had two from my marriage and he had three from his first marriage. We figured that was enough kids. How does one go on, or move on?? I can't seem to let it go.Coping with a breakup, after being with him for 10 years.?
i can related to what u are saying i am going through the same situation to if u like to talk email me ok i can tell you my storyCoping with a breakup, after being with him for 10 years.?
You move on by shaking off the regret, forgiving yourself and him for being human, seeking love -and- simply deciding that you are not going to waste another minute of your future feeling sad about your past.





Honor your past as a series of lessons, a journey, an adventure that brought you here, to who you are right now. Think about all of the things that you've done with your life so far, all of the lessons learned, all of the growing you've done. Think of who you were 10 years ago, 20 years ago %26amp; marvel at all of the changes in you and in your life over the years.





Now, imagine yourself 10 years from now, 20 years from now %26amp; know that, at that time, you will look back on who you are now with the same fondness that you have for the older, less experienced 'you', now.





Be as gentle and kind to yourself, now, as you will be when you look back on this later in your life. Know that everything that is happening *now* is just a lesson, a step on your journey. Take what you can from this experience, the good memories, the knowledge that is gained from making mistakes, the knowledge that is gained from living through the variables of life, then step forward into your future, with excitement and optimism.
He's going around thinking with the wrong head. You don't need someone like that around you and your kids. Be glad he's gone, the man has no common sense.
wow... how painful. I'm sorry to hear about your difficulties.





You know what though, things do get better and when it doesn't hurt as much you will be able to relive your life together and analyze if it was as good as you thought it was.





I truly believe that everything happens for a reason and it's up to us to learn and grow from your difficult life experiences and find something better for us in the future.





all the best to you.
I am someone who believes in behavior patterns. And a person is emotionally unstable if they want to move in with you just after knowing you for a month. Also, it also says a lot about you, that you are ready to move in with someone just 2 weeks after a divorce!!! Both you and your ex are emotionally unstable, no wonder he just found someone else. Instead of making the same mistakes again, stay single, enter counseling and be with your kids.


I'm someone who doesn't believe is love at first sight or ';soul mates';. I always have felt that two compatible people who want to be together can be in love.