Please bear with me here. I'm 18 years old and just graduated high school last spring (class of '09). I loved high school for the most part and what surprised everyone (and even myself) was when I started dating my friend who I've had a crush on since he was a freshmen. Problem is, while we're one year apart age wise. We're two years apart grade wise (When he was a sophomore, I was a senior). We always flirted and he really fell for me hard, I always liked him but I was afraid because he was younger. I never made a move on him and the tables turned last winter when he made a move on me at my last winter formal dance. I had an amazing time and he ended up going in for a kiss and kissing me. Everyone was shocked because I didn't date any guys in high school. I don't yearn for flings as much as real relationships. Regardless to say, he knocked me off my feet and even though I was about to graduate and he was a sophomore we started dating and I was the happiest I'd ever been in my life. I'm going to community college so I live nearby. But after summer ended things started to change. He broke up with me once in September of last year for no real reason. He said he just wanted space. We both cried and I was a wreck. I'd never had a real first love/first boyfriend/first sex before and didn't know how to cope with losing him. I gave him some space but eventually fought for him back and we got back together less than a month later. We shared some really good memories and laughs and I can honestly say he was my bestfriend. I could go on and on about the things he's done for me to show how much he cares and respects me. But out of the blue he dumped me again several weeks ago. He just said he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore. But it was nothing I did wrong. This time around I stopped talking to him for the most part even though it still pains me. I feel like a part of me died and he says he would take a bullet for me anyday and that he still thinks about me everyday. He says he's really messed up and confused and just needs to figure who he is. He said he felt like we were in a little marriage and already starting to solve problems and things were getting to routine and boring. He says he wants to remain friends after I get over him but I don't know if I can ever see him in that light ever again. I miss him everyday and love him so much it hurts. I can't stand to see him party and do stupid stuff since I've been there and done that and eventually you realize it's not all that it cracked up to be... Idk what to do. Is it stupid to wait? If he misses me and cares for me so much why did he break up with me? Do you think when he matures more that he'll realize what he had?Help! I NEED A GUYS PERSPECTIVE. How can my ex boyfriend breakup with me if he still cares for me so much?
the ';things are getting too routine and boring'; line is straight BS. He's seein someone else n you need to find someone worth you as well. He's immature. I'm 25, I'm a guy I know these things. My ex felt the same way, always needed action and excitement to stimulate her, all it boils down to is they're not happy with their life for whatever reason, and they need SOMEONE ELSE to live it for them and be their partner in crime cuz they can't do it themselves. They have a hard time accepting life and what it entails. They have no sense of loyalty and passion, they just seek stimulation. I hope as much as you do that they can grow up one day, but don't put yourself in a position to get hurt for it, they'll most likely hate you for trying to ';be controlling';. You seem like a mature girl, just don't fall for the players hun, you'll find a perfect match, and never lower your standards.Help! I NEED A GUYS PERSPECTIVE. How can my ex boyfriend breakup with me if he still cares for me so much?
He might want space because he's not sure if you're the girl he wants to be with because some people hate wasting time in relationships. Or mabye he's not sure if he's gay or not.
I don't know
Friday, August 20, 2010
How to go about things in regards to a breakup?
Hello,
I am not too sure if any of you have read my one posting in regards to ';When is enough enough'; but I am at that time now, where I feel I've had enough within this relationship I am in, and I need help.
I have never been the one to end a relationship, and I am struggling more than anything right now. I am so upset, frustrated, confused and can't even begin to tell you how much pain and loss I am feeling. I am pretty much a disaster today. Tears flowing and just not knowing what to do or how to go about things.
Last night, this guy (don't know what to call him anymore) and I had another fight, and it was pretty much one sided (he was the only one talking) Anyways, awful, cruel things were stated to me and about me, and although I've heard all of these things before, I don't want the pattern to continue, so I feel I should leave and for good.
Now I have tried in the past, but I've never stuck to it. How do I? And how do I continue the loving relationship I have with this guys parents and extended family? The mom just today wrote me an email and said that I was special to her, and she was happy that am in her sons and her life, and that she loves me very much. She is not aware of the problems that are happening and have been happening for a while. It's best to not say anything, because yes some tend to not want to know, you know? The blind eye.
I really like the mom, and have grown close to her. I don't just want to cut things off, but when you end things with the son, that's bad to keep in contact isn't it? I've been told, that the mom will always side with the son. What do I do? I've tried to tell the mom certain things before, but she is kind of the person that doesn't want to hear it. You know, if it's not stated, it's better and not happening. She's a dear person, but this is the only thing that bugs me about her.
And I am hurting extremely bad in regards to this guy. I just don't understand him, and I don't know how anyone could be so down right rude and cruel. I still love him, and I don't want to say bye. I know I have to, but I am struggling because I don't know how.
Please anyone if you've been through this, how did you cope? What did you do? How do you let the guilt go? How do you know you are making the right choice? I am scared, sad, teary eyed, and still with everything I am love this guy. I know it's stupid, but I do. I have been with him going on 6 years.
ThanksHow to go about things in regards to a breakup?
somtimes we don;t feel NEEDED Loved or wanted enuffstars myspace trojan
I am not too sure if any of you have read my one posting in regards to ';When is enough enough'; but I am at that time now, where I feel I've had enough within this relationship I am in, and I need help.
I have never been the one to end a relationship, and I am struggling more than anything right now. I am so upset, frustrated, confused and can't even begin to tell you how much pain and loss I am feeling. I am pretty much a disaster today. Tears flowing and just not knowing what to do or how to go about things.
Last night, this guy (don't know what to call him anymore) and I had another fight, and it was pretty much one sided (he was the only one talking) Anyways, awful, cruel things were stated to me and about me, and although I've heard all of these things before, I don't want the pattern to continue, so I feel I should leave and for good.
Now I have tried in the past, but I've never stuck to it. How do I? And how do I continue the loving relationship I have with this guys parents and extended family? The mom just today wrote me an email and said that I was special to her, and she was happy that am in her sons and her life, and that she loves me very much. She is not aware of the problems that are happening and have been happening for a while. It's best to not say anything, because yes some tend to not want to know, you know? The blind eye.
I really like the mom, and have grown close to her. I don't just want to cut things off, but when you end things with the son, that's bad to keep in contact isn't it? I've been told, that the mom will always side with the son. What do I do? I've tried to tell the mom certain things before, but she is kind of the person that doesn't want to hear it. You know, if it's not stated, it's better and not happening. She's a dear person, but this is the only thing that bugs me about her.
And I am hurting extremely bad in regards to this guy. I just don't understand him, and I don't know how anyone could be so down right rude and cruel. I still love him, and I don't want to say bye. I know I have to, but I am struggling because I don't know how.
Please anyone if you've been through this, how did you cope? What did you do? How do you let the guilt go? How do you know you are making the right choice? I am scared, sad, teary eyed, and still with everything I am love this guy. I know it's stupid, but I do. I have been with him going on 6 years.
ThanksHow to go about things in regards to a breakup?
somtimes we don;t feel NEEDED Loved or wanted enuff
How do I help a friend deal with a breakup from her boyfriend?
I have a lady friend who just broke up with her boyfriend and it looks to me like she is having a hard time dealing with it. I would like to help her get over the grief and let her know that I am there for her anytime she needs say a shoulder to cry on or to talk to. I don't know what to say to her.
I want her to feel comfortable talking to me and I want to feel the same way around her because I think I like her more than a friend.
I want to help her cope with it as much as I can. I want to try to get her to be friends with me. I have a list of songs i would like to put on a mix CD, maybe send her poems in a card along with my cell phone number and e-mail address to contact me anytime, or a yellow rose to let her know that I am thinking of her as a friend and at some point to get her to be my girlfriend. I don't want to push the issue right now.
Here's the list of songs that I have for a mix CD, I would like to know if these are good songs.
Joe Cocker's version of The Beatles song With a Little Help from My Friends.
You've Got a Friend by James Taylor
Bridge Over Troubled Water by Simon %26amp; Garfunkel
You're my Best Friend and Friends Will Be Friends by Queen
Come Together by The Beatles or Aerosmith's cover
Lean On Me by Bill Withers
Stand By Me by Ben E. King
and Don't Cry by Guns N' Roses
Some of the songs that I have listed I already have on CD and some of them I have to buy from iTunes which is no big deal.How do I help a friend deal with a breakup from her boyfriend?
Um here's a girl's opinion. If a guy who isn't my friend gives my a random cd of friendship songs I would think he is a creep. That is not the way to approach a girl. Especially not with a rose. If she is really that hurt from the breakup, then she only wants that one guy. She isn't thinking of a rebound at this point. U need to start by being friends with her and wait till u think she is over it to tell her u like her. And to start being friends, u don't give someone a cd. u start a conversation and go on from there with hanging out and stuff.How do I help a friend deal with a breakup from her boyfriend?
Give her some time to think and when you think shes ready ask her.
Aww you are too cute!, just be patient with her as she may not be ready to start dating. If you really mean it that you want to be her friend then go into this knowing that, just don't get mad at her if she does not reciprocate the feelings you are having towards her.
She is going to need time to heal from this old relationship and it is almost never good to be the rebound guy, you can be her friend but if you are going into this with an ulterior motive you might be the one that ends up crying, just proceed with caution.
Good luck!
Ok, look she just broke up with her boyfriend so give her time to get over him. If you become that friend that help her through this you will not become her boyfriend later. You also need to back off because that could be annoying when someone is trying too hard. So be their but not all the time. Also you don't want to become the rebound guy those relationship never work. Oh and the cd dude that is corny, I wouldn't do it. When a woman heart is hurting she don't want to hear any sappy songs.
I want her to feel comfortable talking to me and I want to feel the same way around her because I think I like her more than a friend.
I want to help her cope with it as much as I can. I want to try to get her to be friends with me. I have a list of songs i would like to put on a mix CD, maybe send her poems in a card along with my cell phone number and e-mail address to contact me anytime, or a yellow rose to let her know that I am thinking of her as a friend and at some point to get her to be my girlfriend. I don't want to push the issue right now.
Here's the list of songs that I have for a mix CD, I would like to know if these are good songs.
Joe Cocker's version of The Beatles song With a Little Help from My Friends.
You've Got a Friend by James Taylor
Bridge Over Troubled Water by Simon %26amp; Garfunkel
You're my Best Friend and Friends Will Be Friends by Queen
Come Together by The Beatles or Aerosmith's cover
Lean On Me by Bill Withers
Stand By Me by Ben E. King
and Don't Cry by Guns N' Roses
Some of the songs that I have listed I already have on CD and some of them I have to buy from iTunes which is no big deal.How do I help a friend deal with a breakup from her boyfriend?
Um here's a girl's opinion. If a guy who isn't my friend gives my a random cd of friendship songs I would think he is a creep. That is not the way to approach a girl. Especially not with a rose. If she is really that hurt from the breakup, then she only wants that one guy. She isn't thinking of a rebound at this point. U need to start by being friends with her and wait till u think she is over it to tell her u like her. And to start being friends, u don't give someone a cd. u start a conversation and go on from there with hanging out and stuff.How do I help a friend deal with a breakup from her boyfriend?
Give her some time to think and when you think shes ready ask her.
Aww you are too cute!, just be patient with her as she may not be ready to start dating. If you really mean it that you want to be her friend then go into this knowing that, just don't get mad at her if she does not reciprocate the feelings you are having towards her.
She is going to need time to heal from this old relationship and it is almost never good to be the rebound guy, you can be her friend but if you are going into this with an ulterior motive you might be the one that ends up crying, just proceed with caution.
Good luck!
Ok, look she just broke up with her boyfriend so give her time to get over him. If you become that friend that help her through this you will not become her boyfriend later. You also need to back off because that could be annoying when someone is trying too hard. So be their but not all the time. Also you don't want to become the rebound guy those relationship never work. Oh and the cd dude that is corny, I wouldn't do it. When a woman heart is hurting she don't want to hear any sappy songs.
How to go about things in regards to a breakup?
Hello,
I am not too sure if any of you have read my one posting in regards to ';When is enough enough'; but I am at that time now, where I feel I've had enough within this relationship I am in, and I need help.
I have never been the one to end a relationship, and I am struggling more than anything right now. I am so upset, frustrated, confused and can't even begin to tell you how much pain and loss I am feeling. I am pretty much a disaster today. Tears flowing and just not knowing what to do or how to go about things.
Last night, this guy (don't know what to call him anymore) and I had another fight, and it was pretty much one sided (he was the only one talking) Anyways, awful, cruel things were stated to me and about me, and although I've heard all of these things before, I don't want the pattern to continue, so I feel I should leave and for good.
Now I have tried in the past, but I've never stuck to it. How do I? And how do I continue the loving relationship I have with this guys parents and extended family? The mom just today wrote me an email and said that I was special to her, and she was happy that am in her sons and her life, and that she loves me very much. She is not aware of the problems that are happening and have been happening for a while. It's best to not say anything, because yes some tend to not want to know, you know? The blind eye.
I really like the mom, and have grown close to her. I don't just want to cut things off, but when you end things with the son, that's bad to keep in contact isn't it? I've been told, that the mom will always side with the son. What do I do? I've tried to tell the mom certain things before, but she is kind of the person that doesn't want to hear it. You know, if it's not stated, it's better and not happening. She's a dear person, but this is the only thing that bugs me about her.
And I am hurting extremely bad in regards to this guy. I just don't understand him, and I don't know how anyone could be so down right rude and cruel. I still love him, and I don't want to say bye. I know I have to, but I am struggling because I don't know how.
Please anyone if you've been through this, how did you cope? What did you do? How do you let the guilt go? How do you know you are making the right choice? I am scared, sad, teary eyed, and still with everything I am love this guy. I know it's stupid, but I do. I have been with him going on 6 years.
ThanksHow to go about things in regards to a breakup?
i breiefly read your story...its gonna be hard but you have to end it...you have to completely cut him off...no communication of any sort...and i understand how you feel about the family..i was in a relationship and i was best friends with his sister and his mom loved me and i loved them...you can always keep in touch with them but for now you need to let everything go. Dont feel guilty either cause your doing both of you a favor by ending something that is not meant to be and someday youll find someone who treats you like a princess..good luck with everything and i wish you the best
I am not too sure if any of you have read my one posting in regards to ';When is enough enough'; but I am at that time now, where I feel I've had enough within this relationship I am in, and I need help.
I have never been the one to end a relationship, and I am struggling more than anything right now. I am so upset, frustrated, confused and can't even begin to tell you how much pain and loss I am feeling. I am pretty much a disaster today. Tears flowing and just not knowing what to do or how to go about things.
Last night, this guy (don't know what to call him anymore) and I had another fight, and it was pretty much one sided (he was the only one talking) Anyways, awful, cruel things were stated to me and about me, and although I've heard all of these things before, I don't want the pattern to continue, so I feel I should leave and for good.
Now I have tried in the past, but I've never stuck to it. How do I? And how do I continue the loving relationship I have with this guys parents and extended family? The mom just today wrote me an email and said that I was special to her, and she was happy that am in her sons and her life, and that she loves me very much. She is not aware of the problems that are happening and have been happening for a while. It's best to not say anything, because yes some tend to not want to know, you know? The blind eye.
I really like the mom, and have grown close to her. I don't just want to cut things off, but when you end things with the son, that's bad to keep in contact isn't it? I've been told, that the mom will always side with the son. What do I do? I've tried to tell the mom certain things before, but she is kind of the person that doesn't want to hear it. You know, if it's not stated, it's better and not happening. She's a dear person, but this is the only thing that bugs me about her.
And I am hurting extremely bad in regards to this guy. I just don't understand him, and I don't know how anyone could be so down right rude and cruel. I still love him, and I don't want to say bye. I know I have to, but I am struggling because I don't know how.
Please anyone if you've been through this, how did you cope? What did you do? How do you let the guilt go? How do you know you are making the right choice? I am scared, sad, teary eyed, and still with everything I am love this guy. I know it's stupid, but I do. I have been with him going on 6 years.
ThanksHow to go about things in regards to a breakup?
i breiefly read your story...its gonna be hard but you have to end it...you have to completely cut him off...no communication of any sort...and i understand how you feel about the family..i was in a relationship and i was best friends with his sister and his mom loved me and i loved them...you can always keep in touch with them but for now you need to let everything go. Dont feel guilty either cause your doing both of you a favor by ending something that is not meant to be and someday youll find someone who treats you like a princess..good luck with everything and i wish you the best
How do I deal with a long-term relationship, breakup? It's KILLING ME!?
Just come out of a 4 year relationship, because she didn't want to continue because she has lost that ';feeling for me';. When I go to bed, I can't sleep.. I just toss n' turn and have bad dreams and wake up even more upset.
She now says that she is now unhappy in the relationship and... wants out.. She wanted me to be more romantic,spontaneous.. But I didn't know how to show it, or if she was being serious..
I don't know what to do, we use to be best-friends since school...
I can't imagine her dating, and doing ';STUFF'; with another person, it's really upsetting me thinking of this and I don't want to let go of her :(.
We have always had talks and dreams about moving in together, having pets and everything...
It's her birthday party on the 20th, should I still go ? (Meal with all of her friends, and my friends - mutual ). She also said it would be Awkward... :(..
Help....
She said -
I cant help the way i feel... i dint want to lie to you and fake my feelings just so you will be happy... i want to be happy too and feel the same... but if i cant then what else can i do...things got to much for me and i couldn't cope... i'll never be able to forget how our relationship was at the beginning and all the times we argued and you lost your temper.. i can forgive.. but not forget... and that just all caught up.. i mean i use to burst into tears when you just shouted even when it wasn't at me... that's how scared i was i know your hurt... and i know you miss me... and im sorry that's all i can say... i just dont wanna lie to you and myself by faking and forcing the way i feel... cuz it will and did make me unhappy i really am sorry...
I really wasn't that bad.. I did have a little bit of anger management during my teen years, but it is ok now.
I cherished, loved,cared did almost everything for her.. Why is she doing this, and how can it be changed back!
I see her almost everywhere, College and Work and on the internet (MSN) just looking at her name/pictures really does make me feel upset and remorseful of what happend... I really love her.
Another thing is that I get on with her whole family, I don't want change :(..How do I deal with a long-term relationship, breakup? It's KILLING ME!?
If your still best friends now then you wouldn't be so stressed out because you'd be BEST-MATES but not lovers because thats not what she wants right? you'd do anything for her right?How do I deal with a long-term relationship, breakup? It's KILLING ME!?
i'm sorry u gg through this, i can feel ur heart pain, this pain i used to suffer b4 2 mths ago.
i just as u, cannot do much.
the only advice i can give u is ....u just gotta move on.
time will heal , how long, we do not know.
if u love her,let her go. mayb the timing nw isn't just right,
if she meant to return, she's yours!
take good care of urself!
She now says that she is now unhappy in the relationship and... wants out.. She wanted me to be more romantic,spontaneous.. But I didn't know how to show it, or if she was being serious..
I don't know what to do, we use to be best-friends since school...
I can't imagine her dating, and doing ';STUFF'; with another person, it's really upsetting me thinking of this and I don't want to let go of her :(.
We have always had talks and dreams about moving in together, having pets and everything...
It's her birthday party on the 20th, should I still go ? (Meal with all of her friends, and my friends - mutual ). She also said it would be Awkward... :(..
Help....
She said -
I cant help the way i feel... i dint want to lie to you and fake my feelings just so you will be happy... i want to be happy too and feel the same... but if i cant then what else can i do...things got to much for me and i couldn't cope... i'll never be able to forget how our relationship was at the beginning and all the times we argued and you lost your temper.. i can forgive.. but not forget... and that just all caught up.. i mean i use to burst into tears when you just shouted even when it wasn't at me... that's how scared i was i know your hurt... and i know you miss me... and im sorry that's all i can say... i just dont wanna lie to you and myself by faking and forcing the way i feel... cuz it will and did make me unhappy i really am sorry...
I really wasn't that bad.. I did have a little bit of anger management during my teen years, but it is ok now.
I cherished, loved,cared did almost everything for her.. Why is she doing this, and how can it be changed back!
I see her almost everywhere, College and Work and on the internet (MSN) just looking at her name/pictures really does make me feel upset and remorseful of what happend... I really love her.
Another thing is that I get on with her whole family, I don't want change :(..How do I deal with a long-term relationship, breakup? It's KILLING ME!?
If your still best friends now then you wouldn't be so stressed out because you'd be BEST-MATES but not lovers because thats not what she wants right? you'd do anything for her right?How do I deal with a long-term relationship, breakup? It's KILLING ME!?
i'm sorry u gg through this, i can feel ur heart pain, this pain i used to suffer b4 2 mths ago.
i just as u, cannot do much.
the only advice i can give u is ....u just gotta move on.
time will heal , how long, we do not know.
if u love her,let her go. mayb the timing nw isn't just right,
if she meant to return, she's yours!
take good care of urself!
How can I deal with or resolve this breakup?
I'm currently 20 yrs old, I have very little living relatives and nowhere to stay at the moment...
I met my girlfriend almost 3 years ago after my mom died and began living with her almost immediately.
She needs ';time to think';, which I have no problem with, but I had to move out and am trying to respect her wishes to not contact her for a week or so to clear her mind.
Everything I do hurts, I don't have a stable home at the moment, I'm a college student and I work at night 5 days a week.
I don't know where to go from here or what to do.
It's been about 6 days and we've spoken every day, however she needs the time alone and I can't find a way to enjoy myself or the little bit I have left without her.
There's no definite way to know if we're getting back together or not and I need some ways to cope with the worst :/
Please help.How can I deal with or resolve this breakup?
I am sorry about your family situation. Sometimes they are just what you need. I think that you need someone to talk to. I think that you might have used her as a safe line and actually need to get help without her. I suggest I counselor because I think you need to not let go but get over the bumps in your road. You have had a lot happen to you in not that long of a time frame. Perhaps you jumped into the relationship with her before you were really emotionally ready to take on the new step. I am sure that it helped at the time, but I think the real time has come to see who you are as a single human before making anymore life changing decisions. I am sure you will be fine it just might take some time.How can I deal with or resolve this breakup?
Respect her ';no contact'; wish unless she is calling you.
Try to focus on other parts of your life. The more contact you have, the harder it will be for you.
Go to school, work your job and try to relax as much as possible.
She's not going to want to be with someone whose name is
';Ted Brownhole.';
Why not legally change your name to ';Ted Balloon Knot'; or ';Ted Hersheyhole'; or ';Ted Shittyslide'; or ';Ted Feces';?
Hang in there, what happens happens. You will either get back together, or find someone else who wants to be with you. Keep in touch with her, so she knows you care. Just stay strong.
Start by talking to people in charge of the dorms of your college. They might be able to swing you some temporary arrangement for cheap. Maybe there are some paid rooms that nobody's using anymore and that type of thing.
With the girl you definitely have to bite the bullet and resist the tempation to talk to her. It's obvious you have completely smothered her with your needs, and that is unfair to say the least. The fact that you have no one to care for you is unfortunate, but it's not her fault so she shouldn't be burdened with it. If you can show that you can keep your distance when needed, she will probably take you back at some point. But you have to make sure it's on her initiative and not yours.
The dorm environment would do you good because it should be easy to make friends and they always have a lot of activities going on to keep you busy. If that's not enough, try taking up a sport like karate or something. That not only takes up time and distracts you from life's problems, it also helps build character which will help a lot later on. It doesn't have to be karate. If you're not that athletic, then even something like chess would be good.
I met my girlfriend almost 3 years ago after my mom died and began living with her almost immediately.
She needs ';time to think';, which I have no problem with, but I had to move out and am trying to respect her wishes to not contact her for a week or so to clear her mind.
Everything I do hurts, I don't have a stable home at the moment, I'm a college student and I work at night 5 days a week.
I don't know where to go from here or what to do.
It's been about 6 days and we've spoken every day, however she needs the time alone and I can't find a way to enjoy myself or the little bit I have left without her.
There's no definite way to know if we're getting back together or not and I need some ways to cope with the worst :/
Please help.How can I deal with or resolve this breakup?
I am sorry about your family situation. Sometimes they are just what you need. I think that you need someone to talk to. I think that you might have used her as a safe line and actually need to get help without her. I suggest I counselor because I think you need to not let go but get over the bumps in your road. You have had a lot happen to you in not that long of a time frame. Perhaps you jumped into the relationship with her before you were really emotionally ready to take on the new step. I am sure that it helped at the time, but I think the real time has come to see who you are as a single human before making anymore life changing decisions. I am sure you will be fine it just might take some time.How can I deal with or resolve this breakup?
Respect her ';no contact'; wish unless she is calling you.
Try to focus on other parts of your life. The more contact you have, the harder it will be for you.
Go to school, work your job and try to relax as much as possible.
She's not going to want to be with someone whose name is
';Ted Brownhole.';
Why not legally change your name to ';Ted Balloon Knot'; or ';Ted Hersheyhole'; or ';Ted Shittyslide'; or ';Ted Feces';?
Hang in there, what happens happens. You will either get back together, or find someone else who wants to be with you. Keep in touch with her, so she knows you care. Just stay strong.
Start by talking to people in charge of the dorms of your college. They might be able to swing you some temporary arrangement for cheap. Maybe there are some paid rooms that nobody's using anymore and that type of thing.
With the girl you definitely have to bite the bullet and resist the tempation to talk to her. It's obvious you have completely smothered her with your needs, and that is unfair to say the least. The fact that you have no one to care for you is unfortunate, but it's not her fault so she shouldn't be burdened with it. If you can show that you can keep your distance when needed, she will probably take you back at some point. But you have to make sure it's on her initiative and not yours.
The dorm environment would do you good because it should be easy to make friends and they always have a lot of activities going on to keep you busy. If that's not enough, try taking up a sport like karate or something. That not only takes up time and distracts you from life's problems, it also helps build character which will help a lot later on. It doesn't have to be karate. If you're not that athletic, then even something like chess would be good.
Anybody tell me How I can cope with this?
I had an experience today that made me reevaluate the things that really matter in my life, and i realized I am afraid of losing my ex. Makes no sense right? Well me and my ex had a bitter breakup about 6 months ago and have not contacted each other because he is extremely mad at me, and i have gave in to my ego plenty times trying to get things right. And i have been great ever since i though i let it go. I realized if he died tomorrow i would probably go into depression because we were friends for 4 years and bf and gf for 3 years we were best friends and today i balled in my car because i just dont want to leave this earth or him leave this earth angry its nonsense life is too short. I just wish i could call him but he wont answer. Its no use how can i get this out of my mind?Anybody tell me How I can cope with this?
it may take him more time to get over the breakup...the best thing you can do is try to find another bf . at some point in the future maybe your ex will allow you to chat with him a bit if just to clear the airbrown hair trojan
it may take him more time to get over the breakup...the best thing you can do is try to find another bf . at some point in the future maybe your ex will allow you to chat with him a bit if just to clear the air
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