My ex dumped me a month back and he would be married to his girl next month. Officially, its over b/w us.. I am still coping up from it, I still miss him terribly, I cry, am depressed, I wait for his call.. I know I have to come over this soon and am not able to handle it..
Now, just two days back, I met a guy that is married, has a perfect marriage. He heard my story and I was so comfortable talking to him that we went for a coffee.. Today, I fell sick, had to go to the hospital, I just msgd this guy that I am not well and he picked me up to the hospital, waited for me there, and was dropping me back home. When we were driving back, I got this sexual urge and somehow we ended up with it. He felt guilty, I did not.. Rather I felt that I have taken revenge on my ex who dumped me and revenge on myself being fooled for 3 long years by my ex.... I dont really know why I did this.. I know it isnt a normal thing to do. U still love your ex, u miss him, u meet someone and have sex.. I think what I did was very slutty.. I did say goodbye to the married guy cz I dont really want to harm his married life at any cost, he was good to me..
How do I convince myself that I am not a slut.. that it happens with some ppl............ and how do I forget my ex who has hurt me so deeply?? Today, when I was in pain, when I called him, he didnt have the courtesy to even ask me how am doing..Was it right to get physical with someone when am still going through a breakup?
no i wouldn't consider you a slut. i would say weak and vulnerable at the moment. dont call him...dont do anything that reminds you of him. find constructive ways to get over him rather than sleep with people. hang out with your friends, take up a hobby..something. the more and longer you contact this guy and try to see him or talk to him, the longer it will take before you get over him and move on! good luckWas it right to get physical with someone when am still going through a breakup?
get over it. sorry, people move on. i know how you feel, it sucks but you have to move on. and id adivise you not to sleep with married people. bad karma
Friday, August 20, 2010
Why do i feel like this ? please help - heartbreak after breakup?
hey. so im 17.
fell hard for a guy for the first time. i know it all sounds corny like in books but yeah im sure loads of you have been there, i didnt fall in love, but i could of done, i liked him that much.
never feelt like it
but
we ended the other day.
i was close to a guy before him, who for 3 years weve been friends now but more before i was with this guy.
now weve split up
nothing feels right. my mind keeps flicking back to him, thoughts about him, every single day. i miss him. its nothing too bad at first it was bloody awful. but not im coping.
why does it feel like
i cant feel right with any other guy without him popping up
i lost my virginity to him
i cant imagine sleeping with any other guy, even the one i thought i would lose it to.
close to him 2 years before that, didnt lose it to him.. yet a month in i did with my ex. he seemed right. i didnt even think about it, and i have nor regrets at all. but i imagine me sleepin with another guy
but my ex popping back to mind,,
i reaaally liked him, hence why i let him go
but
is this usual? dont tell me its normal we all go through it. any detailed ways of telling me please :// ?
will this pass? i dont think i was in love. but i never realised how much i know about him, how blind i was, till now.. or is that the process of falling? cause i dont feel in so much pain i need him , i just feel attached still.
will this get easier?
we were so close, yet only spent once twice a week together, for up to 27hours at a time.. he was 20 im 17.. hmm. please help
MY MIND keeps going back to how intense sex was etc, how meaningful and right it felt, and how close we were, i dont regret it at all, i just miss what we had and that was a way of knowing how deep it was. get me ?Why do i feel like this ? please help - heartbreak after breakup?
THIS WILL PASS, DARLING. Don't worry. Hang in there... There's always a rainbow after the rain.
I know you will think that you'll never get over your ex because your mind would go back to the great sex you had with him and all. I know that it was very meaningful to you given the fact that you gave your valuable purity to him, but you have to know that maybe he was just not meant for you. Everything happens for a reason. There are a lot of things that could help you get over him in no time. Try to distract you mind with new approaches. Maybe a rebound guy is too new for you, or you're just not ready yet. How about hanging out and chilling with your girlfriends %26amp; family? Have fun and don't spend your days in your room thinking how you and him could have been now. You have to stop that sooner or later. The right man for you is out there somewhere. It will just take a little more time for you to realize that. Be strong, girl.Why do i feel like this ? please help - heartbreak after breakup?
Because you were in love with him. You loved him and it HURTS to lose that. Especially. ESPECIALLY. since you lost your virginity to him. That always deeply connects you to a person.
These love stories are the saddest. I am going through one right now.
I'm sorry, I wish I could tell you of something that would relieve the pain.
I lol'd at he was 20 and your 17. Why does that happen so much? Makes me sad.
Anyway what you are feeling is attachment. I can tell he was your first big fall, that you really really liked. It does happen to everyone but not often. Chances are out of all the filth you're used to he was a gold puzzle piece that just didn't fit right. So he was good and all that, but you have to get over him and find the next one.
You were starting to get used to him and when you lose someone that you've did a lot with, you start missing them bunches. It just happened to me the other day. And the only thing you can do is think about all the bad things that happened and try your best to not think about the good times because if you do, it makes it 10 times worse. I wish you luck :
|Don't you notice?
After tht guy said, i guess, flowery stuff to u, and after commiting such thing, u broke up (or *he left u?) It just sounds lyk a game tht tht person played on u, just for his desire..
u no, iv herd alot of girls in the same situation as u, and they all ended up the same.. or were dumped in the same way after commiting the thing u were talking bout..
u no, girls don recognize to these kinds of things as much.. they r naive to themselves, thts why they let these things happen to them, humiliating themselves, and hurt themselves in the end... its usually always women or girls.. well there shudnt be usually but, its always girls side to get tricked and dumped and hurt a lot.. the boyz don care, theyre in fact satisfied bcuz they had their desires fulfilled.. and its up to u whether u want to wake up to the fact tht its true and look more around of ur friends or other girls out there and stop it for urself, or just ignore this messege and get hurt all the time with just.. in the end having to think tht tht was all meaningless.. but sister, plz think more carefully for youself... u can contact me directly if ud lyk, im always open :)
you will find another guy love :) and you will forget him eventually.
i know you dont want to hear it but these things take time. focus on you're hobbies or school. forget about guys for a bit :)
and when you do find another guy make sure he is the one (if you get this sensitive over sex) before you jump into bed with him :)
fell hard for a guy for the first time. i know it all sounds corny like in books but yeah im sure loads of you have been there, i didnt fall in love, but i could of done, i liked him that much.
never feelt like it
but
we ended the other day.
i was close to a guy before him, who for 3 years weve been friends now but more before i was with this guy.
now weve split up
nothing feels right. my mind keeps flicking back to him, thoughts about him, every single day. i miss him. its nothing too bad at first it was bloody awful. but not im coping.
why does it feel like
i cant feel right with any other guy without him popping up
i lost my virginity to him
i cant imagine sleeping with any other guy, even the one i thought i would lose it to.
close to him 2 years before that, didnt lose it to him.. yet a month in i did with my ex. he seemed right. i didnt even think about it, and i have nor regrets at all. but i imagine me sleepin with another guy
but my ex popping back to mind,,
i reaaally liked him, hence why i let him go
but
is this usual? dont tell me its normal we all go through it. any detailed ways of telling me please :// ?
will this pass? i dont think i was in love. but i never realised how much i know about him, how blind i was, till now.. or is that the process of falling? cause i dont feel in so much pain i need him , i just feel attached still.
will this get easier?
we were so close, yet only spent once twice a week together, for up to 27hours at a time.. he was 20 im 17.. hmm. please help
MY MIND keeps going back to how intense sex was etc, how meaningful and right it felt, and how close we were, i dont regret it at all, i just miss what we had and that was a way of knowing how deep it was. get me ?Why do i feel like this ? please help - heartbreak after breakup?
THIS WILL PASS, DARLING. Don't worry. Hang in there... There's always a rainbow after the rain.
I know you will think that you'll never get over your ex because your mind would go back to the great sex you had with him and all. I know that it was very meaningful to you given the fact that you gave your valuable purity to him, but you have to know that maybe he was just not meant for you. Everything happens for a reason. There are a lot of things that could help you get over him in no time. Try to distract you mind with new approaches. Maybe a rebound guy is too new for you, or you're just not ready yet. How about hanging out and chilling with your girlfriends %26amp; family? Have fun and don't spend your days in your room thinking how you and him could have been now. You have to stop that sooner or later. The right man for you is out there somewhere. It will just take a little more time for you to realize that. Be strong, girl.Why do i feel like this ? please help - heartbreak after breakup?
Because you were in love with him. You loved him and it HURTS to lose that. Especially. ESPECIALLY. since you lost your virginity to him. That always deeply connects you to a person.
These love stories are the saddest. I am going through one right now.
I'm sorry, I wish I could tell you of something that would relieve the pain.
I lol'd at he was 20 and your 17. Why does that happen so much? Makes me sad.
Anyway what you are feeling is attachment. I can tell he was your first big fall, that you really really liked. It does happen to everyone but not often. Chances are out of all the filth you're used to he was a gold puzzle piece that just didn't fit right. So he was good and all that, but you have to get over him and find the next one.
You were starting to get used to him and when you lose someone that you've did a lot with, you start missing them bunches. It just happened to me the other day. And the only thing you can do is think about all the bad things that happened and try your best to not think about the good times because if you do, it makes it 10 times worse. I wish you luck :
|Don't you notice?
After tht guy said, i guess, flowery stuff to u, and after commiting such thing, u broke up (or *he left u?) It just sounds lyk a game tht tht person played on u, just for his desire..
u no, iv herd alot of girls in the same situation as u, and they all ended up the same.. or were dumped in the same way after commiting the thing u were talking bout..
u no, girls don recognize to these kinds of things as much.. they r naive to themselves, thts why they let these things happen to them, humiliating themselves, and hurt themselves in the end... its usually always women or girls.. well there shudnt be usually but, its always girls side to get tricked and dumped and hurt a lot.. the boyz don care, theyre in fact satisfied bcuz they had their desires fulfilled.. and its up to u whether u want to wake up to the fact tht its true and look more around of ur friends or other girls out there and stop it for urself, or just ignore this messege and get hurt all the time with just.. in the end having to think tht tht was all meaningless.. but sister, plz think more carefully for youself... u can contact me directly if ud lyk, im always open :)
you will find another guy love :) and you will forget him eventually.
i know you dont want to hear it but these things take time. focus on you're hobbies or school. forget about guys for a bit :)
and when you do find another guy make sure he is the one (if you get this sensitive over sex) before you jump into bed with him :)
How did you deal with your first real breakup?
im 17 years old and ive been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half, he was my first boyfriend and we broke up about a week ago, he changed, isnt the same person he was in the beginning and i was tired of dealing with it, so i was forced to break up with him because i didnt want to be put through his crap anymore....
ive been so good and hiding my emotions but as our friends start finding out it gets harder... im so heartbroken and i cry so much when im alone cause i just cant believe after everything we've been through he could be so careless of me and stop loving me
it hurts so badd and i need to know how you coped with it??
how you got through it? it feels impossible to get over.
i feel terrible
How did you deal with your first real breakup?
it hurts when you break up. you have lost a big part of your daily life. You will get over this and it will make you strong. Try to think about what was good and take that with you to the next relationship. It is great that you know what you want and not to settle for anything less. Feel better.How did you deal with your first real breakup?
I didn't handle it real well. I just got depressed, moped around the house and cried a lot.
I wrote some poetry about it, but the poetry really sucked.
After a few months I started viewing girls I met as ';possibilities'; and suddenly everything was okay.
Hey im 15 and i delt with mine first break up with taking my mine off of my girlfriend. I figured i had to move on. there is someone out there for everyone so i figured she wasnt the one. I did things i like to do and talked it over with some close friends. but i got over it and u will too so hang in there ok. i wish u the best!
will i had my first b friend when i went to vacations at mexico it turn out thet he is my 3rd cousin i broke up with him after i knew he was my cousin i didn't care i just call my cousin to tell him it is over
Well its going to be hard for a while but just try not to be alone and spend time with friends. That's will make you not think of him. Plus there's always more guys! :0)
that life
life isn't fare get used to that
plus ur young yull find someone else hes a jerk
nd u should never cry over guys it wont do nothing it just makes u look stupid
Iam also 17 and im still dealing with my first boyfriend...They change my boyfriend has chaged he is carless of my thoughts and often is mean to me..I do cry often and im depressed always..and a word of advice be so thankful that u got out of your sistuation cause they wont change back to who they are in the begging! Dont go back to him thats the biggest mistake take it from someone who knows. U should try and date other people and who knows in the end maybe something good will come out of you and your ex. Or then agin you could find someone who will mean much more to you and treat you the way you need to be treated.
ive been so good and hiding my emotions but as our friends start finding out it gets harder... im so heartbroken and i cry so much when im alone cause i just cant believe after everything we've been through he could be so careless of me and stop loving me
it hurts so badd and i need to know how you coped with it??
how you got through it? it feels impossible to get over.
i feel terrible
How did you deal with your first real breakup?
it hurts when you break up. you have lost a big part of your daily life. You will get over this and it will make you strong. Try to think about what was good and take that with you to the next relationship. It is great that you know what you want and not to settle for anything less. Feel better.How did you deal with your first real breakup?
I didn't handle it real well. I just got depressed, moped around the house and cried a lot.
I wrote some poetry about it, but the poetry really sucked.
After a few months I started viewing girls I met as ';possibilities'; and suddenly everything was okay.
Hey im 15 and i delt with mine first break up with taking my mine off of my girlfriend. I figured i had to move on. there is someone out there for everyone so i figured she wasnt the one. I did things i like to do and talked it over with some close friends. but i got over it and u will too so hang in there ok. i wish u the best!
will i had my first b friend when i went to vacations at mexico it turn out thet he is my 3rd cousin i broke up with him after i knew he was my cousin i didn't care i just call my cousin to tell him it is over
Well its going to be hard for a while but just try not to be alone and spend time with friends. That's will make you not think of him. Plus there's always more guys! :0)
that life
life isn't fare get used to that
plus ur young yull find someone else hes a jerk
nd u should never cry over guys it wont do nothing it just makes u look stupid
Iam also 17 and im still dealing with my first boyfriend...They change my boyfriend has chaged he is carless of my thoughts and often is mean to me..I do cry often and im depressed always..and a word of advice be so thankful that u got out of your sistuation cause they wont change back to who they are in the begging! Dont go back to him thats the biggest mistake take it from someone who knows. U should try and date other people and who knows in the end maybe something good will come out of you and your ex. Or then agin you could find someone who will mean much more to you and treat you the way you need to be treated.
How to cope with break up?
i have been the shoulders for many people during there breakups i cannot believe one day this will happen to me. my ex and i had been together for almost three years. from the get go i knew we are too different but he convinced me that he wasn't what i and his friends thought he was. we dated and moved in together. fights started a few months later about insensitivities and inconsiderations. but we managed to talked through them and figured out ways to try to avoid feelings being hurt and etc. long story short, we got a house together beginning of the year. at the same time i also quit my well paying job to school full time. we agreed that he will take care of the finance until i get my degree which is summer next year. things started going down hill after that. he started going out and do things without me. we hardly talked. last week labor weekend he broke up with me claiming that he couldn't be himself when he is with. my problem is what is himself. i was an open book when i got with him. he on the other hand put on a mask and toward the end the mask fell off. he demands time to himself and his friends. he thinks my demand to be treated a little better than his friends is unreasonable and blah blah blah. i was stunned. he dismissed me just like that. he asked me to make a list of things i will take and a date of when i am going to be moving out. i asked him what about all the decisions that we made together that ultimately alters my life. he left me without job, income, and place to live. well to be fair he said that if i need money go get a job and i do have a roof at my mom's. at the worst possible point of the relationship he was calm and collective. he asks me to sign over the deed of the house. i almost did but my family came to my rescue. they take me in and help me see what a piece of work he is. besides the legality of property and such...almost three year relationship is hard to get over. anyone has any advice? i read bunch of stuff online about pampering myself and such but i have no money to do so. anyone know of any group or association that i could join and get my mind off of things. i am at the point of going to depression but i am so close to getting my degree. i hate to waste all the efforts that i put into it but it is so hard to study and enjoy my year of internship...please help!!!!!!!!!How to cope with break up?
You had mentioned in the beginning of this that you had been there for others. I say call up your girlfriends and guyfriends and movie nights. Have everyone bring a snack or drink. You could also have game nights have everyone bring their favorite games. If you guys are open to making fools out of yourselves there is a great game called
Hilarium. (sp?).
My roomate and I are both in college and not well off as well and these seem to be the best things for price and fun. Since thanksgiving is coming up too another thing is you can have a friends get together for that too and have everyone bring something. Same with Christmas. Holidays can be the worst so it helps to have friends near by. Granted you do not have to do these ON the actual holiday but around it.
The whole story sounds horrible. I am sorry you had to go through that. But whatever you do try not to let him ruin the rest of your life...again. What I mean is make sure you focus on school you are almost done. Whenever you feel like you are dealing with too much take a bath. You don't have to go to a spa to relax.
I hope this helps. Good luckHow to cope with break up?
always keep in mind that they do not deserve you....
you are meant for someone you just hvnt seen him yet.....
Your still in School and there will be plenty of guys for you. Relationships are hard and if he can't accept what your doing to try to better yourself than he wasn't worth it to begin with. Hod your head up high and don't let him bother you even if you see him on the street somewhere. Smile and move on.
I've been there and I know it's painful but you will get through it
Good luck
me and my boyfriend broke up to after 3 years it was hard but you need to just get over it go out with your friends have funn to stuff you never got to do when you were with him.me and my boyfriend got back together maybe you will too.and yess you should be treated way better than any of his friends.
You had mentioned in the beginning of this that you had been there for others. I say call up your girlfriends and guyfriends and movie nights. Have everyone bring a snack or drink. You could also have game nights have everyone bring their favorite games. If you guys are open to making fools out of yourselves there is a great game called
Hilarium. (sp?).
My roomate and I are both in college and not well off as well and these seem to be the best things for price and fun. Since thanksgiving is coming up too another thing is you can have a friends get together for that too and have everyone bring something. Same with Christmas. Holidays can be the worst so it helps to have friends near by. Granted you do not have to do these ON the actual holiday but around it.
The whole story sounds horrible. I am sorry you had to go through that. But whatever you do try not to let him ruin the rest of your life...again. What I mean is make sure you focus on school you are almost done. Whenever you feel like you are dealing with too much take a bath. You don't have to go to a spa to relax.
I hope this helps. Good luckHow to cope with break up?
always keep in mind that they do not deserve you....
you are meant for someone you just hvnt seen him yet.....
Your still in School and there will be plenty of guys for you. Relationships are hard and if he can't accept what your doing to try to better yourself than he wasn't worth it to begin with. Hod your head up high and don't let him bother you even if you see him on the street somewhere. Smile and move on.
I've been there and I know it's painful but you will get through it
Good luck
me and my boyfriend broke up to after 3 years it was hard but you need to just get over it go out with your friends have funn to stuff you never got to do when you were with him.me and my boyfriend got back together maybe you will too.and yess you should be treated way better than any of his friends.
Has anyone ever had a relationship end because of someone else interfering, thus causing it to end?
Any advice on how to cope?
(In my case, she was flirting with him three days before the break-up.) And denies it all to me (the guy) at the breakup.) And I didn't know until the day after. also, they went out two days after, our breakup. and it seems like its going strong for two months. do you guys think it's going to end?Has anyone ever had a relationship end because of someone else interfering, thus causing it to end?
You never know with these things. But im sure if you move on she will probably be jealous.Has anyone ever had a relationship end because of someone else interfering, thus causing it to end?
Ya.. It may. Coz., she may get another guy and she can leave this guy na.,
(In my case, she was flirting with him three days before the break-up.) And denies it all to me (the guy) at the breakup.) And I didn't know until the day after. also, they went out two days after, our breakup. and it seems like its going strong for two months. do you guys think it's going to end?Has anyone ever had a relationship end because of someone else interfering, thus causing it to end?
You never know with these things. But im sure if you move on she will probably be jealous.Has anyone ever had a relationship end because of someone else interfering, thus causing it to end?
Ya.. It may. Coz., she may get another guy and she can leave this guy na.,
How do I deal with this breakup?
Hi there, I hope someone can help me, I met a fantastic guy about a year ago and we have been hopelessy in love ever since. Im 40 years old and have never in my life felt so loved, respected and happy. The guy involved is Italian and has two children that moved to Italy with his ex some 6 months ago. He has been visiting every month or so, but not as often as he liked due to work / money problems. We had an argument a few weeks ago and booked a one way flight back to Italy telling me that I was the only thing that had kept him here. We made up before he left and he told me that he would be back as soon as he could sort out his finances (a month or so) He rang me every day for the first week or so and he was seriosuly unhappy as the ex had not been coping to good with his boys, and he was worried about leaving them again, on Monday he rang me and basically told me that although I am the love of his life he cannot come back as the kids need him too much, I am devastedHow do I deal with this breakup?
I wouldn't follow Kc idea to become a stalker. How do you feel about moving over there? He sounds honest enough, I doubt he could bring the children out of the country if the mother still lives there, and so I don't think he is just feeding you a line, so you have to decide what is more important, him, or the rest of your life? Family, friends etc... Then if you think you could make the move, contact him and suggest it.
If not, or if he doesn't come across as overjoyed by the suggestion, then I'm sorry, but you just have the long hard road to getting over it to walk down, and there is no real advice, other than you're not the only person making that walk, but we all get by in the end.How do I deal with this breakup?
Could you take a few days holiday from work? Then you should go and have a look at what is happening. I wouldn't say that I was coming, just book your hotel room, and make sure you have his address and all that and go and see for yourself.
You can either wait, let go, or get all the facts before you make a decision. Who knows, you might want to live in Italy! Good luck!xxx
Offer to move to Italy to be with him and see what his response is. Even if you couldn't possibly go it'll give you an insight as to how he really feels. Based on what you've typed I think there's something fishy going on, are you sure his ex is really his ex and there isn't still something more between them? Even if the truth isn't what you'd hoped for then at least you can get on with your life knowing it's really over.
sorry to hear this but as you know life goes on and you must get over this so be strong for your own sake and forget himas he has gone back to his wife
Whether he is lying or not doesn't really matter. He has decided he doesn't want to be with you and you need to accept that and get on with your life.
Don't be bitter, but take the attitude, 'a well it was good while it lasted.'
That way you can put it down to experience and get on with your life.
I know this is hard for you (if you really are the love of his life) but his children do need him. He (if he is being honest) sounds very responsible.
I would try to talk him into returning with his children. If he really loves you, he will try to find a way to do that instead of making excuses as to why he can't.
If he suggests ways: he's telling the truth.
If he says he can't leave and gives you a list of reasons: he's lying to you.stars myspace trojan
I wouldn't follow Kc idea to become a stalker. How do you feel about moving over there? He sounds honest enough, I doubt he could bring the children out of the country if the mother still lives there, and so I don't think he is just feeding you a line, so you have to decide what is more important, him, or the rest of your life? Family, friends etc... Then if you think you could make the move, contact him and suggest it.
If not, or if he doesn't come across as overjoyed by the suggestion, then I'm sorry, but you just have the long hard road to getting over it to walk down, and there is no real advice, other than you're not the only person making that walk, but we all get by in the end.How do I deal with this breakup?
Could you take a few days holiday from work? Then you should go and have a look at what is happening. I wouldn't say that I was coming, just book your hotel room, and make sure you have his address and all that and go and see for yourself.
You can either wait, let go, or get all the facts before you make a decision. Who knows, you might want to live in Italy! Good luck!xxx
Offer to move to Italy to be with him and see what his response is. Even if you couldn't possibly go it'll give you an insight as to how he really feels. Based on what you've typed I think there's something fishy going on, are you sure his ex is really his ex and there isn't still something more between them? Even if the truth isn't what you'd hoped for then at least you can get on with your life knowing it's really over.
sorry to hear this but as you know life goes on and you must get over this so be strong for your own sake and forget himas he has gone back to his wife
Whether he is lying or not doesn't really matter. He has decided he doesn't want to be with you and you need to accept that and get on with your life.
Don't be bitter, but take the attitude, 'a well it was good while it lasted.'
That way you can put it down to experience and get on with your life.
I know this is hard for you (if you really are the love of his life) but his children do need him. He (if he is being honest) sounds very responsible.
I would try to talk him into returning with his children. If he really loves you, he will try to find a way to do that instead of making excuses as to why he can't.
If he suggests ways: he's telling the truth.
If he says he can't leave and gives you a list of reasons: he's lying to you.
Friend casting doubt on my relationship to make herself feel better after a nasty breakup--how to handle?
I have a friend, L, living abroad. Few months ago, I was visiting her and met a guy, B. We spoke frequently over email, and on my return saw a lot of each other. We both see the potential for love and future, especially since I happen to be studying abroad not far from him next year. The friend I have to thank for my meeting him just broke up with her boyfriend as I was on my flight back. I've spent a lot of time consoling her; I'm her friend and I'm glad to help, but her ways of coping are hurtful. B was a flirt and a playboy. He told me this straight out and that he has no interest in doing it anymore because he respects me. I trust him. L seems to delight in bringing it up, disguised as concern that I'll be hurt, offering to keep her eye on him while I'm at home. I find it hurtful that she brings it up, as if making sure I know that while her love life isn't great, mine is worse. I'm getting sick of talking to her b/c she has nothing to say, and I was wondering if anyone had advice?Friend casting doubt on my relationship to make herself feel better after a nasty breakup--how to handle?
She obviously doesn't sound like a true friend. He seems unsure of himself as well. Get on with your life, meet new friends and Im sure the right guy will come a long for you. You don't need friends like that in your life.
She obviously doesn't sound like a true friend. He seems unsure of himself as well. Get on with your life, meet new friends and Im sure the right guy will come a long for you. You don't need friends like that in your life.
Still in love with exgirlfriend but shes moved on. How do I cope? What can I do?
My ex girlfriend dumped me 4 months ago. Within 2 weeks she was back with her ex boyfriend who she was in a 2 year relationship with before me. We were together for 7 months. When i heard this i poured my heart out to her in texts bc she wouldnt talk to me on the phone. She just responded that our love was puppy love. And she really never loved me. She said she regretted even telling me these things bc it was awkward. When we were together we always had fun. We loved eachother and told eachother it often. We talked about our future together and how we will travel and what will our first sons name would be. I was dead set on her being my wife in the future. She was perfect. I am very picky she is only my second serious girlfriend. I even moved to be closer to her a few states and changed careers...thats how strong i felt for her. I was so secure in that she loved me. Then she started to become distant. Not saying i love you back. And not wanting to hang out as much. And I asked her if she wanted out of the relationship and she said yes. She told me she didnt want a serious relationship. Its not you its me. And I was like i dont understand. And she was like I need to do this for me. Well she broke up with her ex boyfriend she got back with. And guess what 2 weeks later she was with this other guy. Who was textn her while we were dating. She broke up with him and I took the opportunity to ask her to go to lunch. But she couldnt bc of school and she didnt offer to reschedule. Well she got back with the guy. And she would text me out of the blue askin me what i was doing. This made me think she missed me. Well she got wind of this other girl in my life on facebook. And asked me who she was. I told her that I still had feelings for her and missed her. She told me it was bad timing and that someone else was making her happy. She told me to date this other girl and take care of her. She told me that she will remember all the beautiful memories we had and would measure other guys up to how i spoiled her. I told her that I feel like its a shame that we are letting what was between us go. And I told her all my feelings for her, and asked if she missed me or had feelings for me. And she responded with IDK what to say other than im happy. So then i told her not to text me and to please stay out of my life so I can move on. I told her that she obviously doesnt have feelings for me or she wouldnt chose this guy she knew for a month over someone who cared for her for 7. Well its been a week and i havent heard from her. Also I deleted her from facebok and myspace b/c i used to always check them. And when i saw she was having fun without me it hurt like hell. Anyways now I am in a new state with no job, not as many friends, and missing the girl i wanted to marry. Everything has been affected by her leaving. I dont even really have the self confidence i used to with girls. I just dont know how to get over this. I wish another girl would just come into my life and make me forget about my ex. It just hurts thinkin about my ex with this new guy and being happy while im hurting. I go to clubs and bars trying to meet someone and its not working. I am lonely and depressed. Its so unfair that she can breakup with me and be with someone 2 weeks later. Please if anyone has any advice on how to get on with my life? How to ease the pain of my ex's memory? Advice on how to get my confidence back and meet new girls? Sorry this was long. I just have a lot on my mind. thanks.Still in love with exgirlfriend but shes moved on. How do I cope? What can I do?
The more you think about her, the deeper the hole you dig for yourself. At this time, your highest priority is to rebuild your life: go back to school or find a job. Concentrate on rebuilding your life. Once you are on your own feet again with a job, you will be busy and will not have time to torture yourself, and everything else will fall in place.
Ten years from now, you will look back and see that this whole thing is just a bump on the road. You still need to keep your eyes on the destination. It is easier said than done, but unfortunately that is the only most healthy and logical way to get out of a mess. You want so show your ex that you are strong and leaving you is HER mistake.
By all means, do not rush into another relationship in thinking it will help. What if you get dumped again? Good luck.Still in love with exgirlfriend but shes moved on. How do I cope? What can I do?
you need to redirect your thinking....
If she was ';perfect'; for you.. she would be with you and not the ex.
Time will heal- as hard as it is- you just need to move on.
You will find your perfect one and now you are that much closer =)
Her being back with her ex within 2 weeks would be all I need to get over her...Move on and don't just remember the good times. TIME will heal ...
Keep yourself busy! She is not going to help your heartache now so do not contact her for support. Go swimming , walking, .... talk to sypathetic people who are willing to listen to you. Live people, strangers even! There are kind people everywhere. You were used for her own emotional benifit no matter the cost to you, that was wrong selfish and mean to do. Take my advice!
Quit feeling sorry for yourself, she was never over her ex, therefore the entire relationship was bullshit. She is just not worth getting this upset over. Blaming your self confindence on that is just crap talk. She was never over the guy, you were a rebound, you can never take that personally. Believe me you will feel this way again, but it will be reciprocated, then you will understand. Advice for the future, never date someone who just got out of a serious relationship, UNLESS, you want to be the rebound guy.
The more you think about her, the deeper the hole you dig for yourself. At this time, your highest priority is to rebuild your life: go back to school or find a job. Concentrate on rebuilding your life. Once you are on your own feet again with a job, you will be busy and will not have time to torture yourself, and everything else will fall in place.
Ten years from now, you will look back and see that this whole thing is just a bump on the road. You still need to keep your eyes on the destination. It is easier said than done, but unfortunately that is the only most healthy and logical way to get out of a mess. You want so show your ex that you are strong and leaving you is HER mistake.
By all means, do not rush into another relationship in thinking it will help. What if you get dumped again? Good luck.Still in love with exgirlfriend but shes moved on. How do I cope? What can I do?
you need to redirect your thinking....
If she was ';perfect'; for you.. she would be with you and not the ex.
Time will heal- as hard as it is- you just need to move on.
You will find your perfect one and now you are that much closer =)
Her being back with her ex within 2 weeks would be all I need to get over her...Move on and don't just remember the good times. TIME will heal ...
Keep yourself busy! She is not going to help your heartache now so do not contact her for support. Go swimming , walking, .... talk to sypathetic people who are willing to listen to you. Live people, strangers even! There are kind people everywhere. You were used for her own emotional benifit no matter the cost to you, that was wrong selfish and mean to do. Take my advice!
Quit feeling sorry for yourself, she was never over her ex, therefore the entire relationship was bullshit. She is just not worth getting this upset over. Blaming your self confindence on that is just crap talk. She was never over the guy, you were a rebound, you can never take that personally. Believe me you will feel this way again, but it will be reciprocated, then you will understand. Advice for the future, never date someone who just got out of a serious relationship, UNLESS, you want to be the rebound guy.
My ex-girlfriend is sleeping with somebody else already. How do I cope?
My ex of 2 years dumped me about 6 weeks ago and told me that she just didn't have the energy to try to make our relationship work anymore. She also pretty much outlined everything that is wrong with me, and everything I had done wrong in the last 6 months, without taking any of the blame herself. This made me feel horrible, because I was (and still am, unfortunately) in love with her. We did have a few bad fights a while ago, which I feel so guilty about now. Anyway, I had to move out of our place together, because we shared it with her girlfriend, so I was essentially kicked out. To make matters worse, I had to pay a month's rent after I moved out because my name was on the lease. Needless to say, I am completely humiliated and heartbroken. She told me that she didn't want to see anybody else, she just needed to be alone for a while. She said that maybe she's just too young and is going through a selfish phase.
I've been seriously hurting for these past 6 weeks, and I had to move back into my parents house. I defriended her on facebook, but she tagged a bunch of photos with our mutual friend in them, so I caved in and looked, and she is hanging on, and kissing up on this guy in a club. Also my friend told me that they are pretty much hooking up. I just feel devastated, like I didn't matter to her at all, and she can move on that quickly. I don't get it, our relationship was amazing for over a year and a half, and she used to talk about marriage and kids, and the whole nine. I got dumped, got kicked out of her place, and have been suffering since, and she just seems happy and fine, and is now sleeping with some other dude already. Does anybody have any advice on how to deal with this? I know I should just get over her already, because maybe she showed her true colors since the breakup, but I just feel stuck and so hurt by this. Sorry to ramble, thanks for reading.My ex-girlfriend is sleeping with somebody else already. How do I cope?
Your ex thought that you weren’t good enough for her little sassy self, obviously she thinks she’s hot so she knows she can get any guy she wants, the guy she is “sleeping with now” will not last, she will either move on back to you, or move on to another man. The thing is, if she comes back to you, YOU HAVE TO REJECT HER! I mean she will just keep breaking your heart, over and over. Trust me I know. You do need to move on…your right those are her “true colors”. And I fell sorry for your Ex, she is obviously loosing a great guy.My ex-girlfriend is sleeping with somebody else already. How do I cope?
B1tches are like that...one of my friends is going through this too...is BS thats why i dont get in love with girls, just try to find a new one to have fun just dont get in love
if she,s your ex then she can sleep with whoever she wants to. the same way with you. once you 2 broke up then both of you are free.
Dude $h*t happens. It sucks what happened to you, but you need to suck it up and move on.
Keep yourself crazy busy, maybe try something new. Go out with the boys and meet some new girls.
Don't wallow in a cesspool of darkness and despair. Get on a boat and sail right throught the MF!
Good luck!
I've been seriously hurting for these past 6 weeks, and I had to move back into my parents house. I defriended her on facebook, but she tagged a bunch of photos with our mutual friend in them, so I caved in and looked, and she is hanging on, and kissing up on this guy in a club. Also my friend told me that they are pretty much hooking up. I just feel devastated, like I didn't matter to her at all, and she can move on that quickly. I don't get it, our relationship was amazing for over a year and a half, and she used to talk about marriage and kids, and the whole nine. I got dumped, got kicked out of her place, and have been suffering since, and she just seems happy and fine, and is now sleeping with some other dude already. Does anybody have any advice on how to deal with this? I know I should just get over her already, because maybe she showed her true colors since the breakup, but I just feel stuck and so hurt by this. Sorry to ramble, thanks for reading.My ex-girlfriend is sleeping with somebody else already. How do I cope?
Your ex thought that you weren’t good enough for her little sassy self, obviously she thinks she’s hot so she knows she can get any guy she wants, the guy she is “sleeping with now” will not last, she will either move on back to you, or move on to another man. The thing is, if she comes back to you, YOU HAVE TO REJECT HER! I mean she will just keep breaking your heart, over and over. Trust me I know. You do need to move on…your right those are her “true colors”. And I fell sorry for your Ex, she is obviously loosing a great guy.My ex-girlfriend is sleeping with somebody else already. How do I cope?
B1tches are like that...one of my friends is going through this too...is BS thats why i dont get in love with girls, just try to find a new one to have fun just dont get in love
if she,s your ex then she can sleep with whoever she wants to. the same way with you. once you 2 broke up then both of you are free.
Dude $h*t happens. It sucks what happened to you, but you need to suck it up and move on.
Keep yourself crazy busy, maybe try something new. Go out with the boys and meet some new girls.
Don't wallow in a cesspool of darkness and despair. Get on a boat and sail right throught the MF!
Good luck!
Help! I NEED A GUYS PERSPECTIVE. How can my ex boyfriend breakup with me if he still cares for me so much?
Please bear with me here. I'm 18 years old and just graduated high school last spring (class of '09). I loved high school for the most part and what surprised everyone (and even myself) was when I started dating my friend who I've had a crush on since he was a freshmen. Problem is, while we're one year apart age wise. We're two years apart grade wise (When he was a sophomore, I was a senior). We always flirted and he really fell for me hard, I always liked him but I was afraid because he was younger. I never made a move on him and the tables turned last winter when he made a move on me at my last winter formal dance. I had an amazing time and he ended up going in for a kiss and kissing me. Everyone was shocked because I didn't date any guys in high school. I don't yearn for flings as much as real relationships. Regardless to say, he knocked me off my feet and even though I was about to graduate and he was a sophomore we started dating and I was the happiest I'd ever been in my life. I'm going to community college so I live nearby. But after summer ended things started to change. He broke up with me once in September of last year for no real reason. He said he just wanted space. We both cried and I was a wreck. I'd never had a real first love/first boyfriend/first sex before and didn't know how to cope with losing him. I gave him some space but eventually fought for him back and we got back together less than a month later. We shared some really good memories and laughs and I can honestly say he was my bestfriend. I could go on and on about the things he's done for me to show how much he cares and respects me. But out of the blue he dumped me again several weeks ago. He just said he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. But it was nothing I did wrong. This time around I stopped talking to him for the most part even though it still pains me. I feel like a part of me died and he says he would take a bullet for me anyday and that he still thinks about me everyday. He says he's really messed up and confused and just needs to figure who he is. He said he felt like we were in a little marriage and already starting to solve problems and things were getting to routine and boring. He says he wants to remain friends after I get over him but I don't know if I can ever see him in that light ever again. I miss him everyday and love him so much it hurts. I can't stand to see him party and do stupid stuff since I've been there and done that and eventually you realize it's not all that it cracked up to be... Idk what to do. Is it stupid to wait? If he misses me and cares for me so much why did he break up with me? Do you think when he matures more that he'll realize what he had?Help! I NEED A GUYS PERSPECTIVE. How can my ex boyfriend breakup with me if he still cares for me so much?
the ';things are getting too routine and boring'; line is straight BS. He's seein someone else n you need to find someone worth you as well. He's immature. I'm 25, I'm a guy I know these things. My ex felt the same way, always needed action and excitement to stimulate her, all it boils down to is they're not happy with their life for whatever reason, and they need SOMEONE ELSE to live it for them and be their partner in crime cuz they can't do it themselves. They have a hard time accepting life and what it entails. They have no sense of loyalty and passion, they just seek stimulation. I hope as much as you do that they can grow up one day, but don't put yourself in a position to get hurt for it, they'll most likely hate you for trying to ';be controlling';. You seem like a mature girl, just don't fall for the players hun, you'll find a perfect match, and never lower your standards.Help! I NEED A GUYS PERSPECTIVE. How can my ex boyfriend breakup with me if he still cares for me so much?
He might want space because he's not sure if you're the girl he wants to be with because some people hate wasting time in relationships. Or mabye he's not sure if he's gay or not.
I don't know
the ';things are getting too routine and boring'; line is straight BS. He's seein someone else n you need to find someone worth you as well. He's immature. I'm 25, I'm a guy I know these things. My ex felt the same way, always needed action and excitement to stimulate her, all it boils down to is they're not happy with their life for whatever reason, and they need SOMEONE ELSE to live it for them and be their partner in crime cuz they can't do it themselves. They have a hard time accepting life and what it entails. They have no sense of loyalty and passion, they just seek stimulation. I hope as much as you do that they can grow up one day, but don't put yourself in a position to get hurt for it, they'll most likely hate you for trying to ';be controlling';. You seem like a mature girl, just don't fall for the players hun, you'll find a perfect match, and never lower your standards.Help! I NEED A GUYS PERSPECTIVE. How can my ex boyfriend breakup with me if he still cares for me so much?
He might want space because he's not sure if you're the girl he wants to be with because some people hate wasting time in relationships. Or mabye he's not sure if he's gay or not.
I don't know
How to go about things in regards to a breakup?
Hello,
I am not too sure if any of you have read my one posting in regards to ';When is enough enough'; but I am at that time now, where I feel I've had enough within this relationship I am in, and I need help.
I have never been the one to end a relationship, and I am struggling more than anything right now. I am so upset, frustrated, confused and can't even begin to tell you how much pain and loss I am feeling. I am pretty much a disaster today. Tears flowing and just not knowing what to do or how to go about things.
Last night, this guy (don't know what to call him anymore) and I had another fight, and it was pretty much one sided (he was the only one talking) Anyways, awful, cruel things were stated to me and about me, and although I've heard all of these things before, I don't want the pattern to continue, so I feel I should leave and for good.
Now I have tried in the past, but I've never stuck to it. How do I? And how do I continue the loving relationship I have with this guys parents and extended family? The mom just today wrote me an email and said that I was special to her, and she was happy that am in her sons and her life, and that she loves me very much. She is not aware of the problems that are happening and have been happening for a while. It's best to not say anything, because yes some tend to not want to know, you know? The blind eye.
I really like the mom, and have grown close to her. I don't just want to cut things off, but when you end things with the son, that's bad to keep in contact isn't it? I've been told, that the mom will always side with the son. What do I do? I've tried to tell the mom certain things before, but she is kind of the person that doesn't want to hear it. You know, if it's not stated, it's better and not happening. She's a dear person, but this is the only thing that bugs me about her.
And I am hurting extremely bad in regards to this guy. I just don't understand him, and I don't know how anyone could be so down right rude and cruel. I still love him, and I don't want to say bye. I know I have to, but I am struggling because I don't know how.
Please anyone if you've been through this, how did you cope? What did you do? How do you let the guilt go? How do you know you are making the right choice? I am scared, sad, teary eyed, and still with everything I am love this guy. I know it's stupid, but I do. I have been with him going on 6 years.
ThanksHow to go about things in regards to a breakup?
somtimes we don;t feel NEEDED Loved or wanted enuffstars myspace trojan
I am not too sure if any of you have read my one posting in regards to ';When is enough enough'; but I am at that time now, where I feel I've had enough within this relationship I am in, and I need help.
I have never been the one to end a relationship, and I am struggling more than anything right now. I am so upset, frustrated, confused and can't even begin to tell you how much pain and loss I am feeling. I am pretty much a disaster today. Tears flowing and just not knowing what to do or how to go about things.
Last night, this guy (don't know what to call him anymore) and I had another fight, and it was pretty much one sided (he was the only one talking) Anyways, awful, cruel things were stated to me and about me, and although I've heard all of these things before, I don't want the pattern to continue, so I feel I should leave and for good.
Now I have tried in the past, but I've never stuck to it. How do I? And how do I continue the loving relationship I have with this guys parents and extended family? The mom just today wrote me an email and said that I was special to her, and she was happy that am in her sons and her life, and that she loves me very much. She is not aware of the problems that are happening and have been happening for a while. It's best to not say anything, because yes some tend to not want to know, you know? The blind eye.
I really like the mom, and have grown close to her. I don't just want to cut things off, but when you end things with the son, that's bad to keep in contact isn't it? I've been told, that the mom will always side with the son. What do I do? I've tried to tell the mom certain things before, but she is kind of the person that doesn't want to hear it. You know, if it's not stated, it's better and not happening. She's a dear person, but this is the only thing that bugs me about her.
And I am hurting extremely bad in regards to this guy. I just don't understand him, and I don't know how anyone could be so down right rude and cruel. I still love him, and I don't want to say bye. I know I have to, but I am struggling because I don't know how.
Please anyone if you've been through this, how did you cope? What did you do? How do you let the guilt go? How do you know you are making the right choice? I am scared, sad, teary eyed, and still with everything I am love this guy. I know it's stupid, but I do. I have been with him going on 6 years.
ThanksHow to go about things in regards to a breakup?
somtimes we don;t feel NEEDED Loved or wanted enuff
How do I help a friend deal with a breakup from her boyfriend?
I have a lady friend who just broke up with her boyfriend and it looks to me like she is having a hard time dealing with it. I would like to help her get over the grief and let her know that I am there for her anytime she needs say a shoulder to cry on or to talk to. I don't know what to say to her.
I want her to feel comfortable talking to me and I want to feel the same way around her because I think I like her more than a friend.
I want to help her cope with it as much as I can. I want to try to get her to be friends with me. I have a list of songs i would like to put on a mix CD, maybe send her poems in a card along with my cell phone number and e-mail address to contact me anytime, or a yellow rose to let her know that I am thinking of her as a friend and at some point to get her to be my girlfriend. I don't want to push the issue right now.
Here's the list of songs that I have for a mix CD, I would like to know if these are good songs.
Joe Cocker's version of The Beatles song With a Little Help from My Friends.
You've Got a Friend by James Taylor
Bridge Over Troubled Water by Simon %26amp; Garfunkel
You're my Best Friend and Friends Will Be Friends by Queen
Come Together by The Beatles or Aerosmith's cover
Lean On Me by Bill Withers
Stand By Me by Ben E. King
and Don't Cry by Guns N' Roses
Some of the songs that I have listed I already have on CD and some of them I have to buy from iTunes which is no big deal.How do I help a friend deal with a breakup from her boyfriend?
Um here's a girl's opinion. If a guy who isn't my friend gives my a random cd of friendship songs I would think he is a creep. That is not the way to approach a girl. Especially not with a rose. If she is really that hurt from the breakup, then she only wants that one guy. She isn't thinking of a rebound at this point. U need to start by being friends with her and wait till u think she is over it to tell her u like her. And to start being friends, u don't give someone a cd. u start a conversation and go on from there with hanging out and stuff.How do I help a friend deal with a breakup from her boyfriend?
Give her some time to think and when you think shes ready ask her.
Aww you are too cute!, just be patient with her as she may not be ready to start dating. If you really mean it that you want to be her friend then go into this knowing that, just don't get mad at her if she does not reciprocate the feelings you are having towards her.
She is going to need time to heal from this old relationship and it is almost never good to be the rebound guy, you can be her friend but if you are going into this with an ulterior motive you might be the one that ends up crying, just proceed with caution.
Good luck!
Ok, look she just broke up with her boyfriend so give her time to get over him. If you become that friend that help her through this you will not become her boyfriend later. You also need to back off because that could be annoying when someone is trying too hard. So be their but not all the time. Also you don't want to become the rebound guy those relationship never work. Oh and the cd dude that is corny, I wouldn't do it. When a woman heart is hurting she don't want to hear any sappy songs.
I want her to feel comfortable talking to me and I want to feel the same way around her because I think I like her more than a friend.
I want to help her cope with it as much as I can. I want to try to get her to be friends with me. I have a list of songs i would like to put on a mix CD, maybe send her poems in a card along with my cell phone number and e-mail address to contact me anytime, or a yellow rose to let her know that I am thinking of her as a friend and at some point to get her to be my girlfriend. I don't want to push the issue right now.
Here's the list of songs that I have for a mix CD, I would like to know if these are good songs.
Joe Cocker's version of The Beatles song With a Little Help from My Friends.
You've Got a Friend by James Taylor
Bridge Over Troubled Water by Simon %26amp; Garfunkel
You're my Best Friend and Friends Will Be Friends by Queen
Come Together by The Beatles or Aerosmith's cover
Lean On Me by Bill Withers
Stand By Me by Ben E. King
and Don't Cry by Guns N' Roses
Some of the songs that I have listed I already have on CD and some of them I have to buy from iTunes which is no big deal.How do I help a friend deal with a breakup from her boyfriend?
Um here's a girl's opinion. If a guy who isn't my friend gives my a random cd of friendship songs I would think he is a creep. That is not the way to approach a girl. Especially not with a rose. If she is really that hurt from the breakup, then she only wants that one guy. She isn't thinking of a rebound at this point. U need to start by being friends with her and wait till u think she is over it to tell her u like her. And to start being friends, u don't give someone a cd. u start a conversation and go on from there with hanging out and stuff.How do I help a friend deal with a breakup from her boyfriend?
Give her some time to think and when you think shes ready ask her.
Aww you are too cute!, just be patient with her as she may not be ready to start dating. If you really mean it that you want to be her friend then go into this knowing that, just don't get mad at her if she does not reciprocate the feelings you are having towards her.
She is going to need time to heal from this old relationship and it is almost never good to be the rebound guy, you can be her friend but if you are going into this with an ulterior motive you might be the one that ends up crying, just proceed with caution.
Good luck!
Ok, look she just broke up with her boyfriend so give her time to get over him. If you become that friend that help her through this you will not become her boyfriend later. You also need to back off because that could be annoying when someone is trying too hard. So be their but not all the time. Also you don't want to become the rebound guy those relationship never work. Oh and the cd dude that is corny, I wouldn't do it. When a woman heart is hurting she don't want to hear any sappy songs.
How to go about things in regards to a breakup?
Hello,
I am not too sure if any of you have read my one posting in regards to ';When is enough enough'; but I am at that time now, where I feel I've had enough within this relationship I am in, and I need help.
I have never been the one to end a relationship, and I am struggling more than anything right now. I am so upset, frustrated, confused and can't even begin to tell you how much pain and loss I am feeling. I am pretty much a disaster today. Tears flowing and just not knowing what to do or how to go about things.
Last night, this guy (don't know what to call him anymore) and I had another fight, and it was pretty much one sided (he was the only one talking) Anyways, awful, cruel things were stated to me and about me, and although I've heard all of these things before, I don't want the pattern to continue, so I feel I should leave and for good.
Now I have tried in the past, but I've never stuck to it. How do I? And how do I continue the loving relationship I have with this guys parents and extended family? The mom just today wrote me an email and said that I was special to her, and she was happy that am in her sons and her life, and that she loves me very much. She is not aware of the problems that are happening and have been happening for a while. It's best to not say anything, because yes some tend to not want to know, you know? The blind eye.
I really like the mom, and have grown close to her. I don't just want to cut things off, but when you end things with the son, that's bad to keep in contact isn't it? I've been told, that the mom will always side with the son. What do I do? I've tried to tell the mom certain things before, but she is kind of the person that doesn't want to hear it. You know, if it's not stated, it's better and not happening. She's a dear person, but this is the only thing that bugs me about her.
And I am hurting extremely bad in regards to this guy. I just don't understand him, and I don't know how anyone could be so down right rude and cruel. I still love him, and I don't want to say bye. I know I have to, but I am struggling because I don't know how.
Please anyone if you've been through this, how did you cope? What did you do? How do you let the guilt go? How do you know you are making the right choice? I am scared, sad, teary eyed, and still with everything I am love this guy. I know it's stupid, but I do. I have been with him going on 6 years.
ThanksHow to go about things in regards to a breakup?
i breiefly read your story...its gonna be hard but you have to end it...you have to completely cut him off...no communication of any sort...and i understand how you feel about the family..i was in a relationship and i was best friends with his sister and his mom loved me and i loved them...you can always keep in touch with them but for now you need to let everything go. Dont feel guilty either cause your doing both of you a favor by ending something that is not meant to be and someday youll find someone who treats you like a princess..good luck with everything and i wish you the best
I am not too sure if any of you have read my one posting in regards to ';When is enough enough'; but I am at that time now, where I feel I've had enough within this relationship I am in, and I need help.
I have never been the one to end a relationship, and I am struggling more than anything right now. I am so upset, frustrated, confused and can't even begin to tell you how much pain and loss I am feeling. I am pretty much a disaster today. Tears flowing and just not knowing what to do or how to go about things.
Last night, this guy (don't know what to call him anymore) and I had another fight, and it was pretty much one sided (he was the only one talking) Anyways, awful, cruel things were stated to me and about me, and although I've heard all of these things before, I don't want the pattern to continue, so I feel I should leave and for good.
Now I have tried in the past, but I've never stuck to it. How do I? And how do I continue the loving relationship I have with this guys parents and extended family? The mom just today wrote me an email and said that I was special to her, and she was happy that am in her sons and her life, and that she loves me very much. She is not aware of the problems that are happening and have been happening for a while. It's best to not say anything, because yes some tend to not want to know, you know? The blind eye.
I really like the mom, and have grown close to her. I don't just want to cut things off, but when you end things with the son, that's bad to keep in contact isn't it? I've been told, that the mom will always side with the son. What do I do? I've tried to tell the mom certain things before, but she is kind of the person that doesn't want to hear it. You know, if it's not stated, it's better and not happening. She's a dear person, but this is the only thing that bugs me about her.
And I am hurting extremely bad in regards to this guy. I just don't understand him, and I don't know how anyone could be so down right rude and cruel. I still love him, and I don't want to say bye. I know I have to, but I am struggling because I don't know how.
Please anyone if you've been through this, how did you cope? What did you do? How do you let the guilt go? How do you know you are making the right choice? I am scared, sad, teary eyed, and still with everything I am love this guy. I know it's stupid, but I do. I have been with him going on 6 years.
ThanksHow to go about things in regards to a breakup?
i breiefly read your story...its gonna be hard but you have to end it...you have to completely cut him off...no communication of any sort...and i understand how you feel about the family..i was in a relationship and i was best friends with his sister and his mom loved me and i loved them...you can always keep in touch with them but for now you need to let everything go. Dont feel guilty either cause your doing both of you a favor by ending something that is not meant to be and someday youll find someone who treats you like a princess..good luck with everything and i wish you the best
How do I deal with a long-term relationship, breakup? It's KILLING ME!?
Just come out of a 4 year relationship, because she didn't want to continue because she has lost that ';feeling for me';. When I go to bed, I can't sleep.. I just toss n' turn and have bad dreams and wake up even more upset.
She now says that she is now unhappy in the relationship and... wants out.. She wanted me to be more romantic,spontaneous.. But I didn't know how to show it, or if she was being serious..
I don't know what to do, we use to be best-friends since school...
I can't imagine her dating, and doing ';STUFF'; with another person, it's really upsetting me thinking of this and I don't want to let go of her :(.
We have always had talks and dreams about moving in together, having pets and everything...
It's her birthday party on the 20th, should I still go ? (Meal with all of her friends, and my friends - mutual ). She also said it would be Awkward... :(..
Help....
She said -
I cant help the way i feel... i dint want to lie to you and fake my feelings just so you will be happy... i want to be happy too and feel the same... but if i cant then what else can i do...things got to much for me and i couldn't cope... i'll never be able to forget how our relationship was at the beginning and all the times we argued and you lost your temper.. i can forgive.. but not forget... and that just all caught up.. i mean i use to burst into tears when you just shouted even when it wasn't at me... that's how scared i was i know your hurt... and i know you miss me... and im sorry that's all i can say... i just dont wanna lie to you and myself by faking and forcing the way i feel... cuz it will and did make me unhappy i really am sorry...
I really wasn't that bad.. I did have a little bit of anger management during my teen years, but it is ok now.
I cherished, loved,cared did almost everything for her.. Why is she doing this, and how can it be changed back!
I see her almost everywhere, College and Work and on the internet (MSN) just looking at her name/pictures really does make me feel upset and remorseful of what happend... I really love her.
Another thing is that I get on with her whole family, I don't want change :(..How do I deal with a long-term relationship, breakup? It's KILLING ME!?
If your still best friends now then you wouldn't be so stressed out because you'd be BEST-MATES but not lovers because thats not what she wants right? you'd do anything for her right?How do I deal with a long-term relationship, breakup? It's KILLING ME!?
i'm sorry u gg through this, i can feel ur heart pain, this pain i used to suffer b4 2 mths ago.
i just as u, cannot do much.
the only advice i can give u is ....u just gotta move on.
time will heal , how long, we do not know.
if u love her,let her go. mayb the timing nw isn't just right,
if she meant to return, she's yours!
take good care of urself!
She now says that she is now unhappy in the relationship and... wants out.. She wanted me to be more romantic,spontaneous.. But I didn't know how to show it, or if she was being serious..
I don't know what to do, we use to be best-friends since school...
I can't imagine her dating, and doing ';STUFF'; with another person, it's really upsetting me thinking of this and I don't want to let go of her :(.
We have always had talks and dreams about moving in together, having pets and everything...
It's her birthday party on the 20th, should I still go ? (Meal with all of her friends, and my friends - mutual ). She also said it would be Awkward... :(..
Help....
She said -
I cant help the way i feel... i dint want to lie to you and fake my feelings just so you will be happy... i want to be happy too and feel the same... but if i cant then what else can i do...things got to much for me and i couldn't cope... i'll never be able to forget how our relationship was at the beginning and all the times we argued and you lost your temper.. i can forgive.. but not forget... and that just all caught up.. i mean i use to burst into tears when you just shouted even when it wasn't at me... that's how scared i was i know your hurt... and i know you miss me... and im sorry that's all i can say... i just dont wanna lie to you and myself by faking and forcing the way i feel... cuz it will and did make me unhappy i really am sorry...
I really wasn't that bad.. I did have a little bit of anger management during my teen years, but it is ok now.
I cherished, loved,cared did almost everything for her.. Why is she doing this, and how can it be changed back!
I see her almost everywhere, College and Work and on the internet (MSN) just looking at her name/pictures really does make me feel upset and remorseful of what happend... I really love her.
Another thing is that I get on with her whole family, I don't want change :(..How do I deal with a long-term relationship, breakup? It's KILLING ME!?
If your still best friends now then you wouldn't be so stressed out because you'd be BEST-MATES but not lovers because thats not what she wants right? you'd do anything for her right?How do I deal with a long-term relationship, breakup? It's KILLING ME!?
i'm sorry u gg through this, i can feel ur heart pain, this pain i used to suffer b4 2 mths ago.
i just as u, cannot do much.
the only advice i can give u is ....u just gotta move on.
time will heal , how long, we do not know.
if u love her,let her go. mayb the timing nw isn't just right,
if she meant to return, she's yours!
take good care of urself!
How can I deal with or resolve this breakup?
I'm currently 20 yrs old, I have very little living relatives and nowhere to stay at the moment...
I met my girlfriend almost 3 years ago after my mom died and began living with her almost immediately.
She needs ';time to think';, which I have no problem with, but I had to move out and am trying to respect her wishes to not contact her for a week or so to clear her mind.
Everything I do hurts, I don't have a stable home at the moment, I'm a college student and I work at night 5 days a week.
I don't know where to go from here or what to do.
It's been about 6 days and we've spoken every day, however she needs the time alone and I can't find a way to enjoy myself or the little bit I have left without her.
There's no definite way to know if we're getting back together or not and I need some ways to cope with the worst :/
Please help.How can I deal with or resolve this breakup?
I am sorry about your family situation. Sometimes they are just what you need. I think that you need someone to talk to. I think that you might have used her as a safe line and actually need to get help without her. I suggest I counselor because I think you need to not let go but get over the bumps in your road. You have had a lot happen to you in not that long of a time frame. Perhaps you jumped into the relationship with her before you were really emotionally ready to take on the new step. I am sure that it helped at the time, but I think the real time has come to see who you are as a single human before making anymore life changing decisions. I am sure you will be fine it just might take some time.How can I deal with or resolve this breakup?
Respect her ';no contact'; wish unless she is calling you.
Try to focus on other parts of your life. The more contact you have, the harder it will be for you.
Go to school, work your job and try to relax as much as possible.
She's not going to want to be with someone whose name is
';Ted Brownhole.';
Why not legally change your name to ';Ted Balloon Knot'; or ';Ted Hersheyhole'; or ';Ted Shittyslide'; or ';Ted Feces';?
Hang in there, what happens happens. You will either get back together, or find someone else who wants to be with you. Keep in touch with her, so she knows you care. Just stay strong.
Start by talking to people in charge of the dorms of your college. They might be able to swing you some temporary arrangement for cheap. Maybe there are some paid rooms that nobody's using anymore and that type of thing.
With the girl you definitely have to bite the bullet and resist the tempation to talk to her. It's obvious you have completely smothered her with your needs, and that is unfair to say the least. The fact that you have no one to care for you is unfortunate, but it's not her fault so she shouldn't be burdened with it. If you can show that you can keep your distance when needed, she will probably take you back at some point. But you have to make sure it's on her initiative and not yours.
The dorm environment would do you good because it should be easy to make friends and they always have a lot of activities going on to keep you busy. If that's not enough, try taking up a sport like karate or something. That not only takes up time and distracts you from life's problems, it also helps build character which will help a lot later on. It doesn't have to be karate. If you're not that athletic, then even something like chess would be good.
I met my girlfriend almost 3 years ago after my mom died and began living with her almost immediately.
She needs ';time to think';, which I have no problem with, but I had to move out and am trying to respect her wishes to not contact her for a week or so to clear her mind.
Everything I do hurts, I don't have a stable home at the moment, I'm a college student and I work at night 5 days a week.
I don't know where to go from here or what to do.
It's been about 6 days and we've spoken every day, however she needs the time alone and I can't find a way to enjoy myself or the little bit I have left without her.
There's no definite way to know if we're getting back together or not and I need some ways to cope with the worst :/
Please help.How can I deal with or resolve this breakup?
I am sorry about your family situation. Sometimes they are just what you need. I think that you need someone to talk to. I think that you might have used her as a safe line and actually need to get help without her. I suggest I counselor because I think you need to not let go but get over the bumps in your road. You have had a lot happen to you in not that long of a time frame. Perhaps you jumped into the relationship with her before you were really emotionally ready to take on the new step. I am sure that it helped at the time, but I think the real time has come to see who you are as a single human before making anymore life changing decisions. I am sure you will be fine it just might take some time.How can I deal with or resolve this breakup?
Respect her ';no contact'; wish unless she is calling you.
Try to focus on other parts of your life. The more contact you have, the harder it will be for you.
Go to school, work your job and try to relax as much as possible.
She's not going to want to be with someone whose name is
';Ted Brownhole.';
Why not legally change your name to ';Ted Balloon Knot'; or ';Ted Hersheyhole'; or ';Ted Shittyslide'; or ';Ted Feces';?
Hang in there, what happens happens. You will either get back together, or find someone else who wants to be with you. Keep in touch with her, so she knows you care. Just stay strong.
Start by talking to people in charge of the dorms of your college. They might be able to swing you some temporary arrangement for cheap. Maybe there are some paid rooms that nobody's using anymore and that type of thing.
With the girl you definitely have to bite the bullet and resist the tempation to talk to her. It's obvious you have completely smothered her with your needs, and that is unfair to say the least. The fact that you have no one to care for you is unfortunate, but it's not her fault so she shouldn't be burdened with it. If you can show that you can keep your distance when needed, she will probably take you back at some point. But you have to make sure it's on her initiative and not yours.
The dorm environment would do you good because it should be easy to make friends and they always have a lot of activities going on to keep you busy. If that's not enough, try taking up a sport like karate or something. That not only takes up time and distracts you from life's problems, it also helps build character which will help a lot later on. It doesn't have to be karate. If you're not that athletic, then even something like chess would be good.
Anybody tell me How I can cope with this?
I had an experience today that made me reevaluate the things that really matter in my life, and i realized I am afraid of losing my ex. Makes no sense right? Well me and my ex had a bitter breakup about 6 months ago and have not contacted each other because he is extremely mad at me, and i have gave in to my ego plenty times trying to get things right. And i have been great ever since i though i let it go. I realized if he died tomorrow i would probably go into depression because we were friends for 4 years and bf and gf for 3 years we were best friends and today i balled in my car because i just dont want to leave this earth or him leave this earth angry its nonsense life is too short. I just wish i could call him but he wont answer. Its no use how can i get this out of my mind?Anybody tell me How I can cope with this?
it may take him more time to get over the breakup...the best thing you can do is try to find another bf . at some point in the future maybe your ex will allow you to chat with him a bit if just to clear the airbrown hair trojan
it may take him more time to get over the breakup...the best thing you can do is try to find another bf . at some point in the future maybe your ex will allow you to chat with him a bit if just to clear the air
My sis is miserable due to a breakup and it's effecting me and relationship?
I want her to be happy and do everything i can but she won't even follow up with doc appts. She is hugely depressed but this has been going on for a while. I do everything I can at the expense of the most part of my life. I am with someone I love but he's suffered greatly due to this. I have suffered for a long time and I don't even know how to cope anymore. She is the most negative person you'd ever meet and thinks that nobody can help her. Even advice goes out the window because she knows more. What should I do?My sis is miserable due to a breakup and it's effecting me and relationship?
this is very difficult. do you have. do you have other family members around or people she cares about and they care lots for her? if so you might need to do an intervention, like for an addicted person but in her case to address the depression and the negativty. does she have kids? b/c a way to a womans heart and to make her change is through her child, most of the time anyways. other than that you might just have to let her be. tell her that she is making you very unhappy and you and she cannot spend as much time together if she keeps acting this way. is she suicidal or just a mean person? b/c some people are negative while others are depressed and she sounds just mean. most depressed people would rather hide from the world then go out and about and make others miserable. just tell her you can chat on the phone or have a 1 lunch once per week w/o your spouse and maybe she will get the hint.
this is very difficult. do you have. do you have other family members around or people she cares about and they care lots for her? if so you might need to do an intervention, like for an addicted person but in her case to address the depression and the negativty. does she have kids? b/c a way to a womans heart and to make her change is through her child, most of the time anyways. other than that you might just have to let her be. tell her that she is making you very unhappy and you and she cannot spend as much time together if she keeps acting this way. is she suicidal or just a mean person? b/c some people are negative while others are depressed and she sounds just mean. most depressed people would rather hide from the world then go out and about and make others miserable. just tell her you can chat on the phone or have a 1 lunch once per week w/o your spouse and maybe she will get the hint.
Do you have any advice for a breakup that is not final for sure?
My boyfriend and I have decided to break up. I struggle with depression and have not been working which makes him feel responsible for me. While he is happy to do it he and I agree it is enabling. When we broke up before I slept with someone who I don't love to try to get over him. It hurt him so much even though we were not together. We want to take time apart so he can get over being hurt and so I can learn to be the healthiest, independant, centered me possible. He says that I am the love of his life and I feel that way about him. Neither of us had been in love before (I am 28, he is 32). However he says he can't see me while we are apart because it hurts him too much. I am clear that I will be focusing on getting my degree, and certainly not sleeping with anyone (it never makes me feel better and only hurts everyone involved). How do I cope with not seeing him? Is it foolish to hang on to the hope of being with him again? I really appreciate any insight, suggestions, or feedback!Do you have any advice for a breakup that is not final for sure?
i know it could be pretty tough. seems like you guys have been through some rough ness. but thats all part of love.. u have to go through some bumps in the road to get to the happy road... id say this ';break up'; would be good for you guys. he can get his head clear and so can you. you need to focus on school and getting your degree. most definetly do not sleep with anyone. pretty sure you wont. im pretty sure if the love is true you guys will come back to a much better relationship then ever!!!! give him some space to think and get that degree.. cheer up think bout the positives. he loves you......good luck!!Do you have any advice for a breakup that is not final for sure?
'; Never say goodbye when you still want to try !'; ....
Don't break up. It sounds like the two of you will me miserable apart. Make an appointment to see someone for your depression. There are many new ways to treat depression, you may find just the thing you need to help this. Stay together for each other, but get that depression under control. You'll see the future will look brighter and better for the both of you, both of you TOGETHER. I wish you the best of luck.
i know it could be pretty tough. seems like you guys have been through some rough ness. but thats all part of love.. u have to go through some bumps in the road to get to the happy road... id say this ';break up'; would be good for you guys. he can get his head clear and so can you. you need to focus on school and getting your degree. most definetly do not sleep with anyone. pretty sure you wont. im pretty sure if the love is true you guys will come back to a much better relationship then ever!!!! give him some space to think and get that degree.. cheer up think bout the positives. he loves you......good luck!!Do you have any advice for a breakup that is not final for sure?
'; Never say goodbye when you still want to try !'; ....
Don't break up. It sounds like the two of you will me miserable apart. Make an appointment to see someone for your depression. There are many new ways to treat depression, you may find just the thing you need to help this. Stay together for each other, but get that depression under control. You'll see the future will look brighter and better for the both of you, both of you TOGETHER. I wish you the best of luck.
Need Advice after a Really Bad Breakup?
Ok you guys....I need some seriouse advice and encouragement on how to ';get over'; a bad break up. My ex(also my baby's dad) and I are no longer together...we've had several problems for past 3 years...and i just really got sick of it. So we seperated and I refused to take him back..But if i know im doing the right thing...why does is hurt so bad? How can i cope with knowing that he and i will never be together again after several DESPERATE attempts to salvage the relationship?? I know that if i didnt have my daughter, i wouldnt feel like this...so what can i do? Im soul tied! Falling in love with someone who is not in love with you is a horrible, terrible, torturistic feeling :(Need Advice after a Really Bad Breakup?
Hey Muffin! Hope you're not too devastated. At least now you're out of the torment. It's a time of adjustment to life without him for you now. Changes will always be tough in the beginning. Do talk to good counselors, reliable friends,pastors and get your mind busy with some meaningful activities %26amp; people .Get into support groups. Cry to feel better and allow time to heal the deep pain within.Remember you still have a child to invest your love in. Stay strong for her sake.This sorrow will not be forever.
Take care..Need Advice after a Really Bad Breakup?
Muffin, you mentioned that if you didn't have a child it be different. How so? You both have to set the same goals for the relationship. You both knew what it took to make it not work. Now, stop feeling guilty about the relationship not working, or being a victim and start living for the future. Make sure he does his part in taking care of your daughter and you start taking care of you.
Dont be codependent. Stay strong and move forward. If he doesn't love you it will NOT work. The relationship will be one sided and that is not fair to you or him. You don't want him to feel obligated to stay with you and then he'll cheat it will be more devasting to you. Us women always want to work it out....not sure what is wrong with some of these men.
So stay strong, stay focused, stay healthy for your childs sake.
Take care.
1. Calm down
2. Wash my car
3. Shine my shoes.
There. Isn't that better?
Hey Muffin! Hope you're not too devastated. At least now you're out of the torment. It's a time of adjustment to life without him for you now. Changes will always be tough in the beginning. Do talk to good counselors, reliable friends,pastors and get your mind busy with some meaningful activities %26amp; people .Get into support groups. Cry to feel better and allow time to heal the deep pain within.Remember you still have a child to invest your love in. Stay strong for her sake.This sorrow will not be forever.
Take care..Need Advice after a Really Bad Breakup?
Muffin, you mentioned that if you didn't have a child it be different. How so? You both have to set the same goals for the relationship. You both knew what it took to make it not work. Now, stop feeling guilty about the relationship not working, or being a victim and start living for the future. Make sure he does his part in taking care of your daughter and you start taking care of you.
Dont be codependent. Stay strong and move forward. If he doesn't love you it will NOT work. The relationship will be one sided and that is not fair to you or him. You don't want him to feel obligated to stay with you and then he'll cheat it will be more devasting to you. Us women always want to work it out....not sure what is wrong with some of these men.
So stay strong, stay focused, stay healthy for your childs sake.
Take care.
1. Calm down
2. Wash my car
3. Shine my shoes.
There. Isn't that better?
Could someone help me cope with my situation PLZ?
I recently went thru a painful, MUTUAL breakup about 7 weeks ago. We are both good ppl, just not for each other (lack of ';spark';). Well, now, I feel so lost, invaluable and unworthy of all love. But I desperately wish there were someone here to comfort me and let me know there are OTHER good ppl out there.
How can I get over this situation? We otherwise were a PERFECT (views, pasts, successes etc). I feel like I lost so much; but esp. my dignity, as I had worn my messed up emotions on my sleeve (I'm too honest!).
I need confidence and the serenity to accept what happened w/out blaming it on my imperfection/self.
HELP!?!?!? I'm all alone when it comes to this. I try to stay busy and talk to friends but I'm stuck in the past =[Could someone help me cope with my situation PLZ?
What's done is done and it sounds like the spark just wasn't there...that happens. You are over-analyzing the situation and just need to move on. Relax and find a new man. You need to learn to please yourself and be confident. The right guy will come along.Could someone help me cope with my situation PLZ?
you said so yourself....It was just the lack of spark....if you weren't right for each other - then sadly - you just weren't right for each other - its good you KNEW that - or found it out!!!
There ARE plenty of fish in the sea....when you are ready - no rush
A break up DOES knock the confidence....I don't know why...perhaps its because we trusted that person with our heart and soul....and now its no more - and its a wrench - of course we feel it!!
We are also not going to feel at our confident best when we are feeling SAD
You must just go through these emotions...I know its hard - but nearly everyone has had to deal with break ups at some point in their life...you DO recover , you DO get over it , and you DO learn from it....and come out the other end a STRONGER person!!!
WoW... umm well look at some other girls? idk this is one problem idk about :( sorry
Gather ur buddies, go out, %26amp; get hammered! %26amp; grow some balls!
If you feel up to it try to go out on another date or just hang with friends
try slap your self...maybe you will snap out of it
don't be so hard on yourself. The two of you are mature enough to make a mutual decision on the break up. So, it's not your fault. If the break up was over your imperfections, he would have broken it off with you. It will take a little time, but be strong. I heard a preacher say one time, if your heart is with the lord for every bad thing that happens in your life he will make it up with 3x good. I believe this. who knows, you may find a b/f next week or next year...instead of a spark you may have a burning flame. So, keep your head up and and a good personality. good things will come your way. good luck
Sounds like you both were EXACTLY the same and i believe that, that is why there may not have been a ';spark'; or it was lost... I've been with my Boy for almost four years now we are complete opposites... maybe find someone opposite to you? It's fun working each other out =)
Instead of finding another partner find someone to be friends with =) They may keep your mind off everything... Who knows there might be a spark?
Hind sight is always 20/20, you might think now you lost something but you knew then that it wouldn't work. How would it be different if you got back together? Just don't focus on having a relationship. There are still good people out there. I know that's hard to believe with all the hate in the world. But the right one will come along when you're ready...
How can I get over this situation? We otherwise were a PERFECT (views, pasts, successes etc). I feel like I lost so much; but esp. my dignity, as I had worn my messed up emotions on my sleeve (I'm too honest!).
I need confidence and the serenity to accept what happened w/out blaming it on my imperfection/self.
HELP!?!?!? I'm all alone when it comes to this. I try to stay busy and talk to friends but I'm stuck in the past =[Could someone help me cope with my situation PLZ?
What's done is done and it sounds like the spark just wasn't there...that happens. You are over-analyzing the situation and just need to move on. Relax and find a new man. You need to learn to please yourself and be confident. The right guy will come along.Could someone help me cope with my situation PLZ?
you said so yourself....It was just the lack of spark....if you weren't right for each other - then sadly - you just weren't right for each other - its good you KNEW that - or found it out!!!
There ARE plenty of fish in the sea....when you are ready - no rush
A break up DOES knock the confidence....I don't know why...perhaps its because we trusted that person with our heart and soul....and now its no more - and its a wrench - of course we feel it!!
We are also not going to feel at our confident best when we are feeling SAD
You must just go through these emotions...I know its hard - but nearly everyone has had to deal with break ups at some point in their life...you DO recover , you DO get over it , and you DO learn from it....and come out the other end a STRONGER person!!!
WoW... umm well look at some other girls? idk this is one problem idk about :( sorry
Gather ur buddies, go out, %26amp; get hammered! %26amp; grow some balls!
If you feel up to it try to go out on another date or just hang with friends
try slap your self...maybe you will snap out of it
don't be so hard on yourself. The two of you are mature enough to make a mutual decision on the break up. So, it's not your fault. If the break up was over your imperfections, he would have broken it off with you. It will take a little time, but be strong. I heard a preacher say one time, if your heart is with the lord for every bad thing that happens in your life he will make it up with 3x good. I believe this. who knows, you may find a b/f next week or next year...instead of a spark you may have a burning flame. So, keep your head up and and a good personality. good things will come your way. good luck
Sounds like you both were EXACTLY the same and i believe that, that is why there may not have been a ';spark'; or it was lost... I've been with my Boy for almost four years now we are complete opposites... maybe find someone opposite to you? It's fun working each other out =)
Instead of finding another partner find someone to be friends with =) They may keep your mind off everything... Who knows there might be a spark?
Hind sight is always 20/20, you might think now you lost something but you knew then that it wouldn't work. How would it be different if you got back together? Just don't focus on having a relationship. There are still good people out there. I know that's hard to believe with all the hate in the world. But the right one will come along when you're ready...
How to mend a friendship after breakup? PLEASE ANSWER?
i had a really good friendship with a guy. and we had sorta been on for awhile and after a bit decided to make it official. it didn't work out. we weren't together very long and even when we were it didn't seem like much had changed we actually just began to fight. anyway he broke up with me and at first i was really shattered, we didn't talk for a few weeks after that anyway i come to realize it wasn't right and he made a much better friend than boyfriend. i really want to get back what we had but im afraid we can't. he has been distant and we don't talk hardly ever which is really sad because we said if it didn't work out we would still be good mates. it wasn't a bad break up
how do i get back what we had? i really miss his friendship
the thing is i don't know how i would cope if he had a new girlfriend. im determined to make this friendship work but it has to go both ways.How to mend a friendship after breakup? PLEASE ANSWER?
honey, i am really sorry about that. have you tried talking to him? maybe you should get your other friends to talk to him. if you wont be able to cope when he gets a new girlfriend that would mean u still like him and want to get back with him. it will take a while but eventually he will start talking to you
good luck
xxxHow to mend a friendship after breakup? PLEASE ANSWER?
My advice, talk to him.
You should at least try to tell him that you miss him. Say that you want to be friends, you miss the close friendship you had and you're afraid that you're losing that friendship... Honesty is important, it always is... Show your raw feelings and he might come back around...brown hair trojan
how do i get back what we had? i really miss his friendship
the thing is i don't know how i would cope if he had a new girlfriend. im determined to make this friendship work but it has to go both ways.How to mend a friendship after breakup? PLEASE ANSWER?
honey, i am really sorry about that. have you tried talking to him? maybe you should get your other friends to talk to him. if you wont be able to cope when he gets a new girlfriend that would mean u still like him and want to get back with him. it will take a while but eventually he will start talking to you
good luck
xxxHow to mend a friendship after breakup? PLEASE ANSWER?
My advice, talk to him.
You should at least try to tell him that you miss him. Say that you want to be friends, you miss the close friendship you had and you're afraid that you're losing that friendship... Honesty is important, it always is... Show your raw feelings and he might come back around...
What to do after a HORRIBLE breakup?
well a few days ago my bf broke up with me in the most horrible way. and im not even gonna go back 2 him becasue of the way he treated me. that relationship is over.. but i feel like im missing something. Will i ever get another bf. i hav 2 guys who already asked me out. but i dont like them. they are kinda nerdy and annoying. im 15 btw. So where can i meet guys near my age. my ex-bf was 17 and i just dont know how to cope. i need a guy in my life. at least thats how it feelsWhat to do after a HORRIBLE breakup?
omg, story of my life.
Only had one boyfriend who didn't treat me like he should have-- we didnt connect so i broke up with him.
and the 3 other guys (a couple of which asked me out numerous times) are all kindof dorky.
it's been a year since i broke up with my b/f and i still miss having a boyfriend, just not that 1.
but what i do is focus on my friends and my education and my social life and stuff like that. I know you feel like you need some1, but when the next guy that you actually like that asks you out does ask you out, you're going to feel even more satisfaction. =)
hope this helps :)What to do after a HORRIBLE breakup?
you'll probably die alone
NO you don't. Play ';Freakum Dress'; by Beyonce and chillax. You're too young for this .. You'll definately have more guys come your way in your lifetime :)
omg, story of my life.
Only had one boyfriend who didn't treat me like he should have-- we didnt connect so i broke up with him.
and the 3 other guys (a couple of which asked me out numerous times) are all kindof dorky.
it's been a year since i broke up with my b/f and i still miss having a boyfriend, just not that 1.
but what i do is focus on my friends and my education and my social life and stuff like that. I know you feel like you need some1, but when the next guy that you actually like that asks you out does ask you out, you're going to feel even more satisfaction. =)
hope this helps :)What to do after a HORRIBLE breakup?
you'll probably die alone
NO you don't. Play ';Freakum Dress'; by Beyonce and chillax. You're too young for this .. You'll definately have more guys come your way in your lifetime :)
Did anyone go thru a breakup while pregnant??? Because I am going thru a VERY tough one.?
I have never cried over a man before and since I found out my bf of 3yrs who I am pregnant by has been cheating it feels like my world has caved in on me...I dont know what to do..its to the point i can no longer breathe properly when we are going thru it and the baby kicks me like hes the one telling me ';Mommy calm down please';...I am stressed out and I'm 39weeks, my due date is 3days away and i dont know what went wrong with us...i thought i was his perfect match, seriously we've known eachother for sooo long.. what went wrong?....smh...i cant stop from crying and thinking about him cheating on our family we were suppose to build after i put sooooo much faith in him....I sound like a crybaby but i have known my bf since i was 13 and havent been with anyone else since we've been together...when i found out i decided to give us another chance by letting him back around because we're pregnant..and tonight i called his cellphone and heard the same 20y.o in the background who he cheated with before...i am usually a strong woman who can carry alot on her shoulders...but i dont want to be a single parent who is doing everything alone...smh..i dont know..
how did u cope with breaking up while pregnant and having to being strong for urself and the baby???Did anyone go thru a breakup while pregnant??? Because I am going thru a VERY tough one.?
I have asked a similar question a few days ago. I would say to pick yourself up and realize that it's not the end of the world. It is his loss. He is the one missing out on a family with you. If he can't realize what he has right infront of him, then do you really think that you deserve a person like that? NO!! I am going through a very similar situation, and it is better to build yourself up, then to let him tear you to pieces. I have 5.5 months left of my pregnancy to face that fact that he dosent love me, but I know that God has something better in store for me. Dont accept B.S. Period. What goes around comes around. Just don't end up like me, and have a child out of wedlock two times. Make a man put a ring on your finger. Please don't blame yourself or feel low.
Oh and there is a song that I want you to listen to..it's called ';Believing in Me'; by Monica... it will inspire you to be strongerDid anyone go thru a breakup while pregnant??? Because I am going thru a VERY tough one.?
Aww u must be suffering rite now, there's nothing u can do rite now mommy I'm sorry its going to be hard u need time to fix these kinds of things and unfortunatly there's not enough of it at this point. This happened to me @ 25 weeks and it felt like my brain was blocked with pain that was all I could think about for two months. I felt like I wasn't really living anymore. He was also cheating on me with time I just accepted that this was my reality and that he was gone . He came back but its not the same now I'm strong enough I just want child support I didn't deserve it and u especially don't deserve it so close to ur due date u must feel like uve been living a lie all I can suggest is have ur family or best friend close by focus on your newborn and try to move past it slowly or u can take him back for the sake. Of ur child but secretly hate him and plan to dump him once u get what u need out of him I'm sure u want him to b close to u rite now but the choice is urs. Good luck and god bless u and your baby .u deserve better always .
That is so hard. Trust me I know. While I was pregnant my boyfriend cheated on me. He didn't even confess to me, I found out at the hospital when we went to the e.r. for him, and the doctor told us he had an std. (thankfully it was one that could be cured, because he gave it to me.)Sorry if thats tmi.
Anyways, I gave him another chance. Im not completly sure that he hasnt cheated on me since then, and he spends hardly any time with us, which leads to huge fights...just like an hour ago. I really dont know what to say, because we had our daughter 3 months ago, and I am terrified of being a single parent. I dont know if I i could do it alone. Well, I dont know if I;m much help or not. Just know that your not alone, and if you need someone to talk to. I completly understand. my e-mail is earth_muffin88@yahoo.com
Im 33 weeks pregnant with my second child with my sons dad.When i was 5 months along he told me via text that he was in love with someone else. I couldn't get out of bed foe 2 weeks!..We were together for 8 years. I too thought this would be my perfect family. Things change i guess people change. I recently changed my number and im moving in 2 weeks. I started reading ';its called a breakup because its broken';..good stuff...it seems like the end now but trust me you will feel better just give it time. I still get sad just an hour ago i was on the verge of tears thinking about how much i miss him but i guess i just miss the old him because i don't know the ';new him'; anymore. Good luck!
wow girl, first off i just want to say sorry you are going through this... i know how you feel.. no really i do..
Me and my husband are separated right now...trying to work things out we tried for this baby for over a year.. once i got pregnant he got very mean, rude and nasty toward me.
going so far as to say he wish he had gotten someone else pregnant, that he wants to be with someone else. We have been together for 5 almost 6 years..and have been friends for 11 years. Its hard very hard... their is nothing i can say that will make you feel better other than no matter what hun.. you have that beautiful baby, that you will love with all your heart no matter what. When you hear those first cries... he wont even matter you will know that he missed out on the best thing in this world, your baby! And if he wants to choose cheating, and other women over you and your child than so be it, doesn't seem like much of a man to me. You gave him another chance..and he blew it again... if i was you id leave him for good because what if he would have caught a STD from one of those girls or even worse a STD like HIV/AIDs, was he not thinking about the well being of you and his baby while messing around with the town sluts.
look see what you doing..making me upset lol im mad with you girl.. that is serious BS he has a girlfriend that loves him and a baby due anytime now and for him to act like that is just so disrespectful..dishonest and untrustworthy.
What you need to do is just take a hot shower let the water hit your back, drink some nice hot tea and relax read to your baby a book.. And dont even call or message him... if he doesnt show up for the birth of the baby... then you know that he is no real man that he missed out on the birth of your baby so he could be doing something else.
I'm not saying that the man and women HAVE to be together but its always nice. However he is cheating...was given another chance and cheated again.... He is better off out of your life so you dont stress and so you can focus on your baby. Once your child is here, you wont have the time to be playing his childish cheating games, just take care of your baby go on walks with the baby, do everything with him/her. (wait alittle bit so you dont take them out in the public too early, i seen some 3wk old babies at the county fair tonight...with loud music and cigg smoke everywhere...was a shame) Anyway that was off topic
I feel for you hun, i really do... al you can do is try your hardest and do what you ahve to do for the child..
If that means not talking to him so you dont stress than so be it. He is the one missing out not you hunny. What are you missing out on? a cheating man that doesnt respect you OR his child, because he could have brought a STD home. He is missing out on a loving gf, a prescious baby, a family...
Goodluck girl i can rant forever and just blab on if you need me just message me...of course ill respond
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Look forward to hearing from you
Hi Tee..i cant begin to imagine what you must be going through, although my best friend has gone through something similar..My best friends baby is going to be 1 now in may and shes a single mom..
when my friend found out that her boy freind was cheating on her..she kicked his *** to the curb immediatley..only after the breakup she found out that she was pregnant..and even so she was not willing to take him back for her babies sake...if he cheated on you once whats going to stop him from doing it again...and those are the words my friend lives by...
so dont just think about yourself..think about your baby's wellbeing...
do u think that it will be healthy for your baby to be living with a dad that may or may not be faithfull to you..
You can do without him...there are so many women out there that are stronger than ever as a single parent...have faith in yourself...
I believe that you can do it...ive seen my friend do it and shes a 22year old single mom..Whats stopping you..
I am so sorry about him cheating on you, i went thru a rather painful break up.
My boyfriend got me pregnant just to try and use me as an excuse to stay otta prison and when that didnt work (had no clue he was goin to prison or even did anything bad) he wrote me a letter listing every bad thing about me like i was fat and blah blah blah but anyways, the only thing that kept me going was i thought well im better than him, he mad my life 10xs better by giving me this gift and this gift will have a great life and also i thought about how my baby didnt ask to be put on this earth and being a mother is thinking bout the baby which i did. but when its still unborn its hard to think about it as a living thing. but just keep ur chin up ask for help when u need it dont be ashamed, and just put one foot in front of the other
good luck
how did u cope with breaking up while pregnant and having to being strong for urself and the baby???Did anyone go thru a breakup while pregnant??? Because I am going thru a VERY tough one.?
I have asked a similar question a few days ago. I would say to pick yourself up and realize that it's not the end of the world. It is his loss. He is the one missing out on a family with you. If he can't realize what he has right infront of him, then do you really think that you deserve a person like that? NO!! I am going through a very similar situation, and it is better to build yourself up, then to let him tear you to pieces. I have 5.5 months left of my pregnancy to face that fact that he dosent love me, but I know that God has something better in store for me. Dont accept B.S. Period. What goes around comes around. Just don't end up like me, and have a child out of wedlock two times. Make a man put a ring on your finger. Please don't blame yourself or feel low.
Oh and there is a song that I want you to listen to..it's called ';Believing in Me'; by Monica... it will inspire you to be strongerDid anyone go thru a breakup while pregnant??? Because I am going thru a VERY tough one.?
Aww u must be suffering rite now, there's nothing u can do rite now mommy I'm sorry its going to be hard u need time to fix these kinds of things and unfortunatly there's not enough of it at this point. This happened to me @ 25 weeks and it felt like my brain was blocked with pain that was all I could think about for two months. I felt like I wasn't really living anymore. He was also cheating on me with time I just accepted that this was my reality and that he was gone . He came back but its not the same now I'm strong enough I just want child support I didn't deserve it and u especially don't deserve it so close to ur due date u must feel like uve been living a lie all I can suggest is have ur family or best friend close by focus on your newborn and try to move past it slowly or u can take him back for the sake. Of ur child but secretly hate him and plan to dump him once u get what u need out of him I'm sure u want him to b close to u rite now but the choice is urs. Good luck and god bless u and your baby .u deserve better always .
That is so hard. Trust me I know. While I was pregnant my boyfriend cheated on me. He didn't even confess to me, I found out at the hospital when we went to the e.r. for him, and the doctor told us he had an std. (thankfully it was one that could be cured, because he gave it to me.)Sorry if thats tmi.
Anyways, I gave him another chance. Im not completly sure that he hasnt cheated on me since then, and he spends hardly any time with us, which leads to huge fights...just like an hour ago. I really dont know what to say, because we had our daughter 3 months ago, and I am terrified of being a single parent. I dont know if I i could do it alone. Well, I dont know if I;m much help or not. Just know that your not alone, and if you need someone to talk to. I completly understand. my e-mail is earth_muffin88@yahoo.com
Im 33 weeks pregnant with my second child with my sons dad.When i was 5 months along he told me via text that he was in love with someone else. I couldn't get out of bed foe 2 weeks!..We were together for 8 years. I too thought this would be my perfect family. Things change i guess people change. I recently changed my number and im moving in 2 weeks. I started reading ';its called a breakup because its broken';..good stuff...it seems like the end now but trust me you will feel better just give it time. I still get sad just an hour ago i was on the verge of tears thinking about how much i miss him but i guess i just miss the old him because i don't know the ';new him'; anymore. Good luck!
wow girl, first off i just want to say sorry you are going through this... i know how you feel.. no really i do..
Me and my husband are separated right now...trying to work things out we tried for this baby for over a year.. once i got pregnant he got very mean, rude and nasty toward me.
going so far as to say he wish he had gotten someone else pregnant, that he wants to be with someone else. We have been together for 5 almost 6 years..and have been friends for 11 years. Its hard very hard... their is nothing i can say that will make you feel better other than no matter what hun.. you have that beautiful baby, that you will love with all your heart no matter what. When you hear those first cries... he wont even matter you will know that he missed out on the best thing in this world, your baby! And if he wants to choose cheating, and other women over you and your child than so be it, doesn't seem like much of a man to me. You gave him another chance..and he blew it again... if i was you id leave him for good because what if he would have caught a STD from one of those girls or even worse a STD like HIV/AIDs, was he not thinking about the well being of you and his baby while messing around with the town sluts.
look see what you doing..making me upset lol im mad with you girl.. that is serious BS he has a girlfriend that loves him and a baby due anytime now and for him to act like that is just so disrespectful..dishonest and untrustworthy.
What you need to do is just take a hot shower let the water hit your back, drink some nice hot tea and relax read to your baby a book.. And dont even call or message him... if he doesnt show up for the birth of the baby... then you know that he is no real man that he missed out on the birth of your baby so he could be doing something else.
I'm not saying that the man and women HAVE to be together but its always nice. However he is cheating...was given another chance and cheated again.... He is better off out of your life so you dont stress and so you can focus on your baby. Once your child is here, you wont have the time to be playing his childish cheating games, just take care of your baby go on walks with the baby, do everything with him/her. (wait alittle bit so you dont take them out in the public too early, i seen some 3wk old babies at the county fair tonight...with loud music and cigg smoke everywhere...was a shame) Anyway that was off topic
I feel for you hun, i really do... al you can do is try your hardest and do what you ahve to do for the child..
If that means not talking to him so you dont stress than so be it. He is the one missing out not you hunny. What are you missing out on? a cheating man that doesnt respect you OR his child, because he could have brought a STD home. He is missing out on a loving gf, a prescious baby, a family...
Goodluck girl i can rant forever and just blab on if you need me just message me...of course ill respond
AIM- Shorty1317ch
Look forward to hearing from you
Hi Tee..i cant begin to imagine what you must be going through, although my best friend has gone through something similar..My best friends baby is going to be 1 now in may and shes a single mom..
when my friend found out that her boy freind was cheating on her..she kicked his *** to the curb immediatley..only after the breakup she found out that she was pregnant..and even so she was not willing to take him back for her babies sake...if he cheated on you once whats going to stop him from doing it again...and those are the words my friend lives by...
so dont just think about yourself..think about your baby's wellbeing...
do u think that it will be healthy for your baby to be living with a dad that may or may not be faithfull to you..
You can do without him...there are so many women out there that are stronger than ever as a single parent...have faith in yourself...
I believe that you can do it...ive seen my friend do it and shes a 22year old single mom..Whats stopping you..
I am so sorry about him cheating on you, i went thru a rather painful break up.
My boyfriend got me pregnant just to try and use me as an excuse to stay otta prison and when that didnt work (had no clue he was goin to prison or even did anything bad) he wrote me a letter listing every bad thing about me like i was fat and blah blah blah but anyways, the only thing that kept me going was i thought well im better than him, he mad my life 10xs better by giving me this gift and this gift will have a great life and also i thought about how my baby didnt ask to be put on this earth and being a mother is thinking bout the baby which i did. but when its still unborn its hard to think about it as a living thing. but just keep ur chin up ask for help when u need it dont be ashamed, and just put one foot in front of the other
good luck
I am dealing with a breakup...help?
My boyfriend of two months just left me a day ago.
The thing is that he was my first boyfriend and I gave my virginity to him, which now at his point disgusts me. He never treated me bad and he really meant a lot to me.
I know that I am a beautiful girl, who is very smart and talented. However, I feel like I will neve rfind another guy who will accept me for who I am.
How can I deal with this. I don't eat, I stay up every night just to cry myself to sleep and sleep in until noon, I don't go out, I don't fix myself up...it's horrible. I neve rthought that I woul dlet a boy do this to me.
I always wonder if he is with another girl, although he's not the kind to go around with girls, but I feel like he is just going to get with someone and just forget about me.
He says that he wants me i nhis life in anyway possible because I am the only person that has accepted him for who he truly is and has not tried to change him.
Can someone help me. How do I cope with this?I am dealing with a breakup...help?
Not that you did wrong with this sweetheart but first rule never give away yourself again that early because then you make a bond with that person and they might have just used you for that.
I personally think that if he said that then he still likes you he is just in denial.
Shamefully you're always going to have a connection with this boy because he was your first.
But really once you meet a guy who is going to accept you, it will get you over this guy even though you will never forget the guy who you lost it too.
Just let time heal all wounds and then pick yourself up again and live your life girl!I am dealing with a breakup...help?
welcome to the real world hun dont worry about it get on with ur life ull get over it in time
wow, although i'm a male i know what you're going through. i went through pretty much the same thing with my ex girlfriend. she was who i lost my virginity to too. Here are some things that you have to do if you really wanna get over him:
1. End all contact with him.
2.Go out with friends, don't be afraid to have fun again.
3. remember, having a boyfriend is not the only thing that makes you happy in life. embrace your friends, family, and hobbies.
4. And probably the biggest thing, well for me anyways, is to remember that before him, you WERE happy. you can be happy and you will.
as for your confidence, it all starts with you. if you know you are a great girl and you show it, guys will see it. believe me, there is nothing more i like more then a confident girl.
there is someone out there for everyone, you'll find him one day.
I have seen this many times with My younger sisters and their girlfriends and every time I give the same advice. Young women fall in-love way too easily. When guys are young, they have no clue about what love and being in-love means. We are driven by a powerful chemical called testosterone that makes Us act and say things to women that makes them believe we love them when in reality all we are really looking for is a sex partner. It takes time for young men to actually figure out what it really means when you tell a woman you love her. Being in-love with her is way more than just the sex.
I have gone through a tought breakup before, believe me, it sucks and I know sort of how you feel.
Guys are stupid and sometimes dont realize what they have right infront of them. It must be hard knowing you gave your virginity to yourself because you liked him and trusted him that much. You will find someone for you, trust me. I have now found someone for me it just took a while but it is so worth it. Keep reminding yourself how great of a person you are, and this guy must be a jerk to walk out on you when he had someone awesome.
I highly doubt he has forgotten about you because you have been in his life and those memories will always be there
dont worry you will get through this!
good luck(:
I wouldn't recommend being friends with him. you will always have a deeper attachment to him because you gave your virginity to him. Break ups aren't easy. But hang in there. As days and weeks go by it will get better, promise. Don't let him manipulate you anymore. It's not a mistake as long as you learn the lesson
do not be friends with him. just cut off all contact with him no matter what sweet things he tries to tell you.
please take my word and know that no good could come of it. just go out with your friends and have a good time and things should just fall into place on its own.
The thing is that he was my first boyfriend and I gave my virginity to him, which now at his point disgusts me. He never treated me bad and he really meant a lot to me.
I know that I am a beautiful girl, who is very smart and talented. However, I feel like I will neve rfind another guy who will accept me for who I am.
How can I deal with this. I don't eat, I stay up every night just to cry myself to sleep and sleep in until noon, I don't go out, I don't fix myself up...it's horrible. I neve rthought that I woul dlet a boy do this to me.
I always wonder if he is with another girl, although he's not the kind to go around with girls, but I feel like he is just going to get with someone and just forget about me.
He says that he wants me i nhis life in anyway possible because I am the only person that has accepted him for who he truly is and has not tried to change him.
Can someone help me. How do I cope with this?I am dealing with a breakup...help?
Not that you did wrong with this sweetheart but first rule never give away yourself again that early because then you make a bond with that person and they might have just used you for that.
I personally think that if he said that then he still likes you he is just in denial.
Shamefully you're always going to have a connection with this boy because he was your first.
But really once you meet a guy who is going to accept you, it will get you over this guy even though you will never forget the guy who you lost it too.
Just let time heal all wounds and then pick yourself up again and live your life girl!I am dealing with a breakup...help?
welcome to the real world hun dont worry about it get on with ur life ull get over it in time
wow, although i'm a male i know what you're going through. i went through pretty much the same thing with my ex girlfriend. she was who i lost my virginity to too. Here are some things that you have to do if you really wanna get over him:
1. End all contact with him.
2.Go out with friends, don't be afraid to have fun again.
3. remember, having a boyfriend is not the only thing that makes you happy in life. embrace your friends, family, and hobbies.
4. And probably the biggest thing, well for me anyways, is to remember that before him, you WERE happy. you can be happy and you will.
as for your confidence, it all starts with you. if you know you are a great girl and you show it, guys will see it. believe me, there is nothing more i like more then a confident girl.
there is someone out there for everyone, you'll find him one day.
I have seen this many times with My younger sisters and their girlfriends and every time I give the same advice. Young women fall in-love way too easily. When guys are young, they have no clue about what love and being in-love means. We are driven by a powerful chemical called testosterone that makes Us act and say things to women that makes them believe we love them when in reality all we are really looking for is a sex partner. It takes time for young men to actually figure out what it really means when you tell a woman you love her. Being in-love with her is way more than just the sex.
I have gone through a tought breakup before, believe me, it sucks and I know sort of how you feel.
Guys are stupid and sometimes dont realize what they have right infront of them. It must be hard knowing you gave your virginity to yourself because you liked him and trusted him that much. You will find someone for you, trust me. I have now found someone for me it just took a while but it is so worth it. Keep reminding yourself how great of a person you are, and this guy must be a jerk to walk out on you when he had someone awesome.
I highly doubt he has forgotten about you because you have been in his life and those memories will always be there
dont worry you will get through this!
good luck(:
I wouldn't recommend being friends with him. you will always have a deeper attachment to him because you gave your virginity to him. Break ups aren't easy. But hang in there. As days and weeks go by it will get better, promise. Don't let him manipulate you anymore. It's not a mistake as long as you learn the lesson
do not be friends with him. just cut off all contact with him no matter what sweet things he tries to tell you.
please take my word and know that no good could come of it. just go out with your friends and have a good time and things should just fall into place on its own.
Help, I am taking the breakup very hard?
My boyfriend said ';we need time'; because of a joke i said that he didn't like, the worst part is he told me that over a text message and never called me afterwards. It's been almost 2 weeks and i haven't heard from him, which leads me to believe that he doesn't want me anymore. I cannot believe he would hurt me so much for a joke that i apologized for many times. we have been together for 6 months and he told me things that i believed and ended up falling for him deeply unconsciously. He would always talk about marrage, kids, buying a house together and told me I was the good woman he was looking for, and i was the type he would marry. I called him many times and he wouldn't answer, he ignores my texts and my IMs. I left a message crying on his voicemail telling him that Why can't he at least call me and confort me? He is totally ignoring me.I have lost 8 pounds in a week. I cannot eat or focus. I even have thoughts of suicide.how do i cope with this? I think i love him.Help, I am taking the breakup very hard?
firstly...i know exactly what you are going thru. i went thru it, and am still dealing with it now.
the girl who broke up with me said i need time to be single to work out who i want to be, then has been with 2 other guys in 9 weeks, and has a new boyfriend now.
the thing is you can't understand it. i know i've torn myself up inside trying to work it out. i too lost 12kg in 4 weeks.
you need to keep yourself busy with other things. you can't change the past, you can't control the future, you can only control now.
turn yourself back into the girl he fell in love with. get your life back on track. he wouldn't want to come back to a mess.
don't chase him...i know that is the hardest thing not to do...but if he needs space, then chasing him could will only push him away more, and might end up with him resenting you.
sorry for the hurt your going thru...there is nothing else that feels like it. *hugs*
good luckHelp, I am taking the breakup very hard?
don't worry. he doesn't deserve you Hun. it's probably for the best anyhow. if he cant take a joke, and most important if he cant accept your apology. he is not worth a another phone call or text. you are much better without him. and when time will come he will regret that he didn't forgive you and chase you, by that time you are happy and successful and it will only come back to him hard. a man with this kind of attitude is not worth stressing about. trust me you will be fine.
firstly...i know exactly what you are going thru. i went thru it, and am still dealing with it now.
the girl who broke up with me said i need time to be single to work out who i want to be, then has been with 2 other guys in 9 weeks, and has a new boyfriend now.
the thing is you can't understand it. i know i've torn myself up inside trying to work it out. i too lost 12kg in 4 weeks.
you need to keep yourself busy with other things. you can't change the past, you can't control the future, you can only control now.
turn yourself back into the girl he fell in love with. get your life back on track. he wouldn't want to come back to a mess.
don't chase him...i know that is the hardest thing not to do...but if he needs space, then chasing him could will only push him away more, and might end up with him resenting you.
sorry for the hurt your going thru...there is nothing else that feels like it. *hugs*
good luckHelp, I am taking the breakup very hard?
don't worry. he doesn't deserve you Hun. it's probably for the best anyhow. if he cant take a joke, and most important if he cant accept your apology. he is not worth a another phone call or text. you are much better without him. and when time will come he will regret that he didn't forgive you and chase you, by that time you are happy and successful and it will only come back to him hard. a man with this kind of attitude is not worth stressing about. trust me you will be fine.
Did anyone go thru a breakup while pregnant??? Because I am going thru a VERY tough one.?
I have never cried over a man before and since I found out my bf of 3yrs who I am pregnant by has been cheating it feels like my world has caved in on me...I dont know what to do..its to the point i can no longer breathe properly when we are going thru it and the baby kicks me like hes the one telling me ';Mommy calm down please';...I am stressed out and I'm 39weeks, my due date is 3days away and i dont know what went wrong with us...i thought i was his perfect match, seriously we've known eachother for sooo long.. what went wrong?....smh...i cant stop from crying and thinking about him cheating on our family we were suppose to build after i put sooooo much faith in him....I sound like a crybaby but i have known my bf since i was 13 and havent been with anyone else since we've been together...when i found out i decided to give us another chance by letting him back around because we're pregnant..and tonight i called his cellphone and heard the same 20y.o in the background who he cheated with before...i am usually a strong woman who can carry alot on her shoulders...but i dont want to be a single parent who is doing everything alone...smh..i dont know..
how did u cope with breaking up while pregnant and having to being strong for urself and the baby???Did anyone go thru a breakup while pregnant??? Because I am going thru a VERY tough one.?
Hi,
Even though my family didnt approve of me getting pregnant by this particular guy when he ran off and left me i was heart broken i still loved him and i was pregnant with his baby. 39weeks into pregnancy i was stressed, tired and confused, should i keep the baby? will he help me with the baby? how am i going to cope?...
At first it was hard trying to tell my parents , but when i finally got round to it they were not pleased (as expected) and very angry at me for getting into a situation like this. They promised to help me either way for the sake of the baby so i got some support from them. I also got some help from the nhs. When i explained the situation they were very helpfull and helped me cope which took ahuge weight off my back. My family all decided to chip in to help me get all of the equipment %26amp; i needed so that when the baby was born i was ready. Both the NHS %26amp; my family helped me get through all of this and i couldnt thank them enough.Did anyone go thru a breakup while pregnant??? Because I am going thru a VERY tough one.?
Read the story of a defeated relationship
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The hardest night of my life
When I found out about your marriage I felt devastated. It was on the 3rd of December 2009 at 10:13pm. I won't go into too much detail but the police and the ambulance was called on me that night. The following morning I caught the train and made my way down to your house. On the 4th of December 2009, I sat outside your house covered in blood waiting for you. It was around 11pm. It was the coldest night of my life. I believed you when you said you weren't at home. You said you were at work and you told me to wait for you. I sat there waiting covered in my own blood and tears. The next thing I saw was the police officer flashing a light in my tear filled eyes. And then I saw you coming out of your house. At that moment in time my heart sank. Not only did you lie but you also called the police on me. I was then dragged off the premises by the police. While I was being treated at the hospital, I received a call from you. You said you had to see me. You said you'll do as I say if I let you see me. I felt hopeful again. And so when I was released from the hospital an hour later, I wandered the unknown streets of London as the rain washed away my tears. It was around 4am. I picked up a broken stick and carved your name on the ground. And then I saw you walking towards me. I felt joyful again as I recalled how earlier on you said you'll do as I say. But to my disappointment, all you said was nothing can be done now. You said you're married and you can't break that woman's heart. Did you even consider my broken heart? The flame of hope that was lit in my heart suddenly burned out. I cried before you to no avail. I put my head between my knees and cried. When I lifted my head back up, I couldn't see you. You were gone. I rang you and you said you needed a drink and you'll be back in five minutes. After waiting for more than fifteen minutes, I saw two police officers walking towards me. Apparently you had called the police on me again. You then came back. When the police officer asked you who I was, you labelled me as your ';ex';. That word still echoes in my ears day and night. And then you left. I was then questioned by the police for the third time in twenty-four hours. With that being said, I conclude the tale of the hardest night of my life. Take care my friend. May God forgive you. I will always love you.brown hair beaded necklace
how did u cope with breaking up while pregnant and having to being strong for urself and the baby???Did anyone go thru a breakup while pregnant??? Because I am going thru a VERY tough one.?
Hi,
Even though my family didnt approve of me getting pregnant by this particular guy when he ran off and left me i was heart broken i still loved him and i was pregnant with his baby. 39weeks into pregnancy i was stressed, tired and confused, should i keep the baby? will he help me with the baby? how am i going to cope?...
At first it was hard trying to tell my parents , but when i finally got round to it they were not pleased (as expected) and very angry at me for getting into a situation like this. They promised to help me either way for the sake of the baby so i got some support from them. I also got some help from the nhs. When i explained the situation they were very helpfull and helped me cope which took ahuge weight off my back. My family all decided to chip in to help me get all of the equipment %26amp; i needed so that when the baby was born i was ready. Both the NHS %26amp; my family helped me get through all of this and i couldnt thank them enough.Did anyone go thru a breakup while pregnant??? Because I am going thru a VERY tough one.?
Read the story of a defeated relationship
www.littleredandthebigbadworld.com
The hardest night of my life
When I found out about your marriage I felt devastated. It was on the 3rd of December 2009 at 10:13pm. I won't go into too much detail but the police and the ambulance was called on me that night. The following morning I caught the train and made my way down to your house. On the 4th of December 2009, I sat outside your house covered in blood waiting for you. It was around 11pm. It was the coldest night of my life. I believed you when you said you weren't at home. You said you were at work and you told me to wait for you. I sat there waiting covered in my own blood and tears. The next thing I saw was the police officer flashing a light in my tear filled eyes. And then I saw you coming out of your house. At that moment in time my heart sank. Not only did you lie but you also called the police on me. I was then dragged off the premises by the police. While I was being treated at the hospital, I received a call from you. You said you had to see me. You said you'll do as I say if I let you see me. I felt hopeful again. And so when I was released from the hospital an hour later, I wandered the unknown streets of London as the rain washed away my tears. It was around 4am. I picked up a broken stick and carved your name on the ground. And then I saw you walking towards me. I felt joyful again as I recalled how earlier on you said you'll do as I say. But to my disappointment, all you said was nothing can be done now. You said you're married and you can't break that woman's heart. Did you even consider my broken heart? The flame of hope that was lit in my heart suddenly burned out. I cried before you to no avail. I put my head between my knees and cried. When I lifted my head back up, I couldn't see you. You were gone. I rang you and you said you needed a drink and you'll be back in five minutes. After waiting for more than fifteen minutes, I saw two police officers walking towards me. Apparently you had called the police on me again. You then came back. When the police officer asked you who I was, you labelled me as your ';ex';. That word still echoes in my ears day and night. And then you left. I was then questioned by the police for the third time in twenty-four hours. With that being said, I conclude the tale of the hardest night of my life. Take care my friend. May God forgive you. I will always love you.
Having trouble with a recent breakup?
I'm 17 and male and i recently broke up with my gf of 3 months. Now i know at this age i shouldn't have taken things seriousy but i did. We were together and she put me though alot. I'm a very happy person but she isn't. She was really negitive. She used to cut her self and and would threaten to do it when i was on the phone with her. She also threated suicide. I knew this wasnt heathly to any of us but i liked her so much i stayed. I helped her get though 2 deaths and i actually lifted her mood. Than like i said she breaks up with me, 2 days later shes with another guy. I asked her if she left me for him, she says no but its obvious she did because she would not stop talking about him for about a week before she broke up with me. This was the first time in my life i really opened to someone so it hurts so much more that she betrayed me as a person in general. How should i cope with it?Having trouble with a recent breakup?
Lookk man im here for you even though i dont know u ill be a friend? If thats cool with you?? So u dont care that im bi and we can still be friends?
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Lookk man im here for you even though i dont know u ill be a friend? If thats cool with you?? So u dont care that im bi and we can still be friends?
Look can i talk to you?
Do rebounders eventually cope with the lost?
Im going through really hard times right now and would like some advice.
Its been 5 months now since my breakup from an 8yr relationship (found out that he cheated and probably more than once). For the first few months he pleaded with me to come back but trying after you screw up isnt good enough for me and in my heart I believe that he would never change. Even though he cheated which should be enough for me to move on, I am still depressed and sadden with the whole thing. He has moved on and makes it a point to tell me that he is happy now and that he no longer hurts...oh how that hurt to hear him say that but what can I do but face it whether I like it or not. I have come a long way with my heart and feelings to turn back. I have no desire to be with anyone new and cant seem to understand how he can just let go of his feelings so quickly after all our years and memories we built together. It's been months and I still feel depressed as ever and this worries me. Is this normal what I am feeling at this stage in time? Is it healthier for me to ';emotionally cleanse'; myself? For those that rebound, do they eventually experience the lost and depression or can they just move by simply fill the void? It angers me at the thought that he he can move on with life and never get the chance to experience the grieving process I am going through.... I hope Im making sense, I really need some advice or experiences. thanks.
Do rebounders eventually cope with the lost?
obviously he is an asshole, he cheated on you so he could move on so fast because even when he was with you he wasn't fully with you.
And it's going to hurt, maybe for five more months or even a year. But eventually it will be okay, and you will be okay. You will be able to move on and you will find some one you to love again.
In the mean time i don't think you should have a 'rebound' guy because you could end up hurting them and in turn making yourself feel even worse.
Just give it time.Do rebounders eventually cope with the lost?
Your experience of the relationship was very sincere and deep. His experience of it was shallow and insincere. Therefore, he could move on with no problem. I suggest that you stop talking to him, as he is basically taunting you (another character flaw).
It is normal to be devastated after 8 years with a cheater. Forget whatever he's doing, as it's irrelevant, and focus on your life and how great it will be. You don't need him for a great life.
Yes, we can heal. Remember that the heart is an amazing muscle, and it can heal itself when hurt. I am much in the same boat as you, my wife having left me last November. I recently met another woman, and fell madly in love with her, but she doesn't want a relationship, as she still loves an ex of hers. I am heartbroken, but in order to live, we must move forward. It's not easy, but we must do it. Best of luck.
I do think you need time to heal. Friends may tell you to go out and offer to fix you up. It's not worth it if you're not ready.Take a class or full schedule. Expand your mind. you might just get a degree and have a fabulous career. I'd choose archeology and dig for relics in exotic places. He hasn't found the answer and all he's doing is making bad karma. He ain't worth your tears. You'll survive but the last thing you need is to cover a gaping wound with a bandaid. good luck.
the only reason he did what he did is because someone did it to him
when i was younger this girl took my virginity and left me high and dry. I wanted to marry her. It took me about 18 months to get over her and about 3 years before dated another girl. From that moment on I vowed that I would never let a girl do me wrong like that ever again.
Its been 5 months now since my breakup from an 8yr relationship (found out that he cheated and probably more than once). For the first few months he pleaded with me to come back but trying after you screw up isnt good enough for me and in my heart I believe that he would never change. Even though he cheated which should be enough for me to move on, I am still depressed and sadden with the whole thing. He has moved on and makes it a point to tell me that he is happy now and that he no longer hurts...oh how that hurt to hear him say that but what can I do but face it whether I like it or not. I have come a long way with my heart and feelings to turn back. I have no desire to be with anyone new and cant seem to understand how he can just let go of his feelings so quickly after all our years and memories we built together. It's been months and I still feel depressed as ever and this worries me. Is this normal what I am feeling at this stage in time? Is it healthier for me to ';emotionally cleanse'; myself? For those that rebound, do they eventually experience the lost and depression or can they just move by simply fill the void? It angers me at the thought that he he can move on with life and never get the chance to experience the grieving process I am going through.... I hope Im making sense, I really need some advice or experiences. thanks.
Do rebounders eventually cope with the lost?
obviously he is an asshole, he cheated on you so he could move on so fast because even when he was with you he wasn't fully with you.
And it's going to hurt, maybe for five more months or even a year. But eventually it will be okay, and you will be okay. You will be able to move on and you will find some one you to love again.
In the mean time i don't think you should have a 'rebound' guy because you could end up hurting them and in turn making yourself feel even worse.
Just give it time.Do rebounders eventually cope with the lost?
Your experience of the relationship was very sincere and deep. His experience of it was shallow and insincere. Therefore, he could move on with no problem. I suggest that you stop talking to him, as he is basically taunting you (another character flaw).
It is normal to be devastated after 8 years with a cheater. Forget whatever he's doing, as it's irrelevant, and focus on your life and how great it will be. You don't need him for a great life.
Yes, we can heal. Remember that the heart is an amazing muscle, and it can heal itself when hurt. I am much in the same boat as you, my wife having left me last November. I recently met another woman, and fell madly in love with her, but she doesn't want a relationship, as she still loves an ex of hers. I am heartbroken, but in order to live, we must move forward. It's not easy, but we must do it. Best of luck.
I do think you need time to heal. Friends may tell you to go out and offer to fix you up. It's not worth it if you're not ready.Take a class or full schedule. Expand your mind. you might just get a degree and have a fabulous career. I'd choose archeology and dig for relics in exotic places. He hasn't found the answer and all he's doing is making bad karma. He ain't worth your tears. You'll survive but the last thing you need is to cover a gaping wound with a bandaid. good luck.
the only reason he did what he did is because someone did it to him
when i was younger this girl took my virginity and left me high and dry. I wanted to marry her. It took me about 18 months to get over her and about 3 years before dated another girl. From that moment on I vowed that I would never let a girl do me wrong like that ever again.
How can I cope with depression without medication?
I have been diagnosed as suffering from severe depression and prescribed Effexor. The side effects are intolerable even after 5 weeks so my Doctor has suggested I come off them and try a different brand. 10 years ago I went through the same thing and found the change over of types of antidepressant to be extremely difficult and distressing. I'm terrified that changing them this time will be the same and I may have to get worse again before I get better.
I'm not keen on trying another brand as I've tried several brands over the years all of which have had the same side effects and have not seemed to make enough of a difference to make it worth while putting up with them.
Ideally I'd like to come off the Effexor and avoid having to go on anything else but need some advice on what self help I can do to help resolve my depression without medication. For information it's linked to my divorce earlier this year which triggered an eating disorder. The eating disorder is being treated and I'm am recovering. I have therapy once a week although until my mood improves it is not as productive as it could be as I lack motivation and am constantly exhaused from not sleeping. In addition I am starting to move on with my life after moving out of home with my husband in June (it has been an amicable breakup) although I feel I need some way to work through my emotions relating to this to fully put it behind me.
Any thoughts would be gratefully received!How can I cope with depression without medication?
Keep on with your therapy.
Go for a walk or other exercise in the open air around the middle of the day. The sunlight will help your mood, the exercise will help you to sleep and you could also generate endorphins (chemicals which improve your mood).
Keep a 'happiness diary'. Each day write down 3 good things which happened. Needn't be mega, could be someone smiled at you in a queue, you saw something funny or nice, you enjoyed a TV programme or whatever. This will help to focus you on positive rather than negative things.
Some people swear by St John's Wort, a medicinal herb. Do not take this with any prescription drugs unless you talk to a pharmacist. I haven't tried it so don't know if it would help you or not.
Hope you feel better soon.How can I cope with depression without medication?
Join a gym and exercise for an hour every day, or even buy some exercise equipment for home. It breaks your depression, give it a month and you will have increased confidence, sleep better and a new outlook on life. It worked for my depression. Change of lifestyle = new person.
eat a peach for peace
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Lets Be an informed person so you can choose your healing route well. Be really aware that the conventional treatment for this can be horrendous and you can go on for years with no improvement and massive damaging detrimental side effects from meds . Do read this very carefully and try and understand the principles behind what is being said .
Evaluate all of this info well 鈥搕his info will save you years of suffering ---years if you apply it ..
This will educate you on our health care system and its dire limitations
All treatment recommended by the doctors should be tested and approved and quite rightly so.
That makes sense right .it costs millions to test and approve treatments because of the possible damage to people..
Drug companies Fund most research and will only and I mean only look at treatments, which show the promise of good deal of a profit, --they will actively dismiss any therapy which does not have profit potential鈥?thus your doctor will only recommend therapies with profit in them.
Despite The fact that some of these other therapies mentioned do have overwhelming benefits some, which have saved needless amputations, needless pain and trauma, and much loss of life. Drugs are not the answer for depression with mind altering chemicals or any other mental illness. This is a fundamental principle and unless you grasp this fully 鈥搚ou could /will have years of suffering ahead of you .
This does not help you though when you are ill and suffering鈥攏ot hearing about therapies which can help from a person you look up to and trust Have you heard your local doctor recommend, Massage Spiritual healing, Herbs, Light therapy,Colour therapy,the violet ray therapy, Osteopathy, Electrical Frequency devices.
These therapies will work for many complaints of a so called mental nature
we have thousands of testimonials and results showing years of successful applications
Do this and I will guarantee improvements to you inside a day its that simple, of course getting these things in place can be much harder. Each therapy can have a very beneficial influence on you.
Print this all off save it and enact it and share it --- of course someone to help you get these therapies in your life is invaluable but do not be swayed by them trying for short cuts 鈥?
1,get someone to massage your back and legs at least 3 times a week use peanut oil or a mix of 50-50 olive and peanut oil.
2 use the violet ray machine an Edgar Cayce device google search this --- 3 times a week on the other days especially on the spine鈥?we use it every day with very positive results
3.get a tent sleep out side 3times a week utilising earth energy - nature can help big time especially with how you feel how much energy you have
4 study and apply good nutrition-- adequate minerals all of them particularly calcium and magnesium iron essential fatty acids omega 3 6 9 protein etc
5 ensure your thyroid is working well
7 ensure you do at least I hr per day some kind of voluntary work when you are able..the reasons you are ill , or poor or have allsorts of bad things happen to you is because of karma -----usually from past lives but some from this one 鈥搗oluntary work will offset your mistakes--- how much it offsets well that is down to god and how much you do. Healing us is in direct proportion to the help we give others ie your healing comes with helping others achieve theirs so if people are doing very little in helping others ---they suffer more and longer...and if they are doing a lot they get well faster....so now you know what to do ,,and like a lot of us are already doing being of service.
8 be amongst people who are giving, friendly who have time for you who love you , choose your friends well
9 be or get to a place which personally love or like
10 get and do some work which you like or love
11 ensure you do no acts which hurt or inflict on anyone 鈥揹on鈥檛 want to add to your karma do we !!!
12 spiritual healing yes and reiki -.
13think good positive thoughts, laughter, look at comedy, play good uplifting music,
14 avoid at all costs exposure to violence, murders, suffering ,death ,tragedies, -feed upon good things uplifting things, things that feel like a breath of fresh air..
15 Positive affirmation- that鈥檚 right programme your self in the mirror , thoughts are things words are things actions are things , all have influence, few people realise these things can have an effect on themselves .
16 a detox ------ toxins can influence how you feel big time
17 hugs get plenty of them in your daily life you would be amazed at how people feel after a few decent hugs鈥?
18 loads of exercise running walking climbing but something which you enjoy
19 rid yourselves of all aspartame laden foods and drink and many additives get back to a wholesome organic diet diet
A total cure however is tied up with karma so you can imagine just how important is the voluntary work.
I work in a pharmacy and see many people like yourself. It is very hard to end the cycle of taking anti depressants but I really do think that with time and effort you can be drug free again. Don't think of it as getting back to normal (after all what is 'normal' anyway!) instead think of being a happier more balanced you. Try not to focus on the now but look forward to little things. Take up a new hobbie or join a club this will give you something to work towards. Change your regular routine, it is very easy to get stuck in your 'normal routine' and this can prevent you from moving on in life. Give yourself little rewards for having a good day or getting your chores done. I think that you really need to look at the bigger picture in your life and set short and long term goals for yourself. I took up yoga and I cant believe the how much it has changed my outlook in life, you could also try that. I really do wish you all the best and hope that you find the answers you need.
I'm not keen on trying another brand as I've tried several brands over the years all of which have had the same side effects and have not seemed to make enough of a difference to make it worth while putting up with them.
Ideally I'd like to come off the Effexor and avoid having to go on anything else but need some advice on what self help I can do to help resolve my depression without medication. For information it's linked to my divorce earlier this year which triggered an eating disorder. The eating disorder is being treated and I'm am recovering. I have therapy once a week although until my mood improves it is not as productive as it could be as I lack motivation and am constantly exhaused from not sleeping. In addition I am starting to move on with my life after moving out of home with my husband in June (it has been an amicable breakup) although I feel I need some way to work through my emotions relating to this to fully put it behind me.
Any thoughts would be gratefully received!How can I cope with depression without medication?
Keep on with your therapy.
Go for a walk or other exercise in the open air around the middle of the day. The sunlight will help your mood, the exercise will help you to sleep and you could also generate endorphins (chemicals which improve your mood).
Keep a 'happiness diary'. Each day write down 3 good things which happened. Needn't be mega, could be someone smiled at you in a queue, you saw something funny or nice, you enjoyed a TV programme or whatever. This will help to focus you on positive rather than negative things.
Some people swear by St John's Wort, a medicinal herb. Do not take this with any prescription drugs unless you talk to a pharmacist. I haven't tried it so don't know if it would help you or not.
Hope you feel better soon.How can I cope with depression without medication?
Join a gym and exercise for an hour every day, or even buy some exercise equipment for home. It breaks your depression, give it a month and you will have increased confidence, sleep better and a new outlook on life. It worked for my depression. Change of lifestyle = new person.
eat a peach for peace
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3ghJr7wgR鈥?/a>
Lets Be an informed person so you can choose your healing route well. Be really aware that the conventional treatment for this can be horrendous and you can go on for years with no improvement and massive damaging detrimental side effects from meds . Do read this very carefully and try and understand the principles behind what is being said .
Evaluate all of this info well 鈥搕his info will save you years of suffering ---years if you apply it ..
This will educate you on our health care system and its dire limitations
All treatment recommended by the doctors should be tested and approved and quite rightly so.
That makes sense right .it costs millions to test and approve treatments because of the possible damage to people..
Drug companies Fund most research and will only and I mean only look at treatments, which show the promise of good deal of a profit, --they will actively dismiss any therapy which does not have profit potential鈥?thus your doctor will only recommend therapies with profit in them.
Despite The fact that some of these other therapies mentioned do have overwhelming benefits some, which have saved needless amputations, needless pain and trauma, and much loss of life. Drugs are not the answer for depression with mind altering chemicals or any other mental illness. This is a fundamental principle and unless you grasp this fully 鈥搚ou could /will have years of suffering ahead of you .
This does not help you though when you are ill and suffering鈥攏ot hearing about therapies which can help from a person you look up to and trust Have you heard your local doctor recommend, Massage Spiritual healing, Herbs, Light therapy,Colour therapy,the violet ray therapy, Osteopathy, Electrical Frequency devices.
These therapies will work for many complaints of a so called mental nature
we have thousands of testimonials and results showing years of successful applications
Do this and I will guarantee improvements to you inside a day its that simple, of course getting these things in place can be much harder. Each therapy can have a very beneficial influence on you.
Print this all off save it and enact it and share it --- of course someone to help you get these therapies in your life is invaluable but do not be swayed by them trying for short cuts 鈥?
1,get someone to massage your back and legs at least 3 times a week use peanut oil or a mix of 50-50 olive and peanut oil.
2 use the violet ray machine an Edgar Cayce device google search this --- 3 times a week on the other days especially on the spine鈥?we use it every day with very positive results
3.get a tent sleep out side 3times a week utilising earth energy - nature can help big time especially with how you feel how much energy you have
4 study and apply good nutrition-- adequate minerals all of them particularly calcium and magnesium iron essential fatty acids omega 3 6 9 protein etc
5 ensure your thyroid is working well
7 ensure you do at least I hr per day some kind of voluntary work when you are able..the reasons you are ill , or poor or have allsorts of bad things happen to you is because of karma -----usually from past lives but some from this one 鈥搗oluntary work will offset your mistakes--- how much it offsets well that is down to god and how much you do. Healing us is in direct proportion to the help we give others ie your healing comes with helping others achieve theirs so if people are doing very little in helping others ---they suffer more and longer...and if they are doing a lot they get well faster....so now you know what to do ,,and like a lot of us are already doing being of service.
8 be amongst people who are giving, friendly who have time for you who love you , choose your friends well
9 be or get to a place which personally love or like
10 get and do some work which you like or love
11 ensure you do no acts which hurt or inflict on anyone 鈥揹on鈥檛 want to add to your karma do we !!!
12 spiritual healing yes and reiki -.
13think good positive thoughts, laughter, look at comedy, play good uplifting music,
14 avoid at all costs exposure to violence, murders, suffering ,death ,tragedies, -feed upon good things uplifting things, things that feel like a breath of fresh air..
15 Positive affirmation- that鈥檚 right programme your self in the mirror , thoughts are things words are things actions are things , all have influence, few people realise these things can have an effect on themselves .
16 a detox ------ toxins can influence how you feel big time
17 hugs get plenty of them in your daily life you would be amazed at how people feel after a few decent hugs鈥?
18 loads of exercise running walking climbing but something which you enjoy
19 rid yourselves of all aspartame laden foods and drink and many additives get back to a wholesome organic diet diet
A total cure however is tied up with karma so you can imagine just how important is the voluntary work.
I work in a pharmacy and see many people like yourself. It is very hard to end the cycle of taking anti depressants but I really do think that with time and effort you can be drug free again. Don't think of it as getting back to normal (after all what is 'normal' anyway!) instead think of being a happier more balanced you. Try not to focus on the now but look forward to little things. Take up a new hobbie or join a club this will give you something to work towards. Change your regular routine, it is very easy to get stuck in your 'normal routine' and this can prevent you from moving on in life. Give yourself little rewards for having a good day or getting your chores done. I think that you really need to look at the bigger picture in your life and set short and long term goals for yourself. I took up yoga and I cant believe the how much it has changed my outlook in life, you could also try that. I really do wish you all the best and hope that you find the answers you need.
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