Going through a major breakup..?

ok my boyfriend of 6 months and I broke up. i dont know what to do, 16.. hes 18. yesterday he ended it because he said we fight to much . and said hes done for good, we've broken up before, but not like this, he got his older sister to text me saying never to contact him ever again and that he said he's done with me for good.i was so upset especially yesterday, i could not stop crying. I feel like i have no one anymore. i just want him back so bad.





the relationship wasnt the best, in a previous post, i had asked advice on what to do, and about the things he does.. and everyone who answered told me i need to get out before its too late. and to get a restraining order. I fell so hard for him and got in too close. he made me promises saying he would never break my heart and id be his forever. i know the love was real..we'd cry together and talk about alot. I dont know what to do, i stayed home from school today because i couldnt take seeing him, i would just break down and cry. yesterday i tried calling him, no answer. i texted him and told him i just needed to talk about things and he told me we had nothing else to say to me.


how do i cope? and what can i do.Going through a major breakup..?
i been through what u been through. my boyfriend and i was together for like 6 months also. we argue sometimes but we always made up and we talked everything out one night. that was on a friday night we talked. but later on i went to school on monday morning and checked his mail and found out he was talking to his ex that sunday night and i got really upset because i loved him so much. i got him to pick me up from school . and i told him i saw and then he started bringing up how my ex wouldnt leave me alone which was true but i cant help it . its not like i didnt try to tell my ex to leave me alone. but my ex wouldnt listen. later on i started miss my boyfriend. and i still want to be with him even though i knew that i should leave him alone but it got to hard to do that. so i try to keep callin and text him but he ignored me. or he would tell me that we should keep some space for awhile. so i decided to leave him alone for awhile. so i decided to talk to other people. then later on my boyfriend or ex in this case started emailing me and callin me .so i told him im seeing other people or say i have friends as guys to hang out with. then he started acting jealous and then later kept asking me out. then eventually we got back together and everything is perfect now. we've been talkin for a year now. but what i learn is that a guy pays more attention to you if you leave him alone for awhile cause he be wandering to himself why havent you called or text him. which would be shocking to him. and that a guy dont pay attention to you if you always trying to contact him. well let me know how your situation does. email me @ labrit13@yahoo.com if u ever just need to ask a ? or whateverGoing through a major breakup..?
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How to overcome a breakup with boyfriend -yesterday?

We been dating 6 months. We told each other we loved all the time. I found out he's been emotionally cheating on me with his ex girlfriend during the day. Calling her 5-6 day saing they are just ';friends';. Now he finally admitted she misses him and wants him back. But He does not want her back. But.... he broke up with me for going through his phone. Our relatinship wouldnt work anyways because of trust issues. But Im so incredibly hurt and betrayed and empty. I know God and Jesus help me and time heals but this hurts. He just called me to say he wants his stuff bak. How do I cope?How to overcome a breakup with boyfriend -yesterday?
of course your hurt, its only natural. its part of the maturing process, this happens to everyone, just be glad u found him out early on rather than years later.everything happens for a reason although we don't always understand the reason. try talking to your minister, or someone at your church, even a therapist. time does heal, but theres also a grieving process to go through. sure your ego and self worth hurt right now, but its not about u, its about him being a cheater who doesn't know what he wants. he also does want her back, or he would still be with u, its not about your going through his phone like he says.How to overcome a breakup with boyfriend -yesterday?
Well, you were both wrong, him for being in contact like that with his ex, you for snooping. Definitely trust issues there. That's no way to start out.





So...you learn your lesson from this (about snooping), pick yourself up, dust yourself off, give yourself a few weeks or a month to settle down, then get back out there.
By being strong and telling yourself over and over again he is not worth it, he cheated, whichever way you look at it, he is a cheat.


You are worth more than this, have some early nights and the days will pass sooner.


You will get over this, be strong and move on - girl power !!
damn thats gotta hurt. i think u should go with your friends hang out, go clubbin, get ur mind off him, Entertain yourself you know. Bt when u give him his sht back cut it all up burn it, break it etc just for playn wit ur heart =)
one day at a time.. You had trust issues otherwise you would have not been through his phone... and he hasn't gotten over his ex. So take it one day at a time and you will see every day gets better...
well you will find a new boy and he will not cheat on you





dont worry you will get over the creep
find another boyfriend, you'll be laughing about it in a month
hes a loser, u dont need him. get a new bf

Help getting over breakup?

I had been dating my boyfriend for around 10 months. He was my first boyfriend, and the first boy I've ever been in love with. I'm 15 and he's 16. We had sex two or three times, and used to be very close. Today I found out he was talking to one of my friends, telling her he really liked her but was too scared to dump me for her. She told him they had no chance, but he keeps trying.





Obviously, I broke up with him. But I'm still in a lot of pain, and keep wanting to call him. I already ripped up notes, and threw away photos and things he gave me. How else can I cope?Help getting over breakup?
aww sorry!


it takes time, hang out with your other friends, talk to other boys.. keep yourself occupied soon enough you wont even care!


do not call him!! i know its hard very very hard but do not.!!Help getting over breakup?
hey im srrry bout your situation, thatss sad for anyone. But always remember * dont ever qive ANyTHiNG up if theres No commitment. %26amp; if he left you, dont bee too sad about it :: Most likely you were too qood for him *





if he was dumb enouqh to waLk away, be smart enough to let qo *


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Hurting after a breakup...what can I do?

I was in love with this guy and now he is gone. He is moving on with his life. I think he cares about me but it's not love for him (sigh). How do i cope with this? I have been trying to keep really busy but it is not helping. I hurt a lot. What can I do?





oh..i guess I should say that he is moving away indefinitely soon and doesn't want long distance (but he is also not clear about wanting me in his life either). so now he has slowly disappeared even though he is still in town. I hate this...it's like he suddenly died... :-(Hurting after a breakup...what can I do?
Oh gosh, girl, I can't tell you how much I relate!


The absolute love of my life literally went mad from abusing a certain type of drug and he got into this scary mania and accused me of weird things and cursed at me, told me to never contact him again. That was a month ago and I haven't heard from him since. And we talked and saw each other every single day for the past two years. I felt like I didn't even have a heart anymore because it was so broken. I had to move across the country to live with my dad and hope to move forward. I know what you mean like how you feel like he suddenly died.





The thing that I said to myself was: okay, I can't stop loving him and I can't get over him, so I'll just at least become FUNCTIONAL. So that is a good thing for you to do-- just become functional again in life. What helped me the most was watching comedy and things that made me laugh. Seriously. I watched comedy pretty much most of the day for several weeks. It helped SO much.


Next, just further yourself. Go to the gym and know that it's making yourself better, study harder for classes in school/college (if that applies) (or-- even enroll in college!), work harder at your job, go out with friends, go to the movies, shop, go treat yourself to something that you've been wanting for a while. Just do things for yourself. Because it is only you who can help yourself, you know?





This will not get rid of the heartbreak, but while you are doing all these things, time will pass and your pain will decrease and you will at least be able to go through the day without crying. I can't tell you how much I feel for you girl. It is the most painful thing in the world. But I'm getting through it and you can too. It's do-able!





If you need to talk, feel free to email me. Take care and God bless!

Trouble with breakup?

I'm 17 and male and i recently broke up with my gf of 3 months. Now i know at this age i shouldn't have taken things seriousy but i did. We were together and she put me though alot. I'm a very happy person but she isn't. She was really negitive. She used to cut her self and and would threaten to do it when i was on the phone with her. She also threated suicide. I knew this wasnt heathly to any of us but i liked her so much i stayed. I helped her get though 2 deaths and i actually lifted her mood. Than like i said she breaks up with me, 2 days later shes with another guy. I asked her if she left me for him, she says no but its obvious she did because she would not stop talking about him for about a week before she broke up with me. This was the first time in my life i really opened to someone so it hurts so much more that she betrayed me as a person in general. How should i cope with it?Trouble with breakup?
How to cope with breakup ? Tell yourself you deserve better, she is just a piece of ****/fat and ugly, think of something negative about her, tell yourself that you'd be happier with someone else, God has a better plan for you. When guys broke my heart I just thought of something better to do, sure I cried, when I look back now I am so happy I didn't end up with them. If you are a heart breaker it should be easier to cope than the other way around.Trouble with breakup?
The thing you MUST remember is that you are FINE! She is deeply disturbed and you are lucky to be rid of her. Yes, this is easy for me to say because I am not in your shoes but I have lots of experience. Your angels did you a favor. There will be someone better for your, allot less trouble and fun to be with. Give yourself time to grieve for the realationship and then be free of it. Don't take her back, she is sick. Anybody who cuts themselves and threatens suicide needs help, more than you can give. Put that file in the back of your brain and later on - delete it. Bless you dear.
the best way to cope with a break up is to just keep yourself busy and try not to think about it, read, write stories, hang out with friends and family, go to the mall, go bike riding, just do alot of activities and and try to have fun and if you want to you can date other girls and see where it leads you might find a better gf and try to make new friends

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Relationship breakup advice?

So my girlfriend is 21 and I am 20. We have been dating for about 4 months now and I was crazy about her until yesterday (Valentines day) when she told me she though we should end our relationship. We have never had a fight or have argued with each other. I thought we were on the same page. She said she wants to end it because the “flame is no longer lit.” She told me that this is not my fault. She said I did not do or say anything to make her think this way. She said she the flame died about two weeks ago, and that was about the time I noticed she became friends again with her previous boyfriend on Facebook. I though our relationship was going perfect up until now. This has totally caught me off guard. My girlfriend is bi-polar and is on medicine for that, could that be a contributing factor? She says no, but I think otherwise. The past 4 months have been the best 4 months of my life. She has changed my life for the best and has been a major part of both mine and my families lives. I still have feelings for her as I did when we first met, but I feel like she is giving up on me. How do I cope with this? What are your thoughts? What should I do with this relationship? Can I get this girl back that I saved my virginity for and lost it to?Relationship breakup advice?
Just let her go. I know, easier said than done, but that's all you can do. You will have feelings for her for a while, which is natural especially since you were caught off guard and didn't initiate the break up. Things always seem to hurt more when you feel like you had no choice. It's really fresh right now but every day will get easier and you will eventually be able to move on to someone who can reciprocate your affections. Stay strong!Relationship breakup advice?
To be really honest... here's the brutal truth, she's most probably just not over her ex. i m sorry but that's it. i was in her place. whether a girl's bi-polar or not, it's really easy to tell that she's not over her ex.
just hang in there, u will find the right one..there are plenty of girls out there
Being Bipolar and being with someone bipolar, your mood is constantly swinging. However, she couldve started talking to him, and see's that she can have fun, blah blah. Because most relationships can lose the ';flame'; however, you should do things to keep it going, not the same old blah blah thing yknow? Try something new. Talk to her about it, however give her a few days, it may take alot to get her to realize some things, and its your own choice in wether to wait or not.


Good luck
I would like to be able to give you advice on how to get her back, but it isn't that easy. When someone says it's not your fault, it usually means ';You just aren't the one I want to be with, and you can't change my mind.'; She may be going back to her ex, as you suggest - she may feel that there is still a ';flame'; there. If you really care about her, you can try to remain friends with her. Who knows - she may realize one day that you *are* who she wants. Just don't get your hopes up that it will happen that way. And don't allow yourself to get used by her if she is indecisive.





It sucks. And it hurts. But you can't make her have the same feelings for you that you have for her.

The easiest way to get over a breakup...?

My fiancee and i were together for 4 years, engaged for one and a half... i broke it off a week ago, because i knew it was the best thing to do...so i have no question about my decision, but man im starting to get a bit depressed, no phone call at lunch, no kiss goodnight, no hug before work... the usually stuff you think about after a recent breakup...


Im 22 and just starting out again in the single world... i try to keep myself occupied and all my free time i stay busy....


How have you all coped with a relationship loss?The easiest way to get over a breakup...?
No offense intended, but you are SOOO young! Pull out your appt calendar / planner [or get one!] and schedule a nice block of time to thoroughly grieve - three or 4 hours is usually about right, but you could block out an entire day. Stock up on tissues. Close the blinds, pull the curtains and pull out all those little momentos. Make yourself a big cup of hot cocoa or coffee or mulled cider or ... [you get the picture - something that makes you feel good / reminds you of your childhood, even] Go through every little thing and either burn, donate or box up to mail to ';himself.'; Have yourself a nice long cry, maybe write a letter telling him what an idiot he is [DO NOT MAIL] make a quick list [no more than 5 minutes and NO erasing] of everything you want to be, to do or to have. Review the list, recognizing how much of this you could not do, be or have if you were still molding your life around him and his wants / needs / schedule...





When you are done with your mourning [and do try to stick to the timetable] either call a friend / sister or mom and arrange to go out for the rest of the day / evening, or go get a massage -- you can get good basic massage at lower prices by going to a massage school, which includes the bonus of feeling good because you are helping a struggling student to get their necessary practice hours in.





Check your budget - maybe you can join a gym, take some classes, get regular massage or manicure / pedicure...just schedule time in to take care of yourself. Before you know it, you'll be like my cousin: she never has less than 3 adoring males to date, and not one of them expects her to wash their socks, spend the night, or fix dinner.





Take care!The easiest way to get over a breakup...?
Find a hobby that makes you happy and put yourself into that until your heart heals and then find someone to make you happy again.
stay busy keep yourself happy and find someone esle
OK....... first your going to go in to a room and yell........... then get a sad movie, and seat there and cry your eyes out( to the point that it hurt) then your going to say why me, then throw yourself on your bed, then hit sand scream like a little child. then your going to pick yourself up look in to the mirror, and say: I did the right thing, I'll be happier and so will he......... then your going to go out, and have fun!!!! it worked for me!!!!! and sometime go for a walk, to clear your head....... ( At the same time to stay in shape) I really hope this work! It worked for me!!!!!!! ( I had to do it a couple of time) LOL....
if you don't already have a gym membership, get one! Work out, it will make you feel and look better.
Well, the good thing is, you are still young, and you sound intelligent, so chances are, you won't have any trouble finding someone new down the line. For right now, just concentrate on yourself--- doing things you enjoy, and making the best of that time, and also the time you have to spend with family and friends. Before you know it, a year will have passed and you will feel a lot better. Good luck!
Only time could tell... but you know what helped me most?





I talked about it all the time until everyone got borred hearing my story and I too got sick of sharing my story to everyone.





If you are keeping yourself busy, try not to go to the places you use to hang-out in and do the things you love doing. You are just feeding your depression.
A good friend a box of Kleenex and a carton of H盲agen-Dazs.
I've been forcing myself to do things I don't want to...like skipping class...I go anyway...communication with other guys...I force myself to do that too. You are WAY younger than me, so don't give up and please do all of the things these people have told you to do, because they are right...hang out with a friend, eat a ton of bad stuff, go work out (walk at the very least)...who knows...the guy that's going to sweep you off your feet (and make you think about this ex once every millenium) may be out doing something that you would like to get involved in...go meet him and make some new friends too.
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